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My best friend is the most non judgmental person I know, however she made a statement today that not only shocked me but made me a little unsure of our friendship. She claimed the reason my relationships fail are because men with long hair have major mental issues and can't be trusted. While it is true the men I have dated lately have certainly not been worth my time I don't believe it has anything to do with hair length. How can someone who has always been so open to other peoples choices and beliefs make such a narrow minded statement?
First I can guarantee that it has nothing to do with long hair. Most of the guys I know have short hair, and a surprisingly large quantity of them are absolutely horrible relationship material. We won't even get into the guys I typically work with... the dregs of the male population I tell ya!
As for your friend, I have no idea why many seemingly non judgmental people suddenly get very judgmental about some things. I have a good friend of mine who is exactly the same only instead of stereotyping long haired men, she stereotypes anyone who is politically conservative. Your friend probably means well and wants the best for you. It sounds to me like she's sort of saying, "Date someone completely different from what you're used to, you never know what you might like." Just in a much less tactful way.
Your friend probably means well and wants the best for you. It sounds to me like she's sort of saying, "Date someone completely different from what you're used to, you never know what you might like." Just in a much less tactful way.
My first and last relationship with a short haired man almost ended with me and my daughter in the morgue and she knows this. My long haired preferences may treat me like garbage lately but none of them have tried to kill me. I think she needs to choose her words better.
You're right. It WAS a narrow minded statement. My wife and I will celebrate our 28th anniversary this August. She is my confidant, lover, helpmate, and best friend in the world. My hair is long enough to graze my belt line and the length of it--or my mental status--doesn't get in the way of any of that.
Have a great evening,
Steve
I think the problem is that longhairs are such a small minority that any strange or jerky behavior is more noticeable. If a short haired guy was rude, or abusive, or cheated on you, she'd just say, "Oh, he's just an asshole." But since the hair is so odd, then it must be the cause.
It's like the "Piratical Global Cooling Effect".
It's merely a case of the logical fallacy known as "cum hoc ergo propter hoc", meaning "with this, therefore because of this". Or in layman's terms, "correlation does not imply causation".
Just date who you like, and remember that physical attraction plays an important role in relationships, even if it sounds shallow to say that.
Because in reality she is an ignorant narrow minded self righteous pontificating know-it-all fool!
J~
In a sense she is right. I do have major mental issues, I have
an extermee aversion to following the 95% of men who have short hair, and yes I abosuletly can't be trusted to go and get a haircut.
I decided back in 1964 I wanted long hair, now 49 years later I
still have long hair. And since I had lots of arguements with
teachers, school administrators, and employes you could definitely
say I have major mental issues and can't be trusted to follow all the short haired sheep in the male population.
For 49 years i've followed by own road, not the road that
every other guy goes.
Hi Jessica,
Well, it's obvious to me that your "non-judgemental" friend is not so after all. I have no patience for people who are intolerant. I truly believe her claims are unfounded and have zero merit. I just don't see the connection of trust and mental issues with long hair. We have plenty of criminals here where I live who have short hair or buzz cuts that I wouldn't trust as far as I could kick them. Been a long time since I have seen a long hair criminal on the news.
May I suggest you leave this "friend" out of your business from this point forward? And also I would suggest you try to pick your future dates more carefully. Of course, hair length should not even be a consideration as to date worthiness. However, I would be willing to bet the longhaired guys are going to be fine for the most part. I wish you success and good fortune with your future dates. Take care.
Ted
correlation is not causation, and there is no statistical evidence for the correlation in the first place.
I'd be asking her where in the world did she ever get that idea from? (Empirical evidence to support her assertion would be most helpful, because her comment is simply unfounded BS!)
Yes, it's true, AND also the following little-known "facts" about long-haired men need to be watched out for: they are all secretly in love with their poodles; they tend to heavily invest all their money overseas, especially in secret government dictatorship missions down in Antarctica; they make bad business decisions re. backing hair care and beauty products that consistently have connections to failed Punk Rock bands; their long hair is responsible for so many gays getting married in the military these days; and last but not least, it's the fault of all long-haired men that mothers the world over are crying and sobbing uncontrollably whenever their sons forget to call or write them on their birthday or on Mother's Day.
I also have a bridge for sale: it's called "The Golden Gate!"
Please send a big fat check of any amount you wish to me, and I'll be happy to to look for the papers of ownership for you!!
- Ken in San Francisco
Hello Ken,
Haha! I love it! It never ceases to amaze me the ignorance of some people. Hope you have a wonderful week my friend!
Ted
hahahahahahha!
Ken---you da man.