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We've probably all been there sometime
LOL! Thanks for sharing that. You made my morning.
That's why I do my own S&D rather than trusting a hairdresser.
Been there, done that.
That is why I never visit anyone in the hair cutting business.
Yes, we have, but most of us have learned the lesson! Never trust a stylist! On another forum, the question was asked as to whether we were for against capital punishment.
My reply: Against, except salon stylists.
In spite of intermittent pressure from my wife, I have not succumbed. I too will be adopting a home "search and destroy" approach rather than trust my hard-earned locks to someone who only cares about cutting hair for a living. For the time being, my hair keeps on growing and I am immune to the old wives' tales (for example that your hair gets longer if you cut off two inches for every inch you grow!!!).
She seems to be more or less used to my stubbornness.
Anthony
This is exactly what my wife doesn't understand. She has long hair too, but for some reason has never suffered this fate. I certainly have.
Someone ought to do a study about what hair means to men and women. I married in my forties, so perhaps I have been struck more acutely by a woman's attitude to everything.
Fundamentally, if something isn't under her control and conformed to her will and taste, it is only fit to be despised. I found a very important theme in Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance - the contrast between the romantic and the classical personality. A romantic is more respectful of nature and letting things go their own way. A classicist wants to organise everything and rationalise. A woman can't deal with natural hair (even assuming it's clean and healthy): it has to be styled, coloured and "gardened" like a 17th century French garden.
Most women seem to be convinced that a head of hair is an embellishment of feminine beauty. For a man to have long hair, for them is to "steal" something that belongs to them. Also, the way most of us longhair men go about things is much more "natural" - washing, conditioning and grooming - but generally little in the way of styling or colouring.
For a man, it is more part of his inner "romantic" identity and refusal to be controlled and micro-managed. The "classical" man has short hair. Am I stereotyping too much?
Anthony
Hey Anthony – I think you are generalizing, but there is often some truth in generalizations. You would know much more about women than me, at least as far as intimate relationships go. I can certainly identify with your comments about long hair being part of an inner romantic identity and refusal to be controlled and micro-managed. I think that is part of my recent motivation to let my hair grow long again, as I will soon be retiring and will no longer have to answer to anyone, except perhaps my husband, but that is a story for another day.
-Marx
Depends on the stylist! This has happened to me. But now I go to a dude with waist length hair, and he is very careful to just trim the split ends off. Not every stylist is crazy.