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please help!
i am 15 years old and trying to grow my hair out.
My mom and all my other family members put it to seem that they are gonna make me get a haircut or practically be hated by my family.
what do i do to make them accept the fact that i want to grow my hair out?
just ask them why they should care! i mean, it's none of their business what your hair look like. i've been getting bad comments from my family for the last what, like 10 months, but it has gotten better as they got a bit more used to it, they had never seen me with hair longer than about 1.5inches ;) they're finally starting to say "ok, it's getting better now", as my awkward stages gets a bit better. at times. i have very very big hair. sorry for the pointless story, but just to tell you that i'm pretty sure you can make them realize they don't have any reason to hate you for that.
just don't overreact to their comment, simply repeat to them that if a haircut change makes them hate you, they're obviously the ones that are in the wrong.
keep the faith! :-)
-big haired vincent
We all went through this.
For me, it went swiftly discreetly. At first try to hide the hair in a baseball cap, then if they ask you, jsut tell them that you`d like your hair a bit longer, then when it`s long, try to keep it tidy.
My grandfather eventually accepted my hair because I managed to keep it tidy, ie plait it.
Screw what they think.
What I would tell my parents if I were in your situation is simply this, while keeping a nice attitude and mature air about myself when telling them:
"Mom... Dad... having long hair would make me very happy. If I am forced to cut it, then I will resent it. I won't be able to help it if life with me becomes difficult. You can have me short hair and unhappy, or you can have me long hair and happy. Which would be better? I feel I am old enough to make this small decission on my own. I promise to keep it neat in appearance. Your traditional ways are for you, and I respect that, but this is something I feel is for me. After all, it is just hair. I could be doing things that are actually bad, which I am not."
Hope this helps and good luck! Peace!
That`s well said
thanks alot it kind of seems your advice worked :)