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My boyfriend has been growing his hair for seven months. It looks GORGEOUS, just a couple of inches from a ponytail.
Last night he said he wants to buzz it off.
How can I be supportive and loving while trying to convince him to keep his hair?
Steve
tell him youl leave him if he cuts it.
Bad advice. Just try to convince him. If he still doesn't want to, then let him be him.
I would tell him this, that what is important to you should be important to him and vice versa. Tell him you love his looks with his hair long and that you would really like for him to let it keep growing. Maybe he is just feeling you out for your opinion.
Perhaps ask him nicely as a "favor," could he please wait at least 2 weeks before making the final decision? 2 weeks is a LONG TIME to think about it. Either it is an impulsive thought which may vanish quickly, or he WANTS to be a "BUZZ-HEAD" which should be his preferance.
It may help to find out the "cause" for his decision. Once this information is out in the open, only then you can objectively discuss whether or not there is a valid argument. He may not share the same common goal as you.
The first step would be to ask him why? Maybe he wants to
keep it long but is under orders from managment at
work to cut it. Maybe he doesn't want to talk about
it becuase he hates his job, hates his boss, hates what his
boss is forcing on him?
Ultimately it is his hair and he can do whatever he wants with it.
But I understand that you like it very much and wish him to keep it. Although it really goes against what I believe I think you could probably coax him into keeping it by telling him how much you like it and pointing out all the good things about it. This may just remind him why he grew it out to begin with.
But again, it's his decision.
- Brion
It's his choice, if thats what he wants to do be supportive.
Thanks for the suggestions.
In the end, he decided that he liked the idea of a ponytail, he is just hating the "in your face hair" that he will be stuck with for another couple of months also.
So we will see....