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My mom thinks I'm just going thru a phase right now where I want longhair!! Always when we're out in public and somebody we know may mention my hair has gotten longer or something she'll always say; "yeah he going thru a phase right now." She says I'll probably get it cut in a few months or a couple months maybe at the most. I told her I didn't even have longhair yet (not in my eyes at least) and that when I get I'll have it till im 50!!! I have no prob that she thinks it's a phase. I know it's not; I wanted longhair since I was in kindergarten. But always when I ask her if she likes my hair she says yeah and she doesn't act like its a big deal but when were out in public she the first to jump on it when somebody mentions it.
Your hair probably makes your mom expect negative reactions from others, so she reacts to that. Don't sweat it if she's not your biggest supporter. Parents are people too, and can be less than sensitive sometimes. I'm 35 and still get the "Smile and Nod" routine from my parents when they are uncomfortable with some aspect of me. (I think parents see their children as part of themselves, and expect criticism for stuff their kids do as though they did it themselves.)
The important thing is that you stay true to yourself, grow your hair the way it makes you happy, and take the criticism or whatnot from others for what it is: their problem, not yours.
The Rev
Right on, Rev -- I'll be 36 next week. My parents have come to accept the fact that I'm my own person -- long hair or short (NEVER!). It did take a long time, though. I think they (have come to) respect this fact. I get compliments from women that don't even seem like the "type" to like long hair on men. They're probably so used to seeing short hair on guys that they welcome the different look. No, it's not a phase. I feel like it's me; and I would feel very awkward having short hair.
Keep on growing!
My mom is the exact same way. Every time someone mentions it or asks when im getting a hair cut or something she just says dont worry, hes going through a phase. She even keeps asking me if I will cut it just 'for the summer'. What the heck is that supposed to mean, like how long can hair get during 3 seasons. I have no intentions on cutting it and maybe people will soon realise it is my way of life now, and will be for a long time.
If U ask me, its your mom thats going through the phase. Your hair is staying but she is the one thats going to have to get over it. She will (hopefully) get over it sooner or later. Assure her that there are way worse things that you could be doing. Thats what I did.
What's wrong? Well my son is out doing drugs I dont even know where he is most nights & he got some girl pregnant and was arrested for vandalism. What about you? My son wants to grow his hair long! How terrible...
Its not a phase.
From what my brother told me, my mother also thinks that this is just a phase. I'm somewhat surprised, to be honest. I mean, I've wanted long hair for six years now, at least. That's a damn long phase, lol. I guess she'll understand in another six years when I still haven't cut it... hehe.