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I've been growing my hair out for 4 years now. I love it but my wife hates it. Have you guys experienced similar problems? I've also been looking for new hair care products can you recommend any?
P.S. This was a picture from my last business head shot.
It appears my photo did not go through so here you go
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I think it can be a test of her love for you rather than for an extension of her ego, if that is her personality. Women can be very sexist! Keep your hair and don't give in to demands for "conformity". Good luck.
I have dry white hair at 3/4 back terminal length, so I have a suitable shampoo and conditioner. I have also had to treat my scalp at the back of my head for psoriasis. But we are all different. Don't wash your hair too often if you can avoid it. During the hot season, you can always rinse in cold water without shampoo between the shampoo washes.
I haven't sent in an update for a while. I'll have to see to that.
Anthony
My rabbi once told me something very profound, I think in response to some complaint I had about my wife. He said: "Women are not to understand; they're to accept."
Okay, now that's you've finished laughing, remember John Gray's book that resonated so deeply with some many readers: 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.' My wife and I both read it, and Gray's humorous thesis - that men and women think and communicate so differently that it's as if we come from different planets - certainly resonated with us.
So, now that I've told you to forget ever understanding women's attitudes regarding long hair on men, let me try to explain it... :-) Well, I'll offer some conjecture, anyway. In recent generations, men's and women's roles, once so sharply differentiated, have become so muddled that much of the human race - women AND men - cling to male-female differences that are mostly superficial. Hair is certainly one of those. As has been pointed out on this hyperboard from time to time, in bygone eras long hair on men was associated with nobility, with power. No longer. The last time I heard a woman express appreciation for a long-haired man, was years ago when to couple of women friends were riding in the back seat of my car on a road trip and going through my Compact Discs looking for music to put on. One of them handed me a Yanni disc and said "Let's listen to the beautiful man." (But I didn't know whether she meant that seriously or ironically.)
My wife and I have been married 28 years. When I met her, I was recently discharged from the Navy, so my hair was fairly short. In the first years of our marriage I was a student, but I was in the Air Force reserve so I didn't grow my hair out too long between tours of duty. After studying five years, I returned to active duty for the next 12 years and my hair was, therefore, short. I retired from the USAF 12 years ago and began to let my hair grow. In the ensuring years, I've worn it at various lengths, sometimes cutting or trimming or styling, but it's always been long. (Right now, it's mid-back length.) My wife doesn't like it at all, but in that I've never deigned to try to influence her hairstyles. Over the years, she's worn hers at various lengths, but in general she prefers chin-length or shorter now that we're both in our 60's. She, on the other hand, has no problem telling me periodically that I should cut my hair short.
I guess I'm rambling, because I don't have a real answer for you although I wish I did.
As to product, I have grown to like Paul Mitchell products. I like their Tea Tree shampoo and conditioner, and Tea Tree styling paste which I use only occasionally. I do use a dandruff shampoo now and then when my scalp gets itchy, but when I do, I'll do the second shampoo with the Tea Tree because I like the way it smells. Occasionally, I will use Paul Mitchell-The Conditioner as a leave-in treatment.
I hope this helps! I'm sure your hair looks fantastic; here's hoping you figure out how to post a photo so we can see it! All the best...
Don
When starting out in a brand new relationship (like engaged to be married, for example), it's easier to make things very clear: "Either you accept me as I am and want to be -- or we need to end this relationship."
However, if you've been married to the same person for a long time, -- and she/he first knew you as a short-haired person -- then it's understandable that this conflict might be a bit more challenging to work out. Still, you can keep this thought in mind: she is talking about YOUR hair! You always have the right to do as you please with the hair on your own head, which is attached to your own body. Period.
The "down" side to above way of thinking, however, is that she might want to leave you.
Only YOU can make these kind of difficult decisions. I know what I would do; but, I'm not married to your wife!
I vote for keeping your hair as long as you wish it to be; but again, I'm not standing in your shoes.
- Ken in "lib-tard" San Francisco, California
I would keep my long hair. Once you go down that road what will you need to change about yourself next? I personally would not cut my hair for a woman or a job.
Darrin
