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Ive finally accepted that long hair does not suit me at all. It's wavy, big and puffy, and looks like a helmet. It's now past my chin, and looks horrible, it restricts me so much, it lowers my self esteem, it deters girls, its just one big mistake. I would like to say before i get rid of it that those of u with straight hair, are very very very lucky. My hair has just had such a negative impact on my life, im looking foward to being optimistic and free, all i need now is the confidence to out into the public and get it cut.
i would greatly appreciate anyone with pictures of their hair short after they'd cut their hair,to help me get out there a cut it.
cheers
dave
My hair has just had such a negative impact on my life, im looking foward to being optimistic and free, all i need now is the confidence to out into the public and get it cut.
Sorry to hear that - have you felt this strongly about it all for quite some time? No sense it cutting it off on a whim.
When it comes to getting the chop (as with growing your hair) - just go for it.
If you're going to cut it anyway, I think it wouldn't hurt to try out something to make it better. You have wavy hair and need something less radical than us, curly heads. Try the Paul Mitchell or the Rusk straighteners. They do those at many places and they're not too expensive. If your budget allows, I would try Yuko or Bioionic. They're expensive, but if you really envy ppl with straight hair, you'd be envied by many after you try it. Just don't give up so easily, and if you want t let go, make sure you did everything you could.
it's his hair... his choice. the fact is that long hair doesn't suit every1 and just because he has reached that decision for himself doesn't mean he doesn't support your decision to continue growing yours... so you should be more supportive of his going in another direction.
I know its his hair. And he hates the idea of cutting it because the way it is, it doesn't suit him. I just suggested for him to give his hair a last chance with a different approach. I respect evrybodies choices.
If everyone was supportive of everyone else's decisions, nobody would stop each other from doing stupid things like cutting their hair off when there's a better way of fixing the problem.
(By the way- by 'stupid things' I mean things that would be a mistake, rather than things that would be done by stupid people. I'm not trying to insult anyone.)
It's just unfortuante that there is such a stigma towards the use of functional hair accessories. With them, there would be no awkward phase. Some guys just use them anyway but it takes a very hardheaded to do it.
I got a haircut yesterday because I am sorely in need of a summer job, and I feared that my hair, which was in the middle of the awkward phase, was creating a negative impression. Right now is not a good time for me but I'll probably give it another try.
Bill Chossier has a piece of advice on his site that fits your situation exactly. He says that when he feels like getting his hair cut, he gives himself two weeks to think about it. If after that time he feels the same way - then he'll go ahead and get it cut. I've tended to follow that advice. So far, I haven't cut it.
If that's what you decide, then good luck - just be sure in your own mind before you do
maybe it needs to grow just a bit longer to give it the weight that will make it sit better. you may still have your long thick hair after the straights have gone bald. also use frizz ease or similar.
Though this is difficult for me to say . . . I will say it anyway: LONG hair...
is not for everybody.
If it doesn't come from deep inside you...your Soul & Spirit, almost...
then maybe you are not a longhair after all.
Doesn't matter. If, as you say, it is ruining your social life &
your self-esteem...
perhaps it is better to c...c. . ..c u. . . .cu .. .. cut! There, I've said it.
Maybe another time?!
IF IT DOESN'T FEEL *RIGHT*. . .THEN IT'S NOT. . FOR YOU!
Good Luck!
Im much the same as this person, but with me its just the general public that make me feel bad with the constant looks and talking everytime I go somewhere. Ive found some girls find me very 'adorable' or 'lovely' because of my wavy hair, and they are very attracted to me, most people just see me as... im not sure really. It does ruin your self-esteem when this stuff happens but you should only cut it if you see yourself looking crap without ANY input from other people.
Do what you feel you must. But, two things first;
Follow the TWO WEEK RULE!
During those two weeks, try putting some non alcoholic gel (Dep level 8 is good) in your hair when its wet. Comb or brush it back so it is nice and slick. Leave it alone. It will stay neat and under control all day. Heck, it will even look straight. This can get you through until it is long enough to properly weigh itself down. I have curly hair too. I know that the awkward stage can be really tough. But, it IS worth waiting.
I don't ever really post here but i used to have long hair. The thing is some people (like me) just can't have nice looking long hair, you can use all the products in the world but your hair will always be crap. Yea as it gets longer it will weigh itself down but that doesn't mean it will look nice, I have seen quite a few guys with really long hair that looks like absolute crap, you can still have it long but some of us don't want to look bad so it just has to go. It's not an awkward stage thing, some of us have truly horrible hair, everyone in my dads side of the family for example has hair that feels like a cotton ball, it's impossible to grow it and get it to look even slightly presentable. It's not fair but oh well.
Are you certain that your problems will vanish along with your hair? I don't know exactly how old you are but I remember being seventeen with a brushcut and feeling about the same way; low self-esteem and girls being repulsed. The fact is you are still in the awkward stage. You hair could improve dramatically in the months ahead. I hope you don't give up too soon. Whatever your decision I hope you check back in here and let us know how things turned out for you.
Note: Some girls like long hair, some don't but two things all girls don't like are immaturity and poverty.
i was in the same situation as you and cut it, 18 months of growth. I had big, thick, frizzy, wavy hair and it was just ruining my life so i cut. It sucks b/c I like long hair but I just can't have it, I mean what can i do? Sure I can grow it but it just looks bad, why look bad when you can look good? Its been about 6 months and i've gotten used to the short hair, it's really no big deal but still I wish i could have nice long hair but hey i can't so too bad.
I really can not say anything motivated to not cut your hair, because I have been there and done that. Before I was married, I never got past the awkard stage because of similiar reasons. I could not go out to meet woman with a bad hair-do. So I do feel your inner-self speaking. Luckily I am married today and my wife supports my hair growth and I am still in an awkard stage because my hair is wavy/curly. I actually did not think I had this type of hair until I began to grow it. Growing up, my hair was pin-needle straight. I have also discovered that my hair is beginning to lie down and looks like I will have nice hair when it grows out some more. The only advice I can give you is that you can try growing it out again in the future. You do not have to do it today. Because everyone's hair changes over the years, your hair might grow/look better when you try to grow it out again if that is what you decide.
Peace!
Dave if you've not done the deed yet a bit of advice from a female. What we really look for is the "grooming" of the hair. If you can afford it listen to Santiago- look into the straightening. At least go to a trusted salon and get it done temporarily, it's called a blow dry style/straightening. If you are calling a good salon and explain what you are looking for and IF they offer the chemical straighting you can go and have your hair blow dryed and flat ironed for a sample and while you're there can consult the tech and see what you think. This is a big decision and why blow all the time and energy you have already invested in growing your hair to give it all up without exploring all the possible solutions available.