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I know that a lot of you can grow beards and this probably doesn't happen, but is anyone else ever confused for a girl?
This happens to me every once in a while and just happened the other day at a restaurant. I used to be really self-conscious about it but I'm getting better at letting it roll off my back.
Hapened a few times in my teens. back inthe late 60s. Even after I ahd facial hair. Last time was maybe 71 at a gas station attendant came up (Yes there was a time that service stations not only had real mechanics on duty and "bays' in which to do the work, but they also had attendants who would come to your car and pump gas, wash the windshield and check the tires and oil.) and he asked' Fil it up, ma-am? I turned to him showing my full red moustache and he fell allover himself apologizing. I remember this as he also had "long " hair, for 71, though not so long as mine. Haven't had it happen since. Even with my hair at mid back length today. No such incidents.
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It only happened to me once, many years ago. I think it was at the frozen yogurt shop in Berkeley. I had my back turned. When I turned around, very surprised.
Height can be a factor. At 5'9" tall, I could be mistaken for a girl from the back. If you are 6'3" tall, this is unlikely to happen. (I estimated your height at about 5'8" from you photos.) My beard is so big and bushy that is visible from the back.
Scott
I get it all the time, like you said most guys can grow beards or moustaches to prevent it but I can barely grow any stubble, having soft features doesn't help my case either but as you said I've learned to live with it. Now I take it more as a compliment than anything else.
By the way, your hair is looking amazing!
Thanks! Yours looks really great, too.
I know one other thing that could stop it besides growing a beard. You could pray for a bald spot. But personally, I wouldn't. [grin]
Bill
*shrug* Once or twice a year, always from the back.
I take it as a compliment that I have good hair.
Hi Lucian - 1stly = ur hair is stunning & in perfect condition = WELL DONE !!! - 2ndly - I was asked recently if I was androgynous: ( due to my long, blond hair ) - so, yes, I feel that my long, blond hair feminizes me, somewhat: ( but only in the eyes of some onlookers ) - I've never been directly mistaken for a woman: ( due to my beard ) ... but I agree with the rest = just see it as a compliment, that you have a beautiful head of hair to be proud of ... cheers CEM. :))
Not a girl but a woman yes. Quite amusing and a good opportunity to have a go at them for their stupidity.
That's surely what the others in the thread mean, UK. I can't speak for your side of the pond, but over here, when talking about what sex someone is, the most common words to use are "boy" and "girl", no matter what the person's age. This is true even when people talk about the sex of their dogs.
If someone thought you looked like a female child, they would say "you look like a little girl". I haven't seen any of these guys using the word "little". None of them are reporting that!
Bill
I don't go at them. They almost always apologize and I just reply that is OK and let it roll off my back (past my hair which
is 3/4 of the way down my back.)
I always try to be polite in these cases since i'm often
liable to be back at that store/resteraunt/etc. in the near
future.
Ultimately they mean no harm, they are busy and can't take the time
to observe more than a split second. All these stores and resteraunts are very busy so I attribute the mistake to them
being so busy. (I've worked in stores before so I know how busy then can get especially if they forecast snow the next day.)
You've got gorgeous long hair, and I suspect some of those comments might just be from people who know damned well that you're a guy, but they're simple a bit envious of you and that's their narrow minded way of acting it out verbally. And then again, some people should just be ignored or dismissed because they're just plain idiots. Whichever way it is, don't let it bother you.
Yeah, the "I can't tell if you are a boy or girl" or "You look like a girl" insult. I have ONLY heard this from people who were ugly outside and inside. Usually as some sort of power play type of insult. To which a return along the lines of "I'm glad the pretty women don't have that problem!" (or whatever target audience I thought would most annoy the person.)
I've found that in most cases it happens because the employees
are busy and are only looking for a second. They see the long
hair and assume it is a woman.
It happens to me several times a year. It doesn't helop that i'm only 5'9" and 160 pounds and always wear cut off shorts.
But i'm 59 years old and at the age of 59 I could care less
what others think. I'll wear my hair long and wear the clothes I want.
Most of the time i'm mistaken for a woman from the back, they
usually apologize when they realize their mistake. You'd think
the moustache, hairy legs, and beard stubble would be a dead
give away but no.
Now there was one occasion a few weeks ago where I was mistaken for a woman from the front (which stikes me as strange.)
I take it as a compliment and could care less what others think.
The area of your face covered by hair is not large. Maybe the person just didn't have their glasses on and therefore didn't see that hair.
Bill
That has happened to me by nursing home residents who can't see and /or are confused...
(before the beard)
The only time it happened for me was when I was close to your age. I was walking on Daytona Beach wearing a bikini swim suit around the time of spring break. I could hear a group of guys in a car approaching from behind making drunken sexist comments on the women they were passing. When they saw me (from behind) they thought they hit hormone paydirt! S**T, she isn't wearing a top!!! When they pulled up and saw who it was they were going bananas over, well the reaction was priceless (on my part). They were so upset at getting all horned up over a guy they didn't even sputter out any homophobic comments about my looks. I thought it was funny, and hell maybe even inspired some music lyrics; "Dude looked like a lady... from the back, back". The photo is from close to around the time frame of this event. (Taken April '86 at my parents back yard pool.)
Awesome. I love messing with people like that!
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That is a great way mess with their heads, Paul. I love it.
Scott
You have excellent long blond 7 year head hair. You can be confused for a girl/woman from behind. I know I have mistaken guys with very long head hair from the back when there is no facial hair. I think you should grow a full short, bushy, or long beard to go with your long head hair. It looks like you have a beard shadow on your clean shaven face.
Do you want to grow your head hair as long as it will grow?
It happens to me all the time, even from the front haha .
Last night I was sitting on a bar waiting for some friends who had gone to ask for a couple drinks , so I was alone. A young guy came and asked me if I was alone, when I said "No" he could tell that I wasn't was he was thinking and he said " Ok, i will be right back" . Of course he never went back hahaha.
The strange thing is that this happens to me even on day light, on the bus, on the supermarket, nightclub, bars, street.
I never considered growing a beard because I dont like facial hair - in fact, I dont like body hair either-. So since I am positive on who and what I am, I dont need to do that.
Yup, it happens quite often to me - even though I'm 6'1" - and even from the front in full daylight too. But hey, I don't mind - I love it when people let me go first or hold the door open for me. :)
Like Dave_AR, I don't like facial hair - and my body hair is decidedly minimal anyway. I also dress somewhat androgynously sometimes. But if people can't determine what gender I am, I figure that's THEIR problem, not mine. Maybe they need to get their eyesight checked out!
Damon
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I interpret the "confusion for a girl" as a compliment for that gorgeous head of hair, Lucian!
- Oren
consider this a part of having long hair, and be glad that your hair is long enough to be mistaken for a girl.
..........and be glad that you have hair, that you're not bald.
A fake mustache may help