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My oldest son David had me cut his hair tonight. He said that he was tired of it being so thick and hot and messy all the time. His hair is really wavy/curly and was looking pretty shaggy, so he wanted it cut. What he ended up with after I got done was a surprisingly good looking mullet style. He says he likes it and as far I myself are concerned, that's all that matters.
It's down to me and my brother on the web-site now, but he was talking about cutting his hair just the other day. So I suspect before too long I'll be the lone ranger at the sight. But for me it's the duration, baby! Peace!
I had a small fear inside that this would happen... don't worry too much, give some time to time, and as he grows older, and your hair longer he´ll try again.
Aditionally, try to get him started in fall, so he won't mind the awckward stage during summer
To be quite honest, I don't believe he will ever try it again. I may be wrong, though. I let my kids make their own decisions about their hair. Just because I want it for myself doesn't mean they have to have it my way. Peace!
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My son used to have longer hair, but he has had it cut short for the last couple of years. You can't push them too much to be like you, otherwise you'd be making the same mistake that more conservative people always have. Once they hit the teens (my son is only 10) it must become even more of a sensitive issue, as they won't generally want to look like their parents. Actually, if he wants to look different from me I have no problem with that, but I am more concerned that he may be opting for short hair just to conform. Even then, that shows up just how much I hate conformity of any kind. Perhaps even that is a prejudice of a sort?
Great parenting !
Hope your brother uses the 'two-week rule' before doing anything rash.
Enjoy your holiday and I hope your mother doesn't tell you to get a haircut ! :-)
in regard to hairstyles, a male's image aspirations change only four or five times (depending upon his sociological background) during his lifetime: from 1 to 10 years old, a boy's look is largely determined by his parents. From 10 to 16 years of age his choice is determined more by example and popular culture. From 16 to 25 most males are at the height of being appearance conscious--it is their coupling period and their image is most often influenced by their "significant others". Men between 25 and 45 tend to revert back to conformism--they are climbing the corporate ladder. Styles for men over 45 are determined largely upon the availability of hair. What is lacking on top is often compensated for by the addition of facial hair--mustaches and/or beards.
...and, of course, there are exceptions to "every rule" (read: "all of the above")!
My son moved from the first to the second stage a few years early. Maybe that is more likely where the parents are unconventional? Soceity doesn't reinforce us atall.
This is more likely to mean they spend more time on hair care than anything particular to do with length.
Not my scene. I just don't have the personality for a*** kissing.
Some of us still have no trouble growing hair all over our heads, and for those with baldness issues, don't they know it shows up *less* with long hair?
bummmer. Kind of liked the triumverate thing you had going on. The 3 Musketeers of long hair-ness. Ah well, wish the best to Dave Jr. Hope you stick with it. Don't cave!
My son says he wants it long one day, wants it cut like his brother a week later, and now says he just wants his bangs cut so they're out of his eyes.
Of course at 9 yrs. old, he doesn't so much as comb it unless their are death threats in place. LOL
I'm ready to get him a buzz cut. I've been telling my mom to go ahead and cut his hair like his brother's, but she never gets around to it (she whips the scissors out quick as hell when I want a trim though...hmmm).
It's something that HAS to come from WITHIN. Otherwise, just forget it.
You will never feel 'right' about the way you look.
If your son didn't feel comfortable & 'at home' with his longer hairstyle...
and wanted a haircut, then he (and you) did the right thing.
When I was growing out my hair...suffering through one awkward phase after another...
I was literally FILLed with doubts...
some came at night just before going to bed...while others hit me in the
face in the morning mirror.
BUT something KEPT ME GOING! I don't know what 'it' was,
but cutting my hair was NOT an option..at least not for me.
Over time, my hair changed--and I changed ALONG WITH THE HAIR...
but today, I wouldn't want it any other way.
Dead on. If you aren't compelled by some desire from inside to have longhair, you'll likely chop it off at any time as soon as you are unhappy with it.
- That Amish Guy
Treyn:
I've always admired how you handle yourself, and this is no exception. Dave Jr. should be proud that he has such a great dad!
Bah! No son of mine would be caught dead with short hair! Put the kid in a wig!
hehehehe
Ironically, it's cool to see someone be a non-conformist
at such a young age... although, he's cutting his hair
to be different (alarming!).
Does this mean that if he takes up a motorbike he'll wear a helmet?!?
That's too bad that he dropped out. I have to ask, though....Was it painful for you cutting his hair? I am suprised that you did it yourself. The three of you seem to follow your hair quite closely. I can only imagine it felt like cutting some of your hair off as well.