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I was just wondering, as the other day, I let a girl touch my hair, and she said she liked how soft if felt, and that just made me so happy. But then, that's about the only comment I've heard about it. And then I have a friend, who, when I was with some other friends talking, was giving me advice on how to get girls, and said that either the hair goes, or you're keeping you virginity, which I think he is horribly mistaken about. What do you think of the general female population and how they feel about your long hair? BTW, post some of your females and long hair experiences.
My girlfriend loves my hair. She likes how it gets all over during, er, adult relations (is that censored enough?). She considers long hair a sign of virility, so I do my best to live up to that for her -- as often as necessary.
I've noticed too that some women don't care for long hair, but on the other side of the coin, you get more positive results as well. Something about the boldness of long hair on a man brings out the boldness in women. I find myself being flirted with in a much more aggressive way. Girls just aren't shy with you so much. And even though I'm totally devoted to my girl, I dig the attention.
The Rev
he..he...
And on the rim of that coin...
it is also true that there are some women out there who *gulp* actually, abosultely, positively HATE Longhaired men!
There boyfriends are actually MORE tolerant of the hair
while the girls glare at you with...hmmmmmm...should I say ENVY?
or maybe they see it as 'competition' with their own hair...
...which brings me to...
nevermind, that's another story...
I've seen this question and its variants several times in the past week. Really, I think it boils down simply: some girls like guys with long hair; others do not. On some men, long hair looks good; on others it does not.
There is no one, secret, over-arching magical formula of attracting "girls". To say that, "Yes, women like guys with long hair," is to grossly overgeneralize. Some women are going to look at a guy with long hair and find the look appealing. Others won't.
Likewise, on some men long hair is going to be appealing. On some men, long hair just doesn't work. If a woman normally finds long-haired men attractive but sees a man with a ratted-out coiffure that resembles nothing so much as an explosion in a steel wool factory, chances are you're striking out, kid.
Rather than concern yourself overly with whether your hair is at the "correct" length, perhaps you should consider boosting your self-confidence. I am strictly average-looking, but I have a confident presence, and I have more female attention than I know what to do with (more's the pity, since women don't interest me romantically).
Focus on being a good man; not just nice, but good. Work on being the sort of person who's attractive at any hair-length, and I guarantee that whether you're shaved bald or mopping the floor behind you, women will find you attractive.
Seraphim is right - there is no magic formula for being attractive to women. some like the look of short haired men in business suits, others like a man to look more like Tarzan.
If it is possible to generalise, and it's a dangerous thing to do, most women that I have talked to like men to be caring, and value personality more than looks. Some of them who don't really like on hair on men still find a caring long haired man attractive, and will then do things like touching his hair. The recipient of such attention might then think she likes his hair, whereas in reality she likes the man underneath.
Seems confusing, but it indicates that likes and dislikes are a very complex matter. If asked to describe my ideal woman, I would come up with a description that matches most of the women I find attractive, yet I know other women I find extremely attractive who would only score about 6 out of 10 on my theoretical ideal.
So, grow your hair for yourself, and hope for a partner that at best likes it and at worst doesn't mind it.
Well said!
My experience has been that more women like long hair on men than don't. It seems to give them the illusion that a man with long hair is a "bad boy". This fascinates [most of] them. Besides, I wouldn't want to go out with a woman that requires short hair on a man. This type of woman is very superficial. They want someone that conforms to society -- and appearance [that everyone accepts] -- as a requirement. I've generally gone out with women that had short-haired boyfriends in the past. They like the change. At the very least, they will wonder why you choose to be your own person -- rather than some society clone. Perhaps it's because us long-hairs can THINK for ourselves and don't need anyone to tell us how we should look (etc.). Be yourself -- despite what anyone else thinks. Trust me -- more women are willing to accept it than you think.
I'm a girl, and I love it!
-Erin, resident female lurker
In conjunction with the poll above this thread, do you have long hair yourself?
Yes, I do. (It's curly, and would be close to waist-length if it were straight.)
-Erin, resident female lurker
Thanks! Sounds great.
I wonder if there are other female lurkers there are out there. Why not post a message so we can see how many of you there are, and what you think about this thread.
Hi,
What I believe is that most gurls whether with LONG hair or SHORT hair like men with long hair.
A girl with long hair, deep in her heart LIKES men with long hair but will say senseless stereotype things like "long hair is for gurls" and so on. If not, why would she have long hair herself ?
Most girls with short hair have short hair because they think that long hair is tough to maintain and so they ADMIRE guys with long hair. They admire the patience we express.
That is how I view it.
Tarikh
Ya, comments are just words so don't expect things to go any further. I have long hair but I'm not gettin' any myself. But then I'm also a nice guy and that may have something to do with it as many women seem to go for the biggest jerk they can find...regardless of hair length.
You`re totally right there, mate.
I've noticed that I get more looks from women since I've grown my hair, (the right sort of looks I mean!) At least that's what I tell myself. All academic really, as I'm spoken for (even she's given up asking me to get my hair cut now!)
Cheers! Barry