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Here's my update, I really don't know if I'm going through the awkward state or not if someone could tell me i would be grateful.
The thing is, the pressure from my family is getting higher and worse every day, even now my mother is convinced by my father and they keep saying repeatedly that I should cut my hair.
I will not and do not want to give up and the more they say, the more encourages me to continue growing even more, what they didn't know that is so difficult to reach one year and I will not ever want to cut it off, I'm taking slowly, trying to not cause confusion and if I keep at this rate, I'm going to complete 1 ½ year.
On the next post, I will send a picture from the back.
As promised, a pic from how it looks from the back.
Hi Guilherme,
Your hair looks so good here my friend! I love the color and curls! Just wonderful!
Ted
My thoughts are this. If you are earning your own money and the job doesn't care, why should your parents?
Hi Guilherme,
The awkward stage is when your hair is too short to be able to tie back into a ponytail; but "too long" by traditional male haircut standards -- especially when your hair is falling into your eyes a lot, blowing across your face whenever there's a gust of wind, or gets caught in your mouth when trying to eat a sandwich or soup!
What is "awkward" to one person may not necessarily be all that awkward to another guy, though. It's whatever YOU find difficult to deal with. Considering your parents' constant comments for you to get a haircut, I'd say you're already in the awkward stage!
Do you still live at home, under your parent's roof? Or, do you live on your own? That can make a big difference in the amount of grief that you're going to get from your parents. Once you have a job that pays you enough money for you to be out on your own, no matter how humble the place is that you rent, they no longer have any power or influence over nagging you to get a haircut. If you are still in school right now, my advise is for you to focus as much as you can on getting excellent grades, which will eventually get you more earning power once you graduate from school.
Dealing with resistant parents is never easy (I know from my own experience, my dad absolutely HATED long hair when I was young); but getting excellent grades in school might help them lighten up a bit, especially if you still have to live in their house.
Hope my comments have helped!
- Ken in San Francisco, California
I agree with Ken. I would add that you should show your family what a shining member of your family you are by doing as much as you can around the home. It doesn't matter if you are living at home or not. Just dazzle them with charm and effort.
By the way your hair coming along wwonderfully and once you have length, your hair will lay down nicely.
Bruce
Thanks for explaining me what the "Awkward" stage was.
So, I already finished the high school a couple of years ago, but I'm trying to get a job since I finished the High School and because of that, I'm still living with my parents and have no where to run without money to live on my own right now.
The only money I get once in a while, is when I do some computer repair in my town, but not much, and I get almost 90% of my day in the other house below the house of my parents, this is where my store works and my office, so I have a certain "independence" to pay the bills around here, water bill, electricity, telephone, taxes to the government and unfortunately I can't move to this house, because of being an establishment where I work and this will cause problems with the government here.
To give you an idea, I had to take my driver's license concealed to my father and still he doesn't know i got my driver's license, even paying with my own money that I saved, he said I should have the car first and then take the driver's license, which makes no sense, since you can be caught anytime without a driver's license, losing the car and still be fined for it, what is perhaps a source of pride for many parents, for my father isn't unfortunately.
Once I get a job and make some money, I intend to move out of here as fast as possible, when I had the money in hand on account of the profits of the store, I was going to move out, but I didn't go, because unfortunately my mother eventually entered into a deep depression because of it, and was crying almost every day, I ended up staying with pity for her and I didn't moved out and I ended up spending all my money investing in my store that ended up not having any feedback, since that many customers have passed to the store from another guy on the other street, which eventually opened an envious to compete with me and managed to get all my clients to him.
Life is always a bit more complex than it first appears from the outside, isn't it? It sounds like you are moving in the right direction, though. Sometimes parents don't always want to see their children gaining more & more independence from them, even after they are fully grown.
Just hang in there -- and also as Bruce suggested, whatever you can do around the house to be helpful towards your parents in the meantime, that extra kindness will go a long way. Eventually you'll find a good job and be able to afford to move out on your own.
You were very wise to get your diver's license, that was a smart decision! That's rather odd that your dad would suggest the exact opposite of what makes sense to me; but here again, he might be trying to stop the inevitable.
My best to you!!
- Ken in San Francisco
It looks good, I think long curly here on a man be it a 'fro or whatever looks good.
Don't let your parents get you down, your hair, your life.
Hi Guilherme,
First of all, I think you are a very handsome guy! And your hair is just lovely! I really can't add much to what the other guys said here. I only can hope that you keep growing your beautiful hair! Please don't and you will be very happy with the results my friend! Thanks so much for posting this nice update! Be well and take care!
Ted
Both pictures show what an incredible head of hair you have - you like it, and that's what counts. Just so you know - I like it, too - it is fantastic. But, I can understand how your parents would hassle you - they have a different perspective - and they think it's their job to tell you what to do - it's hard to come out from under their authority and do things your way - My mother has been dead for several years and she still controls some of my behavior! Be strong and stay with it - soon it will be awesome to tie it back when you want or let it go with the flow - and I believe it will flow nicely!
Tried to mention the other day that Brazil has a long haired soccer player named David Luiz, which was intended to show that there are successful men in Brazil with long hair. However, after the teams performance the other day, you father is probably convinced that the team played poorly because of his hair.
Hahaha, i have no doubt about it, even though my father is not one of those who is passionate about soccer as the majority here, that even commited suicides and burned 34 buses because of Brazil losing the Cup.
The thing is, the Brazilian team played poorly since the Croatia match, i said it to my colleagues, if the Brazilian Team would continue at that pace, they will not even make to the quarter-finals like this, I don't even know how they reached the semi finals.
But still I have no doubt about it that you said that my father might be thinking of this, hahaha. He must have thought, "if he had cut his hair, Brazil would not played poorly" hahaha. I think, in his mind, if he could, he would shave the hair of everyone.
I looked up the players on the German team and none have long hair (a few have slightly longer hair then what your father might view as an acceptable length), then I looked up the players on the Argentinian team and there was MartÃn Demichelis. Go Argentina!
Guilherme! Your hair is incredible. I don't know how your define awkward...but I would say you are past that. It is so cool. Can't wait to see how it looks when it's even longer.
Bummer about your parents. Give them some time. They will come around when they see that you are still the same guy you always were, just with longer hair.
Hello there....you have a great head of hair...
I hope you are able to keep it growing!
Take Care.... and thanks for posting!
The Spaf Man