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Hi, everyone. I haven't posted in a while mostly because my hair has basically been the same length for a year. The ends were a mess after a couple of summers in the sun, swimming in rivers and biking, so I had a series of trims. I'm taking better care of it now, so hopefully it'll grow a few more inches.
Anyway. I've had some negative feedback lately. Mostly from one particular friend who seems obsessed with convincing me to cut my hair. She shows me "inspiration" photos of short hair and recently, when I had my hair up, she smiled big, then frowned when she realized it wasn't actually short, just up. She actually said, "Oh, I thought you cut your hair and I got excited." I'm not hanging out with her anymore.
I don't need the negativity, you know? It's so invasive. I'll never cut my hair short again, but it makes me feel bad. Why do people care so much, what other people do with their hair? Why can't they just be happy their friends are happy? I honestly don't get it.
Not sure why this keeps happening. I'll try one more time. If anyone can erase the upside down photos, I would appreciate it. Thanks!
Insecure people want control, since they have none in their own lives. They need to feel like a clone and everyone around them needs to be the same. They can't stand to be individuals who stand up on their own, they always feel threatened. Believe me, If suddenly Long hair on men was the norm for 90 percent of the male population, she would bug you to grow it out. I Never make comments about anyone else's appearance, Not about what they wear, their makeup, their weight, clothes, NOTHING. It is their way of being themselves. It truly is None of my business. If I just can't stand being around them, I am not around them.
In accordance with that, I do NOT tolerate Any negative comments on how I appear or live. I ask nothing and owe nothing. I just try to be a good person. So Step up and Tell Her to butt out! IT is none of her damn business. Period.
Further, Ask her if since she feels so comfortable and entitled to criticize and hurt people with her opinions, as she is so perfect, does she also allow You to critique her in every aspect? I doubt it.
Anyone who is like this with me has shown their true nature, one I have no use for. I cut them loose, no matter who they are. They do not wish me to be happy, they only want control.
You and I feel exactly the same SJ. I don't tell anyone what to do. You're right, it is about control.
I've stopped talking to many a former friend and family member over the insistence that I cut my hair. You're absolutely right that that kind of unwarranted commentary about your own hair is negative and not needed or wanted. Sometimes a change reveals who are your actual friends and who are idiots you need not associate with.