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I'm a 27 year old male, and live in this plastic, shallow place called california. all the guys here have these short "hip" 90's haircuts, and seem to have lots of attention from women. I have almost waist-length naturally curly hair that I take care of, so it usually looks good. I get compliments from women all the time about my hair, but I just don't seem to have the appeal I used to. I mean, I used to get approached by strange women who would tell me they thought I was attractive, and that they loved my hair. Not any more. I'm not looking for a bunch of attention, really, but it would be nice to get some attention, at least. Besides, none of us are getting any younger. Its bad enough that there is no good forum for adults to meet, let alone that I feel like I'm being passed over for "Ken Dolls".
So, I need opinions from the women on this group. Is rock-star length hair still attractive on men, or has society's idea of what is "cool" ruined the concept of being different?
Thanks.
e
Two things may be going on there Evan, so don't run out and cut your hair just yet.
First, there's a big difference between being 23 and 27. It's not in your looks, but in the attitude of people where the big change comes. Conformity is a big deal for teenagers but not for adults, and as you drift away from your teen years your peers will be less apt to lavish praise on your looks. ;-)
Second, kids are a lot the same everywhere, but adults in a city environment seem to be particularly standoffish. I see longhairs around my home town, San Francisco, but I never seem to meet any. When I get out of town to smaller places I meet them in droves. And the non-longhairs are more open and friendly to this longhaired dude as well. It's almost enough to make a guy want to move. :-)
So your hint that it may be age, and location (an urban area rather than a whole state, though, I'd say) is probably on target. These things apply to everyone, not just longhairs, so a haircut probably wouldn't help.
I'd ask myself the question, "Am I sure that the 'Ken Dolls' aren't actually feeling the same thing at my age that I am?" Maybe it would help to ask some of them your age if you know any, to make sure you are not just seeing greener grass across a fence. Lots of older people lament how they don't feel as socially connected as they did in their college years. What they don't lament is the insecurity that probably was a driving force for everyone at that age to forge those connections....
Bill
Great response!
I don't think that long hair on a guy is a guarantee that women will go bonkers for him but at the same time I think that it is becoming much more acceptable to everyone.
Women in particularily seem to want men with long hair to take care of it if it is going to be worn long and I agree. The answer is for men with long hair to use the services of professional stylists to keep it looking good.
Bill
Well, if women had always preferred short-haired men, then that's the way we would appear through evolution. Same goes for beards.
Of course our ancesters didn't have professional hair stylists and
shampoos, but they had ways to make their hair look neat through
tying and/or braiding. In fact, I suspect that long hair did not
evolve on men (and women) until evolution had provided enough
dexterity to properly care for it and to restrain it when needed.
Short hair comes in vogue when people follow stereotypes rather
than their natural instincts. The conflict is revealed when rules
against long hair are promulgated; many people with short hair
who wear it that way out of conformity are secretly jealous of those who are able to resist conformity and so they can't stand having the
'longhairs' around. So, ladies, follow your instincts rather than
the herd!
Interesting idea. I don't think I agree entirely. Take a look at other animals with long hair. The first ones that come to mind are the musk ox and the orangutan. Musk oxen have hair up to 3 feet long and certainly don't have the dexterity to maintain it.
On a related topic, there was an article in either Science Digest or Scientific American some time ago on hair distribution vs. body shape. Through computer simulation, they found that an animal with a natural horizontal posture (most animals) had maximum sheltering from the sun combined with maximum cooling power by being covered over their entire bodies, whereas a vertical body was more efficient by having hair only on the head. The article was more of an explanation for why people are naked vs. why the hair on our heads is so long. However, I think the subjects are related. It's interesting to note that animals such as horses, zebras, and giraffes have long hair on the tops of their heads/necks as well.
Ok, you asked for it, though I might be too old to really know what a "90's woman" wants! All I can say is that for real women, long hair is still and always has been VERY sexy, VERY attractive and yours is VERY nice! But Evan, have you considered the notion of just what type of woman it is that you're trying to attract? Someone who would pass you over for a "Ken doll? Is that really the kind of girl you want anyway? Maybe you're just looking for love in all the wrong places! If your hair is telling the truth about the inner you, it's just the flag your lady love will need to help her find you.
Something to consider.
Good luck finding miss right!
Dawn
Well Evan
You look fab to me...........and believe me long hair is still alive and thriving down on the South Coast of England, so maybe you ought to move!!
