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hey I'm a 11 year old kid thats growing his hair long and i'm getting mistaked for a girl alot of the time. any help?
Yeah, get used to it. It's one of the funnier curses that comes with having long hair.
Chin up! You'll be fine!
You're not a girl, are you? Don't let it bother you in the least.
You say that like being a girl is a bad thing. When that happens to me I tend to thank them for the compliment.
You are 11 and you have a lot more to grow. I've seen very muscular huge guys getting called ma'am. Seriously, take this as a life lesson that some people are closed minded, and some are unable to think. Meanwhile, enjoy your hair and don't mind silly people. They will always be there. Just ignore them.
They may also be genuinely confused.
I recall one occassion, eight years ago, when my fiance and I were shopping for wedding gifts to register for at Dillards. A saleswoman approached us from behind and asked, "May I help you ladies?" I wish I'd had a camera, because the look on her face when we turned to face her was priceless.
ROTFL!
Funny story. :)
I agree with Nyghtfall on this one. It's just a simple fact that most men don't have long hair, and from behind, you may indeed look like a modern day female. I have yet to be the subject of confusion there, but I'm sure it'll happen at some point.
All I can say is to ignore those people who aren't confused, but are actually making fun of you. You'll go farther if you just ignore 'em.
Just to add my two cents worth: I am 43, fairly muscular, and have a dark, thick moustache and goatee. My hair is down to the bottom of my shoulder blades. I was walking out of the gym with my duffle bag in tank top and shorts, and a little girl said to her mom: Mom, is that a man or a woman. I smiled and chuckled. My was horrified. I heard her whisper--that's a man, honey. And she whisked the child away as if she had done something wrong. And, of course, unfortunately, she communicated to the child, non-verbally, that something was wrong.
But, it wasn't me!
Robert
this is funny.
i was at a table in a restaraunt with three women at a booth, and i was on the outside facing the wall. anyway, the waitress came from behind and as she walked up to the table used the word "ladies" when asking how everything was. of course when she got to the table and saw me she apologized, but it was funny. :)
This will become less and less of a problem as you get older and develop more masculine features. In the meantime, try to dress as masculine as you can.
That's your advice? To an 11-year old? Dress masculine?
sigh...
To the 11-year old:
Not having kids of my own, I can't profess to be an "expert" on the subject of children, but my formal advice is to discuss your feelings with your parents. They're the best source of advice at your age. They obviously don't have a problem with your hair.
Didn't mean to get on your case, but "dress masculine" is not something I would ever be inclined to tell a child. Young minds are exceptionally receptive to input, and thus one must tread carefully when attempting give them advice on sensitive matters.
yeah a friend of mine gives me a hard time for it but if you can make a joke out of it then you can turn it into a positive. Like she will say, "cut your hair you look like a girl" and ill be like, "i know i need to borrow a tampon!" or (i hope this doesnt get me in trouble here) "would you like to eat my pussy"
just say "so...you're attracted?" if it's a guy calling you that.
I mentioned it in an earlier thread. It happened to me a couple of weeks back. I was wearing a stockmans coat over jeans and trainers - so from behind, with my hair worn loose rather than tied back the look was pretty androgynous. When the waitress addressed me as "Madam" and I turned around, she was horrified with her mistake. But, I guess, given the gender markers of modern society, it was a simple mistake to make. A sense of humour helps on these occasions....
Yesterday I was called "daughter" of someone with whom I was, despite my clearly visible goatee. Ridiculous people, or maybe just provocative, just bite the pain !
Well, you're a little young to grow a beard. Even then it doesn't help when someone is behind you.
Look at it this way. Anyone who was really looking at you and had 20/20 vision could tell that you are a boy, even at your age. Most people sleep-walk through life without paying much attention to the people around them. If people do make a mistake it's for this reason, and you can have a bit of a laugh at their expense sometimes, but don't insult them. When they figure out their mistake they are always way more embarassed than you are. Five minutes later they have forgotten about it, and you should too.
The other situation is where someone deliberately calls you a girl to make fun. It is best to ignore them completely and they will go away.