I have tried almost Every product for cleansing and conditioning as I would guess a lot of the rest of us has. I have very thick, wavy, somewhat coarse hair to past my shoulders, midback. It can get dry and a little wild. I now use WEN and OJON products which are cheapest on QVC.(also available on their website). I use the WEN Fig cleansing conditioner, which leaves your hair silky and soft. I also add OJON Plus treatment to the WEN every other time I wash. It is a purfied palm nut oil which is great for damaged hair, which if you have long hair, the ends always get to. I also use the WEN Six Thirteen cleanser, conditioner as well as the Six Thirteen mist for when you don't want to wash but want your hair to look rejuvenated. Don't be afraid to use any of the Wen products as a "leave in" in small amounts, they make your hair really smooth, easy to brush or comb and leave it shiny too. I hope they work as well for you guys as they do for me.
I use Wen. Good stuff. My hair texture is like yours.