My man has waist length hair and it's THE most sensual feeling in the world to have it draped all over my body whilst we're making love.
So let me assure you the 'Ken Dolls' of this world have as much sex appeal as the 'Barbie' equivalent females. So come on you women in the US.....grab this REAL man and enjoy him!!!!
Cheers from the U.K.!!
English babe.....Love you and your attitude, so right and much more to love on!! Randall
English babe.....Love you and your attitude, so right and much more to love on!! Randall
I live in cal too, so I know what you are talking about, those buzz jobs, and even though I am wildly attracted to men with long hair, something about rubbing those fuzzy heads of closely cut,,, I digress :) They each have different apeal, close cuts are soft to the touch, and neat in aperance. Long hair is silky, and has that wild, natural look. It comes down to sensuality, if you have an immagination there is a lot more you can do with long hair ;)(women take note) Personaly, I am a long haird female, wouldn't cut mine for a mint, and I think you are hot looking. Maybe it's your deoderant ;)
Timbre~
Oh yea,,, I was also a hair dresser back in the day, and some of you may be offended by this remark, but the hair dressing industry is still male domminated,(even though there are more women stylists) and may I add gay males are the majority of high profile stylist. They are the ones working in Hollywood,in broadcasting, and advertising, ect. If short hair is the trend now, don't grab your scizzors yet, things will change.
T~
Personally I think you are way hot. But I have always been attracted to long hair on guys, my husband has hair to his waist. I think a lot of it has to do with music, like in the 80's a lot of popular bands had guys with long hair. I think most women prefer men with short hair (I have no idea why) but there will always be those of us who just love the long locks. It's not a matter of the 80's or 90's or even the 00's, it's personal preference. Don't ever cut your hair!
Hi Amanda, you are an angel. Where are the rest of the women like you?
Keep that hair guy. Wish I were 27 yrs old.
You're certainly right, although no one could say that ALL women don't like men with long hair. However, you could have hair to the floor and, if you give the impression of being a billionaire I guarantee you the babes will be crawling all over you.
This is not an endorsement of such foolishness--only a suggestion that there is more to what women are attracted to than just the length of your hair.
By the way, I'm sure that you get more looks from men than you might imagine :-)
Three words for you: YUM, YUM, and YUM!
I'm a 27 y.o. female who's always had a major fetish for long hair on guys. Strangely, it's not such a fetish when the hair is on women (I'm bisexual). I think it's partly because long hair is a "feminine" feature, according to the rules of society, and men with a feminine or androgynous appearance are more attractive to me (see the above parenthetical). Also, it's rebellious. Not to mention the useful aspects of having a lover with long hair!
I also envy guys with long thick beautiful hair, because my own is very thin and fine, and was such trouble when it was almost waist-length I finally couldn't take it any more and had it chopped off to shoulder-length. Now my guideline is that I'll only date guys whose hair is longer than mine.
I just found this site, it's great! I'll send some pictures soon of my long-haired boys! (They're real pretty *wink*)
~Psyche
Hi-Don't be so down on yourself. If a person carries themselves with confidence(no matter what they look like) people will notice. The photo you posted of yourself is great. You are an attractive man--the hair is beautiful. I hope that along with your looks--you treat women right and with respect(the same that you deserve in return). I think the "short hair" men that you are talking about all look like clones--I really like it when a man looks different from the rest. I am 28 yrs. old and live in Boston where there are a lot of men with long hair and for as long as I have been dating I have always dated men with long hair. It is my fetish--It is sexy to look at, sexy to touch and being intimate with a men with long hair have been the most amazing experiences I have ever had!!!! I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and he has long straight hair down almost to his waist. He is so sexy and is a wonderful person and I couln't have asked for a better partner. I hope he keeps his hair around for a long time, but hair or no hair I love him. Try meeting women who like long hair in different places than you have been going. See live bands, take some music classes, even go to fetish clubs. If that is a little crazy for you try being yourself and stop going for the bitchy women that turn their noses up to people who are not in a BMW and only look for suits.
