new thread
Last night I was downtown, waiting at the intersection for the walk light to come on. When it came on, I started across the street when I heard a faint voice from behind me. Turning, I saw a lady who appeared to be talking to me, but her voice was so soft I couldn't understand what she was saying. I abondoned my light and walked over to her to see what she was saying.
"Is that you hair?" she asked.
"Yes it is," I replied, wondering why I'd abandoned my light for such a stupid question.
"Have you ever cut it?"
"Yes. In 1992 it was only a couple inches long. I've been growing it since then."
"It's beautiful, and it looks like you just brushed it. I bet your girlfriend is jealous. Do you have a girlfriend or a wife?"
"No," I answered, wondering where this conversation was going.
"Will you go out with me then?" Well, I must say that this is the first time I've been asked out because of my hair, especially so directly. I'm not experienced in turning people down, and I don't even remember how I did it. By this time, though, the other walk light had turned on.
"The light is on. Aren't you going to cross the street?" I didn't care which street I crossed, because I needed to cross both of them. However, I figured she wanted this one because she didn't go across the other one.
"No. I'll just stand here and watch you cross." So I did. And then I crossed the other street.
*****************************************************************
Wonderful, Victor. This lady is NOT a trend follower (short hair on
everyone). She is herself, but caring and appreciative. If you have not already done so, you may wish to return her compliment. Imagine the lady's appreciation as a file, and that the next move on your part would be to append to that file.
OM.
A welly, welly, well, Mister Victor,
What a nice lady she was..I would have done the same...you are beautiful...and your hair is lovely...I posted a message for you after you replied to mine...I wish you would have...oh, well...you are busy with this site...keep it up...I have made so many friends because of it...thank-you for creating it, and keep growing that hair!
Krista (RavenFemme)
And I meant to say "I wish you would have written another post for me." Sorry....I am daft....
Uh, hello!! Do you always react that way when a lady gives you a compliment?
Leslie (a lady)
Uh, Leslie!! Lighten up! For god's sake...what crawled down your panties...oh, yeah...nothing...
I will admit that I am relatively clueless when it comes to interpersonal relationships with the opposite sex. Bear in mind, however, that I was in a hurry to get to a movie and turned around to talk with the lady for a while. Since she was waiting at the walk light, I assumed she wanted to cross, if not one direction then the other. I was going to cross with her, but she stayed.
I'm just curious how you think I mishandled the situation.
Who could possibly have imagined that you mishandled the situation?
Based on the situation and conversation described, I assumed that her nonverbal communication must have been very rude, and she must have been very unkempt, and smelled like she hadn't bathed in weeks, and looked like a train wreck, and farted and belched a few timed during the conversation. :-)
I also assumed that your nonverbal communication must have been so very polite as to compensate for your curt replies, and you must have somehow nonverbally recognized her compliment.
But I'm hardly one to talk. I'm totally retarded when it comes to relating to women, aside from Platonically. :-)
I must say, though, I admire her for asking you out. If the average woman is more sophisticated about relationships than the average man, I have to wonder why we still have the unspoken rule that women mustn't ask men out, but rather go through all kinds of crazy hoops to persuade the desired man to ask her out -- to "chase him until he catches her", an epigram long overdue for obsolescence.
8-)
Greg
Oops. The epigram is of course "*He* chased *her* until *she* caught *him*".
8-)
Greg