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A few members have been posting about compliments in general and I feel like I wanted to mention the compliments I received while I stayed in NYC a few weeks ago.
What surprises me the most is that everyone says "Newyorkers dont make eye contact" or "Newyorkers are not surprised by anything or anyone, they have seen it all!".
Well, these two situations I lived in Manhattan's streets with random people:
Number 1:
I was taking a few pictures with a friend in Times Square when suddenly I see one of those people who dress up as Disney characters. This one was a person dressed as a smurf , came to me and said in a very funny tone of voice "I like your haaaaaiiiir" . She (or he? I couldnt tell because of the custome) really made me laugh because I had never thought receiving a compliment from a SMURF!!
Number 2:
While window-shopping on 5th Avenue I hear a guy who says to me "I like your hair". I turned and he started to talk to me. He asked me where I was from, what was I doing in NYC. I told him I was from Argentina and he said I was beautiful, etc. I don't know if he used the hair topic as an excuse to talk to me or if he really meant it.
He was really kind and had a 2 minute conversation with me and then apologized for being "rude" and he kept walking.
Receiving compliments is amazing. Whether they are related to your image in general or just about your hair. They make you feel happy and make your day.
Hi Dave,
That is sorta the perception of NYC as people mostly never make eye contact and never speak to strangers.Also the fast paced life in the city seems to reinforce that.Guess you got lucky or maybe they were tourists too!lol.Have to admit I never received accolades from a Smurf. Glad to know the city treated you kindly:) Cheers my friend.
Mârk
They were probably looking for money, of course. When in Rome, we were chatted up by gladiators at the Colosseum and they were hoping tourists would give them money. They didn't approach me that way because they liked my "look", and we talked about hippie and longhair stuff. Friends said they had been hit up for money, though. I left the area feeling they were cool. Others felt they were real pests.
Then there was that time when we were on Times Square with Mark (Hairball), and we encountered two of the Smurf's rodent friends, a "Statue of Liberty", and an "Elmo" who we later read had spent a lot of time being such a pain at Fisherman's Wharf that he had been arrested. All were seeking money:
Mice on Times Square
hahaha Thats a possibility !
However, the smurf only said that and did not even talk to me any more.
the guy on 5th Ave was not a smurf and sounded genuine (the fact that he apologized for being rude - which he was not - but sometimes people feel they have been rude because they have spoken to a stranger - but truth is, if more of us spoke small generous and kind words, we might be in better shape in the awful world.)
A few members have been posting about compliments in general and I feel like I wanted to mention the compliments I received while I stayed in NYC a few weeks ago ... Receiving compliments is amazing. Whether they are related to your image in general or just about your hair. They make you feel happy and make your day.
Hi Dave - your recent travel to NYC was infectious & it sure brought a smile to my face & meeting Mârk was an awesome bonus & a wonderful milestone: ( it sure made me wanna be there - so as to join in on the shenanigans ... lol ) ... yes compliments is topical: ( as this site always does have issues that are raised & tangents to those issues that 'float' for a while ... for example 'father-son' relations - 'vicious & vexatious housemates' & now 'compliments, prying family members & sexual orientation' - all making this site unique & wonderful: ( IMHO ) ... I figure they see your light - yes you have beautiful hair - but you have an inner glow too - people see it = it's obvious ! ... for men to feel comfortable to freely give compliments to other men is nice & refreshing ... as fitz. said it can be a hard, cold & cruel world out there & a soft place to fall is important ... males in general can feel battered & that battering is ramping up as times get 'crazier' ... so to be kind & supportive to kindred spirits is key to feeling validated & as you say - feelings of happiness & buoyancy & yes make their day & get them thru. a day, a week, a month ... n'joy your day & week cheers ~:0}~
The way I see it, city people are more like cats, wanting interaction on their terms. When they are doing something, they want to do that thing avoiding distraction.
I know I prefer someone approach me on the street and say "Excuse me, which way to Union Square?" and be ready to listen and comprehend immediately "Go 2 blocks that way, cross Market into Stockton, 2 more blocks on your left"...and I keep walking. I'm not interested in a conversation or discussion or repeating myself. I like giving and receiving "drive-by" comments.