I wish you luck--remember, when you are not looking is when things start to happen. Peace and have fun, Jeannie
long hair is gutsy to the clones -- and they're just jealous because they're too wimpy to step outside the lines -- it's much safer to stay with the rest -- inside the lines -- BORING -- ugh -- i could go on and on -- i truly believe though that (and i think someone else probably said this) you have to stay true to yourself -- and eventually you'll attract people who are similar
think about this -- if you decided to cut your hair and join the pack imagine some of the boring shallow people that would attract --
p.s. 27 is not old
p.p.s. are you in l.a. -- can't stand that place -- fake people -- a bunch of woman who are looking for money -- puke -- and the traffic sucks
p.p.p.s. what kind of music do you play -- maybe we could swap tapes
Hi Jeannie, Like your attitude. I have brown hair that covers my ears and neck and I like it that way, feels good and flows back very smoth. My style is a corporate look that has grown out for several months. wavy and shiney medium to dark brown. Have had some approving looks from women and I like that, they have long hair also which I like. The short haired women are mean and nasty and repel me, so it looks like I belong with the long hair gang, much nicer people. Long haired folks are nicer, more creative, and much much better lovers (short hairs are just sex maniacs). I am called names by both sides but moreso by the short hairs. The social architecs really are busy disrupting the natural way of life for us and so many get in lock step with the "NEW" way of doing things. Saw a man in his 30's with brown hair to his waist and it was beautiful, well kept also. He was doing what he wanted to, hats off to him. Do not like the 90's women, think she is the worst of the century (and the meanest), Fiminine they are not, just female and misguided, most not all. An old saying " IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, DON'T LOOK AT IT". Would like to have a wife with long flowing hair, would enjoy doing her hair, sounds like a lot of fun and I would like her doing mine. I am fond of nice people and one way to find them is look for the long haired people who are that way because they want to be and because they love it. People who can say "I yam what I yam. Randall
Hi-Don't be so down on yourself. If a person carries themselves with confidence(no matter what they look like) people will notice. The photo you posted of yourself is great. You are an attractive man--the hair is beautiful. I hope that along with your looks--you treat women right and with respect(the same that you deserve in return). I think the "short hair" men that you are talking about all look like clones--I really like it when a man looks different from the rest. I am 28 yrs. old and live in Boston where there are a lot of men with long hair and for as long as I have been dating I have always dated men with long hair. It is my fetish--It is sexy to look at, sexy to touch and being intimate with a men with long hair have been the most amazing experiences I have ever had!!!! I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and he has long straight hair down almost to his waist. He is so sexy and is a wonderful person and I couln't have asked for a better partner. I hope he keeps his hair around for a long time, but hair or no hair I love him. Try meeting women who like long hair in different places than you have been going. See live bands, take some music classes, even go to fetish clubs. If that is a little crazy for you try being yourself and stop going for the bitchy women that turn their noses up to people who are not in a BMW and only look for suits.
I wish you luck--remember, when you are not looking is when things start to happen. Peace and have fun, Jeannie
Hi-Don't be so down on yourself. If a person carries themselves with confidence(no matter what they look like) people will notice. The photo you posted of yourself is great. You are an attractive man--the hair is beautiful. I hope that along with your looks--you treat women right and with respect(the same that you deserve in return). I think the "short hair" men that you are talking about all look like clones--I really like it when a man looks different from the rest. I am 28 yrs. old and live in Boston where there are a lot of men with long hair and for as long as I have been dating I have always dated men with long hair. It is my fetish--It is sexy to look at, sexy to touch and being intimate with a men with long hair have been the most amazing experiences I have ever had!!!! I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and he has long straight hair down almost to his waist. He is so sexy and is a wonderful person and I couln't have asked for a better partner. I hope he keeps his hair around for a long time, but hair or no hair I love him. Try meeting women who like long hair in different places than you have been going. See live bands, take some music classes, even go to fetish clubs. If that is a little crazy for you try being yourself and stop going for the bitchy women that turn their noses up to people who are not in a BMW and only look for suits.
I wish you luck--remember, when you are not looking is when things start to happen. Peace and have fun, Jeannie
Is that you in that pic??
I know if I saw you ANYWHERE my heart would stop dead in my tracks and drool all over the place!
Though I do tend to think you may have something...I know many younger women (pre 80's hair band age) prefer short haired men. But, beleive me!! There are many women our age (I'm 26) that would love to tangle themselves in your lucsious locks!!!!!
Evan,
Your hair is eroticism personified. Fantasy here? You bet!
To hell with Ken and Barbie. They deserve eachother.
I can't believe I'm still seeing new responses to my post four months later! Thanks to all of you who responded, especially those with such flattering remarks!
I still have my hair, and yes, that is me in the photo.
e