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Hi there!
I have just given my son a 13th birthday treat of a spiral perm. His hair has been growing for the past seven or so years after the couple of times he went to a men's barber and he (and I) hated the haircuts he gotten. The perm looks lovely and he is really pleased. His hair looks shorter now because of the perm but we both love the look. Actually, my sister and I have been curling and setting his hair since he was three years. He loves the attention and how his hair looks like Mom's and sister Jean's. We waved it with wave clips and pincurls at first as it grew. This old 30's look was well done by sister Jean on his hair. Then, as he got to ten or so, with the extra length we were able to have it styled at the beauty shop. He loved going there (still does) and we started going there about once every five weeks or so for a `double do' session and a trim. The stylist was very encouraging. In between Jean and I always set his hair each week in a softer style that he can wear at school. No one ever thinks that his hair is anything but natural. He is brave enough after the birthday perm to go back to school after holidays with this new look. Do you think there is anything wrong in my encouraging him to have his hair styled in feminine ways? He loves it, we love it and perhaps that is all that matters. Have a great photograph the stylist took of his spiral perm but don't know how to post it with this message. Have a great day from, Alana.
assuming your isp has granted you some space to post a web page; you may post any images you'd like to your site; then return to this wwwboard and enter the url in the appropriate input box below: it'll be a web address... something like: http://www.yourhost.com/~yoursite/hairphoto.jpg....
fill in the hypotheticals with the appropriate names...
you might want to see if it's ok with your son that his picture gets posted... i can't imagine that his classmates don't give him alot of grief about the perms... or he goes to school with the world's most enlightened adolescents. he may not be real comfortable with alot of strangers looking at his picture. browse through the various posts below before following through with posting his photo.
browse through the various posts below before following through with posting his photo.... (i'm referring to the messages on the wwwboard)
So long as he understands that most guys don't get their hair done this way and that you want him to feel free to make his own choices about his hair at any time, then I don't see a problem, particularly if he's pleased with the results. If he were going along with your wishes because he was afraid of angering or disappointing you, that might be a reason to stop encouraging him.
I suppose another question to ask is whether *you* are prepared to see him decide to shave his head! Making a drastic change calculated to have the biggest impact is a teenager's prerogative!
Alana,
If your son is 13, he's already learned what's other kids can do when
you're different. He's also probably started to learn how important
it is to be an individual and wants to explore that. You're the best kind of parent if you support him in exploring his own identity. More parents should be like you. I wish that I had a mother that would have gotten me a birthday spiral perm. I would have been much happier, and had more self respect.
Good Luck,
Chris
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Have a great photograph the stylist took of his spiral perm but don't know how to post it with this message. Have a great day from, Alana.
Hi Alana,
Plaudits to you, sister Jean, and your son for encouraging the great look of a male in well-dressed long hair. How long is your son's hair, by the way, and about how much is trimmed at the hair salon?
OM
Alena- Would you be my mom? Your son is very lucky to have a parent who gives him such attention and love.
All kids have trouble with social acceptance in adolecence, no matter how they look or what they do. Kids must retain a certain degree of personal individuality and character while finding a place in their social enviroment.
Just be sure you're giving the boy an increasing amount of room to make his own choices-- in his appearance and other aspects of his life, as he grows up.
If he enjoys his curls as much as you do, he'll find a way to be accepted.
SORRY.....BUT....THE SAD TRUTH IS ...THIS IS JUST A STORY..........UNTIL WE DO SEE A PIC.....
This sort of thing really cheeses me off. On many boards there is some jerk eager to say "this is not a true story." (I've gotten the same response when posting my own, very true, stories of having my hair rolled by my mother and girlfriend when I was in high school.) Who cares? And who made you the Truth Police for this site?
ahhhh, yes indeed; 'who cares?' i must say that you must or you wouldn't have bothered to respond. your outrage at such arrogance is understandable, but don't allow such narrow-mindedness to get under your skin. people like DAVE will always walk among us. do you expect to change all the 'DAVEs' out there? fat chance trying. part of their reward for such stupidity is cheesing off people like you and me. become centered skandar... and don't expend unnecessary energy servicing the egos of all the DAVEs out there- they will shut up & you will be much happier.
Alana,
There is everything right in teaching your son flexibility and encouraging 8im to be himself, but doing his hair is not "feminine," but an other way of being masculine.
Jim