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I am a gay man with shoulder length hair and I find that most guys out there with long hair are heterosexual. I have read a lot about people thinking just because you have long hair that you are gay. The truth is that most gay guys have short hair and in fact some even look down upon gays with long hair. I was just wondering if there are other gay men out there with long hair. I find I have more woman attracted to me because of my hair than men and I have no problem with it, it is still flattering. I just think that everyone should be themselves regardless of their sexuality and hair style. If you love long hair wear it and wear it proud!!
If it's any consolation, I'm a short-haired gay man who finds long-haired men really attractive. I've been lucky enough to have a few memorable encounters with longhairs, but as you know, you guys are in awfully short supply. Even then, the choice usually boils down to bikers, metal-heads and fashion victims. I'd love to know where to find the secure, open-minded, interesting long-haired gay men who don't automatically rule out a guy who chooses to keep his hair short. Any thoughts?
Hey man.......I agree with ya as well. I have short hair due to the job but at one time was slightly below my collar. That was as long as I could grow it, I guess because of it being blonde and fine in nature. I have ALWAYS had an attraction for guys with longhair. You might say it would be the ultimate fantasy come true to be in a LTR with such a guy. I have not limited myself to just guys with longhair, in fact each of the guys I have had any type of longterm relationship with have all had short hair. Being single again, I find myself continually looking to catch the eye and click with that special guy with longhair. But in DC, the land of "preppydom and starched shirts with red ties", longhaired guys are DEFINITELY far and few inbetween.........sigh..........My 2-cents worth! Bob
Alas, there are a few of us here Bob. I think you'd have no trouble counting us with the fingers on one hand. Its a tough existence, so, please give a nice warm smile the next time you see a "long-haired faggot" walking around D.C.
I'm not in D.C., but I'd do the same if I were. Now if I could only figure out which ones in my area are gay and how to get them to be a little more open-minded about short-haired men! More than most folks, you'd think they'd appreciate the evils of judging people according to their appearance.
Hmmmmmm....I think that's just human nature (unfortunately). But ya know, even though I have my own personal "preferences" when it comes to guys, it seems like each one that I have been in a relationship with is no where near what I thought I preferred. Nevertheless, I still hope for that relationship with someone who incorporates my preferences, but definitely do not limit myself to those who dont.
well i am with a guy with short hair and I have no problem with that. It is the person that is important when it comes to a relationship but at the same time I still find long haired guys so hot. I wish there were more sites out ther for gays with long hair. I also find it hard meeting others with long hair.
Have you checked out the Gay and Bi Longhairs site at http://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/7330/gaylonghair.html? Interesting mix of guys, most of them accessible through links on the site. Worth a shot -- I've swapped mail with a couple friendly fellows.
I've bookmarked a few more sites I've found. Drop me a note if you're interested in the URLs.
I'm a gay guy who likes longer hair on guys but they are pretty hard to find in the gay community. I, myself, have only a medium length,I'm told preppy, haircut though. I'm attracted to guys who have shoulder length hair but not longer. That's even harder to find. I see most longer haired guys have the extremely long hair which I think at some point then becomes feminine. It's either short hair or really long which is a turn off to me. I'd give anything for a normal guy with shoulder length hair that simply acted like a guy.
Your post reminds me that there's always a risk in getting too specific about one's sensual preferences, particularly those, like hair length, that are largely a matter of fashion. I'm grateful that hippiedom is briefly back in style, because it means there are once again more bearded, longhaired men to admire. But inevitably this will pass and then what? (A revival of the 80s? Kill me now.)
It's so easy to miss the person for the persona. Long hair is great, but meaningless on a guy you don't click with.
I miss the 80's. I still have my long hair and so do gay friends of mine. Keep it growin'. Email and i will respond.
Tom
Yes there are. Follow the link for more links to gay longhair links.
Like JB, I am also a gay who who loves other gay men with long hair. (Contrary to what you might think from my previous posts, I am not JUST into collecting hair. If I could find a nice, cute gay guy who likes to kiss, cuddle and let me play with his hair, I'd be just as happy.) However, like JB, I'm also not into the biker/heavy metal look. I'd prefer a guy without facial hair--even better if he has little or no other body hair. If there is anyone out there near Atlanta, 35 or under, drop me a note.
Ken
Hi, is there anyone smooth with long hair around NYC that likes guys with close cut beards
I think guys with long hair are cute; especially if they are blonde. I detest cute guys with shaven heads. What a waste of a cute butt.
You bet! And I know what you mean about the scarcity of longhairs in our community. :-( I have a tough time meeting other longhairs. Since I mainly seek out other longhairs to socialize with, I'm perfectly happy meeting straight longhairs, however they seem to be scarce too. But among gays, I agree, longhairs are even scarcer.
Just curious -- what's wrong with socializing with short-haired gay men?
Nothings wrong with it in my book! I kind of like military guys.
I have always liked longhaired men and I was myself a longhaired man till my miltary sevice .They have me close cliped my hair.I have tried to let them grow again but it takes a lot of time.
I have always liked longhaired men and I was myself a longhaired man till my miltary sevice .They have me close cliped my hair.I have tried to let them grow again but it takes a lot of time.
Ahhhh yes. Gay longhaired guys. They are RARE !
I myself am a gay, longhaired feller. Try finding a longhaired feller in my age group (18-27)...that's really hard to find ! I am 22, so I still get picked on by my folks for having longhair, I am gay but in the closet so that makes things 3 times worse. Oh well....
