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My best friend took his own life on Thursday and I'm still in total shock. Hair seems so utterly trivial and unimportant to me at the moment. I'd shave all mine off in a nanosecond if that would bring my friend back.
But I do love the social interaction here on MLHH. I love you guys and I just wanted to explain my temporary absence.
Please excuse me if I don't reply to any responses right away.
Damon
Hi Damon,
I am extremely sorry to hear this news! I absolutely agree with you! I would shave mine off also to bring your friend back! But instead I shall continue growing mine in your friend's honor. I also shall keep your dear friend in my thoughts and prayers my friend. Please take care of yourself and know that we are here for you! May your friend always Rest in Peace!
Ted
I'm so sorry to hear this Damon - please accept my sincerest condolences - it pains me to my core, when I hear of humans, not content with all the beauty that abounds, to the point of taking ones own life ... it should not be this way - it's tragic beyond measure ... my thoughts are with you in this time of deep sorrow CEM. :0(
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. May he RIP.
As someone who had a friend take her life in 1984 I would
mention that suicide never makes sense. In 1984 we didn't know
why she took and today all these years later we still don't know
why. It devastates the lives of friends/family/relatives and
these friends/family/relatives never fully understand why it
happened. Sometimes when you look back there are clues that
it was coming but sometimes it's not clear at the time.
Hi Damon,
I'm so sorry to hear of this tragedy. You are in my thoughts.
Jason
Terribly sorry for your loss, Damon. Sincere wishes for peace and healing... we're here for you.
--Val
Hi Damon,
I am deeply sorry for your loss, and you can be assured that you are in my thoughts during this difficult time.
Take care,
David
My condolence. May he rest in peace. Also, take your time. We sure won't forget about you.
Hey Damon, what a shock to hear this terrible news especially knowing you seemed to be enjoying good times from what I recalled in some of your recent posts.However life can throw a curve ball which this certainly has been for you.Take all the time you need to get through this my friend as we'll all still be here for you when ready to break the silence.Keeping the faith......
Mârk
Thank You for sharing this with us Damon, we are all with you during this painful time. You are in my prayers, take care.
The Spaf Man
I'm so sorry for your loss Damon, may he rest in peace.
Bruce
I'm sorry for your loss, Damon. Suicide is devastating to the loved ones left behind.
Chris
I'm very sorry for your loss, hope you feel better soon. ,,, edm
My condolence, I'm just a newbie, but I know too well what you feel at the moment, it's hard to understand the reasons behind it, take as much time as you need and don't forget: somehow, live goes on.
May he rest in peace.
- Christian
Damon,
I am sorry and sad to read your post. My sincere thoughts and emotions are with you.
I have experienced this kind of devastating loss in my life more than once - it is the worst to realize that someone you care about has chosen to take their life - and that somehow we could not help them at this point of need in their lives. All those affected go much further than I am sure the person, your friend, could have realized or comprehended at the time.
I am sorry.
Fitz
Sorry to hear of this, Damon. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I'd give you big hug if you were close by. I have lost a number of close friends over the years - I can empathize.
- Oren
Thank you all so much for all your kind words and thoughts. They mean a lot to me.
My best friend had just graduated from uni last year, he had an awesome g/friend, and everything seemed fine. I can't get my head around why he did it. His Mum is totally devastated.
He left a note but only his Mum and g/friend know what it said. I guess I'll find out in due course.
In the meantime, I keep beating myself up. What if I'd texted him or gone round his house that day? Why didn't I spot the signs? Yeah, I know there's a thousand "what ifs" and I guess it wouldn't have made a difference but I can't help it. I'm just so gutted.
You guys are amazing. Thanks so much for bearing with me and posting such kind thoughts.
Damon
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Very common. Back in the 1980s I a fifteen year old friend
who committed suicide. She was beautiful, smart, had everything
to live for. But she killed herself one day. At the time it made no sense, all these years later it still makes no sense.
Also very common. You can take comfort in the idea that there
was probably nothing you could do. There are folks specially trained to deal with suicidal individuals.
Ultimately the best thing you can do is be there to comfort and
help the family/friends in their time of grief.
One thing I would add to my comments above is in the 1980s we
ran a science fiction convention, (the girl who committed suicide
attended it each year) and after she died we had a local
suicide prvention hot line as oue main charity.
No Damon. You are amazing for being such a caring person and thinking so much of your departed friend. May your friend always rest in Peace and you always remember the great times you had together. I cannot even comprehend the grief level you have now. Be strong my friend!
Ted
