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Hey guys,
For those of you that don't know me, I'm a pretty young guy, having been born in 2001 so I'm only 18. A lot of you are much older so I wanted to ask some advice from you- how has long hair affected your dating life? I personally have wanted long hair since a very young age and I'm very attached to it, so I would never cut it. That being said, I am starting to worry that my hair is affecting my dating life as I'm never really able to see anyone at this point. I will attach a picture of me/my hair in case that would help, but I guess it does make me look very feminine(I'm ok with that, but I wish it wouldn't affect my dating life). Any advice for how I can deal with that? I understand that where I live would also affect my luck dating, as different regions have different preferences(I live in College Station, Texas).
Thanks :)
There will always be a large number of people put off by anyone different from the cookie cutter norm. So the bad news is, yes, there may be fewer women who find you appealing because you have long hair. The good news, though, is that those who do like long hair are often rather passionate about and like it a lot.
Anyway, you are a good looking guy and should have no obstacle with women in the looks department. Most all women respect a guy who is true to himself rather than trying to fit someone else's standards. You look fine, so for it, dude.
Thank you :) I just haven't found any who are into the look, but I certainly hope I will soon. Your compliments certainly helped. I will accept that it just takes longer for me than for conventional short-haired guys.
I started growing my hair long in 1964, I've now been married for 32+ years, so having long hair hasn't affected my love life.
I would mention that around here i'm seeing alot more guys growing their hair longer (even older guys.) On the other hand i'm also noticing a alot of women are going for shorter hair.
As I go through the day i'll typically see many women with hair that is shorter than mine. (My hair right now is breast nipple length). There are also a number of women who now have hair that is buzzed.
As far as being mistaken for a woman, yeah it comes with the territory. From behind i've been mistaken for a woman especially where i'm often wearing cut off shorts and have long hair. Having a moustace helps to clarify things from the front.
Now that i'm 65 years old I flatly refuse to cut my hair.
My first longhair journey was when I was your age and went off to college back in the early 90s. Longhair was in then and I had always had longhair in the 80s but never had it long enough for a ponytail till I got away from my parents and went to college. Being mistaken for a girl from the back happened when I was 16 but then I started getting into weight lifting. Once I bulked up and let my facial hair grow nobody dared call me a girl.
Marty
Sadly, I can't grow any facial hair :(
Can u lift weights? Weight lifting helps boost a man's testosterone and that then helps grow facial hair. The larger muscles like legs, upper back and chest will make the most testosterone. I've heard exercise also helps the hair on the head grow.
Marty
In all seriousness, I would worry more about doing you than worrying about whether women find long hair on men appealing. What I mean by that is define who you are, and the right kind of women will find you. Many young women are not looking for cookie cutter any more and the definition of cookie cutter is changing.
Don't sweat it too much. Maybe date Native American women or try to do so. Long hair on a man says manliness and confidence. I feel more like a man when my hair is long. I pay attention to how I look and keep kempt better. I do not do this with short hair. I just wash and go. If other guys react negatively to your longer hair, they probably are not comfortable with themselves and cannot at this time see you as anything but a threat. This means they will react in ways to denigrate you in front of each other and in front of women. Hang in there. Long hair is a great and beneficial filter to find the right women to marry who are not basal. It also filters out the men who do not need to be your friends.
Long hair on a man can indicate that he is more sensitive in some ways than other men. 20% of the male population are what is known today as Highly Sensitive People. I am one of them. Men with longer hair tend to be more sensitive I think than the general population. Native American men are frequently misunderstood as "gay" if they have long hair and are sensitive by white men and women, as well as black men and women. This is not the case however. In the history of the Americas, our native american cultures have historically valued sensitive men and have taught us men how to be sensitive without taking a woman's place in society. Europeans seem to have not done this too well. They seem to have taken Christianity and warped it to suite their needs. In any case, the aforementioned populations seem to not have as many men and women who are comfortable with sensitive men. Native American women are comfortable with sensitive men. Sensitive men in native american cultures tend to highly masculine and tend to be warriors when needed, so they are not "soft" in the white sense of being soft.
You seem like a highly sensitive man. Congratulations on being you. I do not mean this in a snarky way at all, just learning to accept who you are and how your brain is wired is a big accomplishment. Being a Highly Sensitive Person is how you are wired according to present understanding of the brain. I know that people from the Sub-Continent seem to value sensitive men highly in many of their cultures. I see this as no problem. I appreciate it in fact.
I need to go at the moment, but what I will say in closing is, to the best of your ability ignore the bullies, because even adults can be bullies. Report any threats, bullying or sexual harassment to Campus Security and go above the low level Campus Security personnel if you feel that they are not responding adequately or correctly to your complaints. Who knows, a campus-wide discussion on sensitive men and culture may start and it may lead to an improvement in campus relationships across the board, not just romantic relationships.
Be well.
Hey man,
I guess you're right, just being me is the best way to feel out who's into me :) Maybe I will take your advice and try to date some native american women, that doesn't seem like a bad idea.If you're right that it is a great filter, that's awesome. And yes i'm really sensitive, I hope that's a plus. :) Thanks for the advice, you're an awesome guy.
Be well :)
Confidence will help you more in your dating life than the length of your hair.
