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I'm a college Sophomore and I'm sick and tire of my parents telling me to cut my hair. I've grown it for 2 years now and it's couple of inches past my shoulders.
I don't even live with my parents anymore but whenever I talk to them on the phone they always ask me to cut it. When I come home for the holidays I always feel very uncomfortable around them. (and all my relatives too)
SO what should I do? I'd really appreciate some stories from you guys
Thanks!
Hey Ben!
Boy, do I know what you're going through. I'm 31 and my parents STILL want me to get a hair cut. It's not easy man. That one comment would put me in the worst mood. It's almost as if they simply didn;t care what my request was (to not bring it up again) and they plowed on through with their beggings.
Things may change when you get out of college and get a job (which brings up an entirely new subject). They were and still are always scared it will hinder me from getting THE job. But the way I feel about it is if a prospective employer wants me, then take me as I am, not as they want me to be.
If you've grown the hair because that's what you like, then keep it. If you wanted to say something or make a statement of some kind, then mabe it won;t be so hard to part with it. I have long hair because thats what I like. . . never wanted to "say" anything with it or make a "statement" of any kind. I just like it that way. . .plus I've always been a shoe in to play "Jesus" at any local churches!
From longhair to another, keep up the good growth!
Later!
Mark
I am a lucky guy. My mom likes long hair and she tells everybody that I am growing it long. I know how much time it takes to grow it long. You have put lots of work in your hair to get it that length. And if you like it, it means something for you. So I'd suggest you to explain your parents why you wear it long and what it means to you, how important it ist. You can also tell them why you have started growing it long and how long it took you.
Good luck!
Markus
It's not really the hair--parents often have problems dealing with their children growing up and turning into their own persons. I'll bet this is not the only area of disagreement between you and your family. You are an adult and are entitle to make your own choices about what you look like, and more importantly, who you want to be.
You could always try the distraction technique used by a friend of mine. He got tired of hearing his family complain about his long hair--so he got his nose pierced. His parents didn't complain much about mere long hair after that . . .
yep, i think the distraction method really works. i've been trying to grow my hair long for many years, but kept on having it cut due to all the prodding from my parents. but i've finally decided to grow it out, and when they started to complain, i mentioned that i might get an earring. earring's out, and they arent complaining too much bout the long hair now :)
Let the hair grow long!
Hey man! You are yourself and therefore have you the right to be yourself!
The way of distracting (see below postings) will work! I maded this by wearing a caftan to protect my hair from cutting some years ago!
My long hair does fit to my caftan very well! Better as short hair!
This was considered by my parents too! And from these day on I kept my hair and no asking for cut the hair was come anymore!
Ghenghis Khan II
Hey man! You are yourself and therefore have you the right to be yourself!
The way of distracting (see below postings) will work! I maded this by wearing a caftan to protect my hair from cutting some years ago!
My long hair does fit to my caftan very well! Better as short hair!
This was considered by my parents too! And from these day on I kept my hair and no asking for cut the hair was come anymore!
Ghenghis Khan II
Ghenghis Khan II aka AtW aka Nothafe ...
Gotcha: same spelling mistakes :)
Sorry folks... I just HAD to post this...
You're not right! Who are you?
You are not better!
Ghenghis Khan II
I know exactly how you feel! I have been growing my hair long for over 2 years and before that I kept my hair short(usually crew cuts).My father passed away 5 years ago and he would never allow me to keep my hair long if he was still alive.My mother would like me to get it cut,but she doesn't pressure me to.I usually wear it in a ponytail,but I wear it down a lot too.When relatives see me,some say,"Are you ever going to cut your hair?"I say no,I'm keeping it long.Some accept it,some don't but it's no big deal to me.I just got bored with short hair and let it grow, I always tell them.So they just have to get used it after a while.
I think this is like the eternal role of parents. Mine gave me the same hassle 25 years ago. I beat it, though. The trick it to wear your hair seriously long and looking as good as any woman's hair does. You pass the point of looking like some guy who needs a haircut and your hair becomes part of your identity to people. Althought your parents will be the last to convert.