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When somebody was ask a personal question and they did NOT want to
answer, they deflected it by replying: "That's not up for discussion"...
I might try using that next time someone decides they are going to ask me negative-
sounding questions about my personal choices for having long hair.
*ARE YOU EVER GOING TO GET YOUR HAIR CUT?
*WHY DO YOU HAVE LONG HAIR?
*DON'T YOU THINK YOU'D LOOK BETTER WITH SHORT HAIR?
*YOU'RE NOT COMING TO MY FUNERAL WITH HAIR THAT LONG!
* etc., etc.
REPLY: My HAIR is NOT up for discussion!
Why bother being polite? The only situation where politeness is nessacery, is perhaps when dealing with an employer, or someone else who has you at their mercy. For everyone else, the "Fsck Off" responce is far better:
ARE YOU EVER GOING TO GET YOUR HAIR CUT?
Are you ever going to fsck off?
WHY DO YOU HAVE LONG HAIR?
Why don't you fsck off?
DON'T YOU THINK YOU'D LOOK BETTER WITH SHORT HAIR?
Don't you think we'd get along better if you were to fsck off?
YOU'RE NOT COMING TO MY FUNERAL WITH HAIR THAT LONG!
Seeing as though you will be dead, i doubt that you will have much say in the matter... But for now, how about you fsck off?
There is much fun to be had, by coming up with inventive ways of giving people the ol' fsck off!. Especially when you want the responce to be reactionary, and so you have a short period of time to muster up something that will sound intelligent, and not lower you to their level :)
...he..he I agree
And so do I! The first thing I think about is telling people to F-off when they try to tell me to wear it short unless it's my dad or employer but If I had enough to retire I'd probably also tell my employer the same thing if he'd bitch about my hair!
Agree with the F**k off principle usually. But there are times when its more insulting than the insult they've just given you and that doesn't feel right either. I pity people who don't have acceptance and tolerance in their lives. Strangers should get the 'F**k off' treatment but for people you see regularly I've found it's more fun to agree with them then ignore them - then, over time, they get the message that their views are worthless ! Another thing I've noticed is that eventually they shift their comments from 'Why don't you get it cut ?' to 'Can you tie it back ?' I ignore it all either way !!
Not stooping to their level is better - particularly if your response is acid without being impolite. The barb may take a while to sink in, but sooner or later it will and is more satisfying than outright abuse.