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Now i'm into my 3rd month of growing my hair out, and to my amazment every day i'm hearing, get your hair cut. mostly from my mother!!
But i find this just strengthens my resolve, i'm going on holiday on may 19th i think my hair will be entering a sticky out scruffy stage about then!!
I'm just wondering how long it usually takes for people you know, to realise that your NOT getting your hair cut, and give up their futile get your hair cut remarks.??
In my experience it was around the time I said "Actually, I'm growing my hair. I won't be getting it cut. It is not open to discussion". Then again, I'm an adult. Some guys have different circumstances.
How stubborn is she, and how often has she talked you into doing something you really didn't want to do?
She'll eventually give up once she realizes she isn't going to get her way.
My mother spent at least 20 years saying that.
Now, she just looks at my pony tail, but doesn't say anything. As I only see her about once a year, it has ceased to be an issue.
My dad never noticed what my hair looked like, then or now.
Im in my seventh month and "mother" (haha, "psycho" movie reference there) still won't leave me alone about it. A month will go by without a word, because shes just saving up a barrage of negative comments to let loose at my "WALL OF SOLIDARITY AND COMMITMENT". Don't worry, they'll grow weary of nagging you and will find some other way to amuse themselves. In the meantime, keep your eyes on the prize. Look at this way, in one more year you can have long hair, or you can still have short.
Oh, they might realise you're not getting your hair cut but the remarks will never truly cease. But who cares? Speaking from MY experience, the remarks will lessen once you're out of the awkward phase. Once your hair reaches a certain length it'll look a hell of a lot better and you may even end up getting compliments or "semi" compliments ("you have beautiful hair but a man shouldn't wear his hair that long" or "it looks great but you should trim it just a little bit") from the same people who once told you to get a haircut. But always keep in mind that it's just a simple fact that today, in our close minded society, having long hair is nowhere near as acceptable as having short hair. But if more and more people say "screw you" to that "standard" maybe things will change for the good.
In a society that accepts body peircings and tattoos as the norm, what's the problem with long hair? I just don't see it.
Cheers, Barry
Body piercings and tattoos as the norm? Think again. Even though these bodily decorations are more mainstream in western society (more tv exposure, etc) nowadays they're not exactly the norm. I applied for a job once and the guy who interviewed me said something about my earring; a simple, small silver earring so go figure.
They give up after awhile. Just ignore them.
It's something that comes with the territory.
I've had long hair since the 60s. It is now waist lenght.
Now that I have my own house, I have a job and
am happily married the subject isn't up for
discussion. When my mother comes over the subject
is off limits.
Unfortunately it took me blowing a gasket a few
years ago to get my mother to realize the long
hair was staying, the length of my hair was my
concern, and the subject was off linmits.
Since she was now visiting my house the
hosue rules were my rules.
Sometimes it takes living under your own
roof to finally get the point accross.
It was only my mother, my father died back
in the 80s.
Strange to see so many mothers (including mine) don't like their sons with long hair. Funny, every time we see each other (about twice a month, she says your hair's long enough now isn't it? I say teasingly
Mmmafraid not. And that's the end of the conversation.
BTW, my dad doesn't care, my sister thinks I'm cool!
Equality between the sexes--tell her that if women/girls can have it, men/boys can have it too!!! Right now, guys can wear earings and necklaces. So, WHY NOT LONG HAIR? Tell your mom to get with it. This is the 21st century. It's amazing, it was in the news that women are trying to get into a all male golf club which will not allow women to join. One of the womens comments that was interviewed: "Men should start living in the 21st century". Well, SO SHOULD WOMEN!!!