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There seems to be a sizeable group of us that desire to wear our hear in a feminine style. What I wonder is if it would still be as desirable if it were not so 'forbidden'. If bobs and such were commonly accepted on guys, would it still be as interesting?
HI --
You have raised some basic questions. If more guys than girls did their hair in a feminine style then it would be a masculine style. All styles are conventions.
What is exciting in most cases is pushing the envelope, i.e. establishing a personal identity that is to some intent chosen rather than prescribed. But all potential choices have symbolic value depending on who hs used these choices in the past, and there is always danger of labeling oneself as someone dangerous or threatening.
More could be said on the topic.
Majorcanis@aol,com
Think each should do it the way they like it and poo poo on the social arena. If one licks the rectum of society, society will take a dump on them as it always has.
Hello,
In my personal opinion, many men would still love the bob style even if it were a predominately male haircut. The style is very pretty and very versatile. The reason that you see so much about guys wanting feminine styles is mainly because girls have all of the variety. Men are usually stuck with the same high and tight with very little room for change and versatility. I am a male and I would love to be accepted wearing a long one length bob and being able to use hair accesories to do different things with it. It isn't that I want this style because it is FEMININE, but because it is a pretty style and can be changed in different ways.
Hi... I would like to wear my hair to my waist but my job won't allow that now, possibly later and not to tread on forbidden ground, rather because I would enjoy it that way.
You know, I have never categorized mine or anyone else's by gender - it's just a highly individual thing. So I would not view any particular length, style or cut as being forbidden or not. If the individual's length, style or cut looks good on them, and compliments their features, then go for it.
For that matter, same views for hair jewelery and accessories - I do not view them in any gender and wear them as they most compliment my styles. They are just tools to achieve a specific look or used for a specific purpose (keep my hair out of my face) to me. Best example I can think of are scrunchies - which some might veiw as feminine - they do not cause breakage and seem generally kinder than the common elastics, which after a few tries, I thought their use for everyday ponies would be asking for problems.
I just do not worry about genderizing, and have had no adverse comments yet.
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Well, originally, at least in the middle ages (not that it matters today) bobs were indeed a mens/boys hairstyle. I think bobs just make guys look like knights from the middle ages and ponytails and pigtails make them look like Vikings or Celts.
I've always felt that many longer women's hairstyles look so outstanding on them why not give it a test drive? Thus, like some other guys on this board, when someone told me my hair looked like a girls I always took it as the HUGEST compliment! I honestly feel that pretty hair is pretty hair no matter who's head it's on, and pretty hair doesn't neccessarily make guys any more feminine than a lion's mane would make a male lion look like a lioness. Sure, fine featured men (...me and Jarrko included) might confuse a few folks from a distance but like I said before, that's because women so often dress like men these days.
Finally, I would wear my hair long now even if it was as common today as it was a millenia back. I just prefer it that way, that's why I'm growing it back. As far as the taboo aspect of it, that only adds to the fun, at least it did for me anyway.
Just an opinion
Racer