Should I?

• Should I?
  

  

  Litmer

  
  

  I have always wanted long hair, but have only managed to get my hair slightly longer than chin-length. I have very nice hair, and have received compliments on my longer hair styles. My wife likes my hair long. However, (here is my problem) I have been unable to think of myself as a "long-hair". When I look at myself with long hair, I see a short-hair with long hair. How do I overcome this. I've got the desire to have shoulder-length hair again, but really doubt my ability to follow through. I've considered taking it very slowly, so that I can get accustomed to the length in steps. I got a haircut today, and told the stylist that I wanted to transition into a longer style. Any ideas?

  Thanks.

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    Don B.

    
    

    I have always wanted long hair, but have only managed to get my hair slightly longer than chin-length. I have very nice hair, and have received compliments on my longer hair styles. My wife likes my hair long. However, (here is my problem) I have been unable to think of myself as a "long-hair". When I look at myself with long hair, I see a short-hair with long hair. How do I overcome this. I've got the desire to have shoulder-length hair again, but really doubt my ability to follow through. I've considered taking it very slowly, so that I can get accustomed to the length in steps. I got a haircut today, and told the stylist that I wanted to transition into a longer style. Any ideas?

    Thanks.

    If you have always wanted long hair, you already have your answer. Do what I did, stop cutting your hair. Mine will be growing out for a while and maybe I will hate it, but I won't know until it has grown out. VERY SLOWLY is how hair grows, believe me, you don't want to take it any slower than that!! I can only think that if you have a problem thinking of yourself as a longhair, then you are referring to some sterotype. Do you not like other longhair guys? Stereotypes are a form of peer pressure. If YOU ALWAYS WANTED long hair - then do it!! It sounds like your wife approves!! Don't give in to peer pressure - your happiness in yourself is what counts.

    Good Luck!!

    DB

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    BB

    
    

    I would go for it! See my post to Greg below.

    BB

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    bi-longhair

    
    

    Sure, but you may have trouble believing it. I looked at myself the same way when I started growing my hair out (again). At first, it looked pretty strange. Even when it got long enough for the tiniest ponytail, it seemed sort of wimpy. Compared with the then-recent photos, I too looked like a short-haired guy with longish hair. Quite a lot of time went by. One day, I looked in the mirror, and it struck me that it had NEVER been that long, even before. It went beyond the shoulders. When it reached my nipples, and when I let it go loose, I had hair everyplace. There was no more shorthaired guy there. No one would imagine that. I can shake my head and completely obscure my head with all that hair. In other words, changing one's perception of oneself takes a little time. Eventually, the reality of the situation becomes overwhelming. Enjoy yourself. Go ahead and let it grow.

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    Jim

    
    

    I have always wanted long hair, but have only managed to get my hair slightly longer than chin-length. I have very nice hair, and have received compliments on my longer hair styles. My wife likes my hair long. However, (here is my problem) I have been unable to think of myself as a "long-hair". When I look at myself with long hair, I see a short-hair with long hair. How do I overcome this. I've got the desire to have shoulder-length hair again, but really doubt my ability to follow through. I've considered taking it very slowly, so that I can get accustomed to the length in steps. I got a haircut today, and told the stylist that I wanted to transition into a longer style. Any ideas?

    Thanks.

    And why should you not be a short hair with long hair? It takes all kinds.

    Druid

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