All I can say on the matter is, hang in there peoples. :-)
Any longhaired fellers that wanna e-mail me, please feel free to do so.
Dittos to your comments. Let's corrospond. I will send my pic if you'd like. Finally found a long haired boyfriend. God's been good to me.
Tom
I've always had a thing for long haired guys--even before I realized I was gay! Not everyone looks best that way, though, and the world is full of good looking guys of all sizes, shapes, hair lengths & descriptions. Good looking guys are fun to look at, but is that what you, or anyone else, should want?
I met a guy in a bar seven years ago. His appearance wasn't all that incredible (neither was mine), and he didn't have long hair--which was what I was looking for at the time. We got to talking, and we didn't seem to have all that much in common, either, but somehow we connected, and here we are still together seven years later, with every intention of staying together for the rest of our lives. He didn't have the looks I wanted, or much money, or much education, but he turned out to have the most important thing in the world--a good heart.
It's fun to look at pretty people, long haired or short haired, but that's no way to choose a lover!
wow man.......well said!!!! and congratulations on the relationship!!!
I have been most disappointed by Bros magazine and Dognut's page. I find that many of the guys look like they are in some way related to Charles Manson or have some kind of substance abuse problem.
Bros is going to publish what the editor likes, but as to Dognut's
page, all gay longhairs are welcome. So list yourself! Supply a photo of yourself that shows you as the kind of longhair you like. Put even more great-looking photos on a web page of your own and have Dognut link it! See, you can do something positive to change things for the better.
Dittos on your comments. Let's email.
Tom D.
Hey Chris....thanks for the post on Bros. Ive been thinking about getting the mag, but after asking the editor if I could review a sample copy and was told no, I had second thoughts. The site you mentioned I have to say, there have been a few that I have sent a note to and have received a 'nice' response. That has been pretty it. Im not sure why they are posting, i.e., just to post their pic on the net, looking to meet someone, looking for penpal.....havent been able to figure that part out. But you cant place them all into one category I think. I agree with Bill that you can make a difference if ya want. The guys that ya see posting are not gonna be model material..if they were, you'd be paying to see them. My 2 cents worth anyway! Bob
Was in Bro's. Not anymore. Let's email. I will talk and exchange pics.
Tom
Was a member of Bro's when Bill Callahan ran it. He was a righteous dude. Now some guy in California runs it. I got a boyfriend now so I quit.
Let's coorospond. Send pic I will return.
Tom
Well, I'm sort of a hippie dude in that I like the hippie look; but I'm a techie and drug-free; hair to my nipples.
I am a long haired gay man with a long haired boyfriend. Let's chat and exchange pics. A few other long haired gay men and myself have made similar observations about gay men and long hair. Let's talk.
Tom
I am a gay man who used to have long hair midway down my back. I really liked having long hair and like long haired men. I found that many other gay men were not very supportive of my long hair. I think that it is just a fashion.
I remember that about 10-15 years ago, it was very fashionable for gay men to have ponytails. It prompted straight men to do the same. Now it is more trendy for gay men to have buzz cuts. Maybe the tide may again turn toward long hair. I prefer men with very long hair, like waist length.
I cut my hair because I am a professional and I was looking for a job. I starting to grow my hair now, maybe to shoulder length.
What do you think? Will long hair ever be trendy again for gay men?
Hi,
Im gay
I'm professional
I'm 60 years old
I have long hair, and I go to a salone once or twice a week and have
Hi,
Im gay
I'm professional
I'm 60 years old
I have long hair, and I go to a salone once or twice a week and have
it set. I leave it full if I want to be casual. If I am working, I pull it back into a pony tail, and then pull the tail up and clip it with a barett. I get positive feed back from everyone who comments, tho I am sure there are those who don't approve. So... You can't please all the people all the time so please yourself.
Jim
Man!!!!!!!! I hope So!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bob
I hope that one day it will be considered fashionable. But if not I think that it is important for us to to individuals. Why look like a carbon copy of everyone else. You have to be yourself...if you are not yourself then you are not genuine. I too find a lot of guys non supportive of long hair in the community but lately I have been meeting more and more who love long hair. Maybe that day will come sooner than we think.
I hope that one day it will be considered fashionable. But if not I think that it is important for us to to individuals. Why look like a carbon copy of everyone else. You have to be yourself...if you are not yourself then you are not genuine. I too find a lot of guys non supportive of long hair in the community but lately I have been meeting more and more who love long hair. Maybe that day will come sooner than we think.
I too find that many people are not supportive. But the most important thing is that we need to be ourselves and if that means not following the trends then that is ok. We can not be happy if we are not ourselves. I have been finding more guys who like long hair these days so maybe that day will come sooner than we think.
I must say that I agree with what you guys are saying about people not being supportive. But the most important thing is that the gay community is based on individuality and if our own personal individuality involves having long hair well so be it. You have to be yourself. I have been meeting more guys lately who love long hair so maybe that day is on its way.
I am a gay man with long curly hair. Let me rephrase that... naturally curly hair and I take great pride in the work that goes into my hair not looking like a birds nest every day. My hair is my strength and other people's weakness. I have found a mate with long hair as well, so fdon't get dicouraged. It will happen soon.
As a gay man with long hair, living in the UK, has been lonely because of the trend to buzzcuts/short hair, not only in gay men here but in all men.
To have found both a website and forum... is unbelievable !
I have in nearly 10 years seen/met VERY few gay men with longhair !
If anyone wishes to mail me :
manfourman@usa.net
Thanks
Chris
I'M GAY TOO AND I THINK LONG HAIR MEN ARE HOT