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I have come to the conclusion that girls do not like long hair on guys. Nobody cept the people that post on here seem to actually like long hair. I could care less what guys think about it, but I want girls to like it. I showed this girl my pic on AIM that goes to school near me. She asked me if my hair was still that long (shoulder length) I told her yes. Her exact quote: "Hon, cut it!" Everybody that sees my pic makes a comment about my hair. And it's never good. This one girl said my looks ok but she thinks I would look better with short hair. That is the exact same thing my mom and everybody else says. I LOVE MY HAIR!!!! I LOOK MUCH BETTER WITH LONG HAIR THAN SHORT HAIR!!!!! SHORT HAIR IS DORKY, BORING, PLAIN! It's not that my hair doesn't look good, it's just nobody seems to like long hair. I see other guys at school that are growing their hair and people tell them to get a haircut and stuff. I tell them that I think their hair looks nice. And I do. I seem to have a tough time realizing that not everybody likes the same thing. I have always loved long hair and I have always wanted long hair. I have always thought long hair was cool, and that everybody else thought that too. But that doesn't seem to be the case. I AM THE ONLY ONE, it seems. My mom says Bono looks better with short hair than he did when it was long, I disagree. The same with other people that she has said looked better with it short, for ex. Test (wrestler). I have yet to have one comment about my hair from a girl. A few guys have said that they like it, but I want the chicks to like it, man! I'm not even finished growing! I plan on having mid-back length hair, it's just to my shoulders now. If they think I need a haircut now, wait till then!
My mother doesn't like mine. I do, however, find that there are women who like long hair on men. One once told me that she likes something to run her fingers through ;-)
Another told me that it makes me different from the humdrum norms - a sign of character and independance.
I choose to believe them :-D
Although long hair is coming back in for men it's still not the norm. Girls are still accustomed to short hair on men. When long hair was in fashion before in the late 60's and early '70's, the men with the longest hair were the 'hip'-est, the ones who got the 'birds' (all other things being equal).
In the early 80's shorter hair was the fashion for young women - page boy like Diana had. That was what men went for in those days but that's changed.
It needs a critical mass of men with longer hair, then we'll be gold-dust!!! Not me personally, perhaps, I'm a bit on the older side!
cheers, Barry
I should think it's fair to say that most men prefer longer hair on women, but that doesn't stop a fair number of women having short hair. It's not really an issue that way round, but it might have been a hundred years ago! Mind you, I didn't like my partner having short hair, although she has it long now. She didn't like my long hair - fair enough, but she's OK about it now.
Cheers, Barry
I know girls who ONLY date guys with long hair! The girls i hang around with in school dont even make my hair an issue, when you find the rite people then they wont be prejudice, they will like you for you, and if you look in the rite places lots of girls look for long hair on men. Just keep searching man!
Some girls like it.. me, for example! And I know I'm not the only one.
-Erin
No, you're not the only one. I'm just an "old" married woman, but I am IMMENSELY attracted to long-haired men!
Well, excuse me but...who's hair is it, anyway???
It's EASY for someone (male or female) to come along and tell you
to "Cut!" something that has been HARD to grow...
Well, the growing part sort of just happened, it's true but...
all that ADJUSTING, HAIR CARE, the AWKWARD PHASE, all the LOOKS and
comments you had to put up with, etc., etc.!
"Hon, CUT IT"? ...well how about...
"Well, Hon, CUT IT OUT!"
It could be that YOUR head specifically isn't good for long hair. My head's that way with baseball caps; I can't wear them and it kinda depressed me for a while. Not everyone's head is good for everything...
I agree. I think alot of people on this board are in denial, it is so obvious that MOST women prefer short hair on men. But if you like it who cares? I've gotten lots of negative comments from girls, none were really rude but most said something along the lines of "you would look so hot with short hair" or something like that. I have gotten a few positive comments from uglier girls (well ugly from MY point of view, mostly "heavy metal/rocker" type girls I guess) but even some of them change their mind when they run their hands through my hair and tell me how "crunchy" or "gross" it feels. So I guess with long hair i'm attracting the wrong crowd but despite all this, if I had nice smooth hair I would honestly not care. Bottom line = most women (and men) love what's in style.... need I say more? And from what I have seen if you post a pic on this board you will get nothing but positive comments. The people on this board are REALLY nice, I've seen people with the ugliest hair get told how good it looks.
