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...have witnessed something like this:
A long haired male you know of, whether it was someone you know personally or a member of a band you listen to, cut off his hair all of a sudden. To me, this is kind of a heartbreaking moment, despite me not knowing the guy personally. I know, it's their hair and they choose what to do with it, but it's still such a shame considering there is one guy with beautiful long hair less in the world and we are already a very small minority.
I'm very determined to keep my long hair until I take my last breath, but seeing this happening always makes me question it....
The years of growth and maintenance.....it's all gone in 15 minutes. It makes me afraid of the possibility that I will some day cut off my long hair too.
I know I'm not the only one that. Which one of you guys has ever felt the same?
I personally plan to keep my long hair long until the day I die. Right now it six inches from waist length, I fully intend
to keep it long until the day I die. (I wsa going to stick
with waist length, i'm now going to go for terminal length.
In the 80s I had knee length hair, felt it was too long to
take care of. Now i'm considering trying it again after being inspire by some on this board.
The future is always "an open book", a story that has not yet found what the ending will become; so to sweat and stew over it is a waste of time.
You also can never control whatever another person decides to do with their own hair -- it is their hair, not yours; so again, let it go. To get yourself emotionally all worked up over any of these things is a total waste of time.
Example of what I'm talking about:
Back in the 1970s, my youngest brother grew his hair out to ponytail-length. It looked AWESOME on him, including having effortless curls & natural waves to it, and in my opinion made him even more handsome that I ever remember seeing him before... Then one day he cut it back to fairly short. I was heart-broken! To help me understand why he did this, I decided to ask him to explain. He apparently cut it to get a new job he was hoping for; but even more importantly, he found after going short that he actually enjoyed the easier maintenance of the shorter style -- and that's when I realized I could be happy for him.... and I've never again been heart-broken over seeing somebody ELSE cut their hair (well, ALMOST never - LOL)!
When I impulsively cut off my own long hair back in Y2K, I learned a very important lesson in life: "Easy to cut, but hard to grow!" as one fellow long-haired co-worker put it back then.
None of us can control if we ever get diagnosed with some horrific debilitating illness that may leave us bald; get attacked by a bunch of crazed Nazis who hold us down against our will and shave all our hair off, or any other kind of nightmare-type of scenario we can think of to keep ourselves awake and petrified of whatever unknown terror lurks out in the darkness of the night.
But we do have the right to live as fearlessly as we possibly can, and to make our best commitment to things that are important to us (including the commitment to keep our hair long, as much as we humanly have within our own control to do so).
Don't worry about the future or the Great Unknown. Yes, prepare & plan for it as best you know how to right now; but please don't sweat about it -- take a good run on the beach instead!
- Ken in San Francisco
such wisdom ... how & when did you git so wise !!! cheers CEM. ;))
CEM, I'm very flattered, you're all too kind! With "geezerhood" comes wisdom, I guess is the only answer I can think of to give you (LOL)!
- Ken
Are you a writer? A poet? An artist?
I loved this saying and will keep it somewhere.
Thanks for the nice compliment, Dave! In answer to your question: I currently cook for a living; but also have done a lot of gardening / landscaping work in the past, as well as have pursued other vocations during my lifetime... Oddly enough though, I've never done any serious writing, poetry, or artwork (although I did minor in Art during college).
I believe the saying, "The future is an open book" is an old one -- don't know where it comes from though. I remember hearing it (several times) when I was young myself; but other than that, can't recall whether it was first said by anyone famous or just an old-fashioned saying in general. In any case... thanks again for the kind comments, and am very happy to hear you liked what I said!
- Ken
PS - I'm a big fan of your national dance, the Argentine Tango! I took a few classes in it years ago, although never got very proficient in that particular dance (although I did learn American-version Tango slightly more proficiently)... Just thought I'd share that little tidbit of info, as I have a friend who has been to your beautiful country and absolutely LOVED Argentina (as well as she's a very good Tango dancer, unlike me - LOL)!
I know, I already stated that in my previous entry, but it's just that I can't control this feeling. I'm working on it, though.
That was a very good example. It really helped me!
Where I live, that is very unlikely, but still, it terrifies me to even think about it. I see your point, though.
You're absolutely right. Thanks for your input.
At the ripe old age of 58 I still have long hair. I started growing my hair long 1964. I had a lot friends/fellow students/
co-workers who had long hair. I watched in horror as many of them
caved in and cut their hair.
There were also many bands that I was a fan of who had great long hair in the 60s. Many of them finally caved in and cut their hair too.
Ultimately it is their hair and they can do what they want with it.
I on the other hand started growing my hair long in 1964,
and now in 2013 it is still long and hopefully will remain long
until the day I die.
I've thought about this same exact thing recently, not with respect to hair, but just the concept that you can't really force yourself to do/not do something in the future - almost like your future self is a different person.
I'd say with respect to hair, I wouldn't sweat it because if you decide at some point to cut, even if you end up regretting it, at least it's something you chose and wanted to do at the time - and if you do regret it, I'm sure it'd be upsetting but it'll grow back in time.
That's a very good point. I can't control my future self, since I don't know how much I might change over time, but I can't see myself changing so much to the point of where I don't want any long hair.
That's true, but growing your hair out is always easier said than done. At least, I would know how to deal with the awkward stage, though, which I didn't two years ago.
Not true. All you have to do grow your hair is not cut it.
Nature will do the reat as you sit back and watch it grow.
As far as reactions from other people, i've had 49 years of
experience as a long hair so dealing with people is now a peice of
cake.