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I couldn't help but notice the post from "SixString" about his change of "image" and how it has really helped him out in many different ways. I couldn't agree with him more.
I too like cleanliness. The hair "must" be washed & conditioned every day, the teeth "must" be brushed twice a day, my body & my breath "must" smell pleasant to others, the clothes "must" be clean...and clean looking, etc. I work out at the gym three times a week and play tennis at least two times a week to stay in shape and take care of myself. Sure I have my days where the black sweat pants & the comfortable baggy shirt are the dress for that day...but even then, everything on my person is not only clean, but is clean looking.
If you look like a bum, then you'll be treated like a bum! Yes, I know the saying "to each his own", but the reactions received from others are as different as night and day when talking on the subject of appearance. I have never put myself above others & hope I'm not coming across that way, but I just enjoy the "clean" look. I don't mind anyone looking however it is that they wish to look, but for me, personally, I like to be clean & look clean as well.
No, my wife has nothing to do with my appearance at all...I have always been like this. Obviously, she is happy that I like to be & look clean, but then again so do she. My hair did indeed attract her attention the night we met, but she also liked the fact that it was clean and healthy looking.
Yes I have long hair (mid-back), yes I have earrings, yes I have tattoos...but for the most part everyone I come across seems to be fine with all of this for the reason that I portray a clean image to them. I too am a very easy person to get along with and have a great personlality which also makes total strangers more at ease with my long hair. Do you have good manners? Good manners will also help strangers get over the fact that you are a guy and have long hair. Like some of the posts I read in reply to SixString's original post...it's all about the image and especially how you carry yourself! You don't "have" to shop at all of the high dollar stores, you don't "have" to drive a certain type of car, you don't "have" to be in a certain tax bracket, etc. All you have to do is to carry yourself (& your hair) well and take care of yourself as far as your hair & your body go. Like I said earlier, if you look like a bum, then you'll get treated like a bum...and the level of your sexual tastes that you will attract all depends on how you are presenting yourself to the world. If your sexual tastes are below par then go ahead a look below par, but if you want to attract above par sexual partners then you yourself need to look above par...or you can simply be a famous Hollywood Star...whichever is easiest for you.
The only group that I do not care for is the extreme grunge look and the extreme greaser look...most of the time these are one in the same. Us long haired males have a hard enough time getting acceptance without the grunge/greaser types making it that much harder for us...because whether you believe it or not we get lumped in with the grunge/greaser group for the simple reason that since we have long hair then we must be like them. Not true, not true at all.
Again, not to step on any toes, but from most of the posts I read in reply to SixString it sounds like there are alot of you that feel the cleaner you look the better.
So the point of the story is take care of the appearance of your hair (as well as other aspects of your person) and you will find life to be alot easier and alot better for you.
There is another side to it. A girl I knew some years ago was walking with me to collect horses from a paddock. One of the head collars had bird dirt on it (from a hen, I think) so I cleaned the collar with a bit of old hay. She was horrified. "Why didn't you just wipe it clean on your hair like I do?" she asked.
What could I say, but dirty girls like her are fairly rare, and I can never think of her even now without some distaste.
Off topic? Almost, but it proves the point. And I'm off for a shower and wash my hair...
I agree...
Your body & clothes are like a...
WALKING BILLBOARD...
and you usually get what it is you are advertising...
for...
Yes! I couldn't agree more!
Many people group all long-haired men into the same category. It is difficult enough, even without the guys who have long hair just for the sake of long hair. (The ones who never trim and just don't take care of it. The guys where longer hair is more important than nice looking long hair.)
I opine that one can be "clean cut" and still have long, beautiful hair!