Strange world. Where I live, here in Montreal, I have had nothing but positive comments from females. Guys either don’t like it or don’t comment at all. Frankly, I don’t care for the guys’ opinions. Maybe it’s because my look changed dramatically after I got the hairpiece to cover my balding top in Nov 02. I went from being a short haired baldie to mid neck length overnight. See pics.
Your definately one of the people that looks really good with long hair (well it is a hairpiece but still) That also has alot to do with it, some people look great with long hair while some improve dramatically with a haircut.
Thanks for the compliment. I think being small & slim has something to do with it (5”6”-130 lbs-got small bones too). As my real hair grows and takes up more volume (as shown in the pics), the hairpiece will eventually become secondary & cover just the top part. It’ll play second fiddle to my real hair which turning out to be real nice starting to poke out from under the hairpiece. Matter of fact I went back to the hair stylist last week to have the hairpiece trimmed by about an inch & a half, giving my hair more prominence. I’ll be posting progress pics every few months.
I can't understand why you persist with this line of thinking and try to pass it as a universal truth, STT. I just can't agree with this because my experience doesn't support your argument at all.
I persist b/c I think it's rather obvious. This isn't about long hair or short hair looking better, that really depends on who you ask, it's about the fashion industry/media and what is currently popular. You can't possibly say that long hair is more popular than short hair at this moment (and I mean LONG hair) The majority of people tend to follow the more popular trends (it could be a teen shopping at Abercrombie & Fitch or a business man buying the most expensive suit) I doubt you need proof that most people follow popular trends but if you do all you have to do is take a look at the music industry and see who is on top and who isn't. I don't know if you are familiar with the band Iced Earth but I will use Matt as an example b/c he has really long hair to his waist and I'm not a girl but I can say he is not an ugly guy (not out of shape or anything) he is average now take someone that looks like Justin Timberlake (it wouldn't work if it were actually Justin b/c many women would pick him just for the fame/money)Put them side be side and ask women of all ages who is more attractive, who will win? Take a wild guess. Justin has a very popular look (clothes and hair) and popular = majority. This wouldn't make Matt any less of a person it just shows that what's popular... well, it's popular.
I persist b/c I think it's rather obvious. This isn't about long hair or short hair looking better, that really depends on who you ask, it's about the fashion industry/media and what is currently popular. You can't possibly say that long hair is more popular than short hair at this moment (and I mean LONG hair) The majority of people tend to follow the more popular trends (it could be a teen shopping at Abercrombie & Fitch or a business man buying the most expensive suit) I doubt you need proof that most people follow popular trends but if you do all you have to do is take a look at the music industry and see who is on top and who isn't. I don't know if you are familiar with the band Iced Earth but I will use Matt as an example b/c he has really long hair to his waist and I'm not a girl but I can say he is not an ugly guy (not out of shape or anything) he is average now take someone that looks like Justin Timberlake (it wouldn't work if it were actually Justin b/c many women would pick him just for the fame/money)Put them side be side and ask women of all ages who is more attractive, who will win? Take a wild guess. Justin has a very popular look (clothes and hair) and popular = majority. This wouldn't make Matt any less of a person it just shows that what's popular... well, it's popular.
90% of the girls whom I showed my old drivers license photo to (short hair) agree that I look much better with long hair.
...so what if girls don't like long hair.
It really doesn't matter. I'm sure that you are smart enough to know that it's really the small community of women in your current lifestyle that you are taking your conclusions from.
Girls also like pink and lace and makeup and dresses and all kinds of other things that I'll bet you aren't really into for yourself.
Funny how lots of women say they don't like assholes but seem very attracted to them.
Quit worrying about what others think.
Quit worrying about what others think.
Quit worrying about what others think.
Wait until you get out there on your own and start hanging out with people that share your intrests (families and their friends often don't).
Someone brought this up before and I asked him how many girls did he imagine that he would have time to date. Is it that you want every girl/woman you see or don't see to like your hair so much that they feel physically attracted to you? You might find that one or two might just be enough. But finding other people who are compatible with you can take time and patience.
Do you have patience? If you are growing your hair long then you need to have some of that.
AMEN
This reminds me of an argument I had once at my last job a few years back. The office manager there and I got in a slight tiff over me growing my hair out (it was marching towards that funky 'middle' stage then) and I remember her saying, "men weren't meant to have long hair". I remember being taken aback by it and trying to rationalize both her statement and the argument in general. Turns out a year later she was in my cube running her fingers through my then 6 to 7" longer hair all the while ooo'ing and aaa'ing over how soft and nice it was. Funny how that turned out.
