Hello gents.
I've been lurking a while and wanted to make a short introduction.
I'm someone who's always had short back n sides, obsessed about looking 'sharp' before and after a number of years in the (British) military.
Almost six months ago I decided to just stop. Starting at a very short SB&S (around 1/2 an inch difference between top and sides), it is now approaching my shirt collar.
I know it's only around 3.5 inches but it looks very long
I haven't added a photograph as it doesn't feel long enough to share yet, I want to leave it at least a year.
I am enjoying growing my hair more and more, at the moment I feel like I never want to cut it again.
To cut it again would feel like a return to my former self, who always did what was expected.
I'm not entirely sure if this is silly, or not.
And I also don't know how much of this is coincidental with my own 'spiritual development', but I feel different. I feel like I accept myself totally, like I don't give a cr4p what anyone else thinks, and because of this I feel more confident, dare I say, more sensual. Basically, more able to be my full, true self.
From all I have read about men growing their hair out, I can't help but feel it is strongly related.
I reached the point where I don't want to ever cut my hair again. Why? Because why would I? Why would I alter my natural appearance, and not be in the way God, Nature, or whomever intended?
Also having long hair is a reminder that I never again want to enter the corporate world. I did six years and have had my fill. I'd rather be a humble carpenter (not saying I am anything like Jesus).
I notice so many men trapped in "must be acceptable" mode and laugh (at myself), because I used to be like that. For most of my life, actually.
And it feels damn good not to be like that any more.
Cheers to my longer-haired brothers
They all said it: Oscar Wilde, Quentin Crisp, any number of us "boomers" from the 1960's - "Just be yourself". Declare your independence, live your life, respect others and their rights. Most of us have grown our hair for the same reason - a symbol of freedom and nobility of spirit.
Always the same advice, don't cut your hair, except for snipping off the odd split end. If you are tempted to cut your hair, think about it for 2 weeks before coming to a decision.
Good luck. You will get flak, criticism and mockery from other people - and that is a part of your journey.
Well said!
Darrin
Hi mrzen,
even though you've been lurking: welcome to the board! :) It is interesting to read what your thoughts are. I agree with the spiritual idea. Growing or having long hair makes me feel more connected.
Keep it growing!
Phil