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I am 32 and have always had a thing about hair. I always wanted to grow it long, but never had the nerve. At 29 I finally did it. I kept it long until July of this year. It was mid back and I loved it. However, I felt paranoid about how others thought of me. I have always been insecure, and having long hair made it worse. AT the same time, it brought me immense pleasure. It just made me feel incredibly sexy having it long. I am better looking with short hair, but not sure that is as important as being happy having the long hair. When I first cut it, I was thrilled. I did not miss it at all and was very glad to have it short. But after a while, I really started missing it. To complicate matters further, I am an actor in the Chicago area and I was attempting to get more commercial work. The long hair sort of knocks me out of the running for a lot of jobs.
Any words of wisdom and encouragement you guys can give me? I am seriously considering growing it all back -- but it just takes so long!!
Robert
Suggestions:
1. Start growing it.
2. Get a good therapist
Robert,
In my humble opinion, life doesn't get much better than long hair on a man.
For a person to live outside social dictates takes a strong stomache. Having all the "bull" shoved down your throat constantly can put a strain on even the toughtst of cast iron guts. Social preassure can be an extremely difficult thing. This is why the old saying be true to yourself is so old. It is truth. Be true to yourself.
Perhaps my attraction to long-haired men is not born strictly out of the beauty of the hair itself. When I see a man with long hair, I see not only the hair; but a strength of character, independence and vitality which I do not usually find in others.
Decide what YOU really want, then do it. If others have a problem, remember it is THEIR problem. It is a sad thing that society wants us to be clones. I am concerned by the comment that you should see a shrink. In my estimation, there is no one worse than a shrink for instilling forced conformity. Who came up with the term "normal" anyway? Was it Freud? Freud, the grand-daddy shrink of then all.
Time goes quickly, your hair will be raising eyebrows again before you know it.
Let us know what you decide.