I, honestly, think women do like long hair on men if it's kept and if it's not styled/cut in a feminine way.
Woops, hit enter too quickly on that. Anyways, hope you get the point.
B
My wife likes long hair on guys.
I visit the female long hair sites and there have been a few girls who say they like long hair on guys.
Long hair on both men and women are viewed negativly but I do think there is a come back for long hair.
Unfortunately the media world (tv and magazines) has a big influence on how people look. There are long haired people in the media but the majority have short hair.
For example: Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt. Both have had long hair at one time or another and if they cut it some people think they have to do the same just because the famous people did it. Let's just hope more celebrities decide to grow their hair long.
I used to take a lot of flack for my hair. The thing is, I didn't take care of it and it looked and felt awful. Now I take care of it. I don't get an overwhelming ammount of compliments but I do get them now. I still get some negative feedback but nothing too bad. I used to here how gross my hair was and stuff like that but now the worst I get is someone telling me I'd look better with short hair. People touch my hair and comment on how soft it is. I used to have to avoid this because I was embarassed of how greasy and grimy my hair was.
With a name like Slash (I'm thinking of GN'R fame), you really shouldn't concern yourself with what others think of your appearance. Just go out there and kick ass, and people will learn to respect you.
Don't cut it!!! WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T CUT IT!! I had the same/similar experiances.. and eventually people come around to realize that it's not too bad. Heck, my hair is longer than most of the girls I see.. I think they envy me or something..lol..
Take for example the Lord of the Rings movie frenzy... You have ANY idea how many chics dig those guys on that movie..and half the girls I talk to (that's low-balling an average.. it's probably more like 90%) are very much into the long hair of the guys.
I think a lot of the fascination with short hair has to do with age. How old was this girl? I've noticed that a lot of people that aren't at least 16 or so seem to have a problem with it, and that has to do with maturity and fads, and a whole otehr slew of things..
Anyway, yeah.. I haven't read this entire thread yet.. just the initial post.. so I'm gonna go finish reading now..lol
And now, having read the rest of the thread (lol)..
It's a common truth that people will see something foreign to them and freak out, because it's declaring its own independance rather than conforming to the norm, or whatever is popular. Fads and popularity phase in and out every season, to have long hair is to not care about what society is saying is "cool" or "hip" and just doing what is best for you.
I myself look much better with long hair.. I just got it relaxed with an at-home kit because it was a bit too curly, thus making it compliment me less than it could.. I'm getting used to the straighter/slightly stickier version, but it already looks better than it did.. Oh, and if it helps, my fiancee told me before we were engaged that if I cut my hair she'd break up with me. She was joking, but it was all to illustrate a point that she likes the long hair..
Let it grow, man...let it grow.
The right one will come around, and chances are your hair will grab her attention. Don't blend into the croud with short, spikey hair.. Make your own statement. Live your own life. By the time your hair is REALLY long, long hair will be the 'thing' and all the fad-followers will be upset that their hair was too short to grow out in time to gain some of the attention that's become yours...
Peace, man!
-Shugotenshi
Do you wash it? Do you try to make it look nice? or is it just greasy-looking and unkept? Dont try to grow it too long. Keep it a respectable length and keep yourself clean (we're talkin daily here) and people will start to like your hair. Its not the longless, its the grossness of your hair that people have trouble with.
After reading the follow-ups, most of you seem to think my hair is gross or something. That is not the case. I wash it everyday pretty much. It's not greasy, dirty, unclean, or anything. If anything it may be a little too dry, but nothing serious. I'm not just talking about my hair necessarily, but longhair on guys in general. A lot of girls touch my hair, and ask if they can play with it and stuff. Most of you are right. All the girls that have said stuff are around my age. They're all teenagers. In the mainstream, shorthair is what is popular. Not shoulder-length hair.
This is so not true, I only find men with long hair attractive! My friends despair of me, but if all men had long hair I would have so much more choice! Do not think that Long hair is a turn off, there are plenty of women out there like me, who love it!
I am female guys with long hair look fab mmm men in long hair think legolas
shut the hell up!
eh I am a gurl and I like long hair when well maintained on guys..i don't consider shoulder legnth hair very long though.