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There's absolutely nothing wrong with sharing info on haircare; I do it all the time and it's very helpful and I like to help out whenever I can. However, in my opinion some people tend to get carried away. Some get lyrical and emotional about their hair; talkin about the softness and the texture and how much they enjoy touching their hair. It's almost as if it's some kind of fetish. Hey, different strokes for different folks but I had to get this off my chest! I like my hair long and I intend to keep it long for as long as possible. But you won't catch me writing poems about it any time soon.
Yeah, it does kinda seem like that sometimes, doesn't it? I feel the same as you do... I don't understand sometimes why some folks get carried away. Maybe a self-esteem issue? Hmm.
They say that about big cars.
Some people really love and apprechiate it. Some may have wanted it for a long, long time and finally have it. I like seeing people who care about it so much!
Some people DO want it... but you figure by the time they have it to the desired length, it's already been near that way for a while, so they'd be used to it. Long hair doesn't happen overnight...
I share your sentiments about my own hair. Others are simply more passionate about their's. More power to them. One thing I've learned over the years is that there are wildly varying degrees of attitudes toward men and their long hair, on this forum. I respect them all, just as long as we can alll continue to get along.
yeah i agree completly, some people are EXTREMLY pasonate about it. but hey "diffrent strokes for diffrent folks" hey? to each his/her own
Jeez yea, good thing people don't get carried away about their cars, girlfriends, food, clothes, sports, politics or anything else!
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Yer one of THEM ain't ya? Ah've been watchin yew boy!
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Hey, I'm just kidding! ;) Yeah, people have the tendency to get carried away about many things and I guess it must be part of human nature. I also believe it't something that needs to be kept in check because most forms of excess can be damaging in one way or another.
I understand what you are talking about but I don't see any real excess and how it could be damaging is not very clear.
Your point of view might hold water somewhere other than here in a "MEN'S LONGHAIR HYPERBOARD". Remember where you are and try to think if you have ever heard of these things outside this board. I'd say that in porportion to other intrests that people have there is no comparison whatsoever; longhair talk is scarce and this little corner of the internet is designed specifically for that.
All you have to be worried about is whether or not you are doing what you don't seem to like. You will only be able to keep yourself "in check" anyway.
Ah, so I did get my point across.
Well, maybe the word "damaging" is a bit too much. All I'm saying is that we need to keep things in perspective. Like I said, I like my hair long and I like to share info on haircare, etc., which is why I'm here in the first place. The thing that cracks me up (I'm a humorous kind of guy) is how some people get really carried away with their hair. I mean, think about it. People around me would go nuts if I were constantly talking about my hair as if my life depended on it. Ok, I may be exagerating a little but you know what I'm trying to say. There's a thin line between compulsive behaviour and being passionate about something. So my advice is to go out every once in a while, score some chicks, have a couple of cold ones, go to the gym, play guitar, rob someone, joyride a car, etc.
You'd be surprised!
Nah, whenever I talk to some girl there's 80% chance she'll ask me about my hair. ... Of course I'll then recite one of the poems I wrote about it ... :D
Some of it I like and some I don't. Like many things in life. For example, I enjoy being fit (especially during these months) but many times I need to drag myself to the gym. However, I do it anyway because I injoy being fit. I find it rather amusing how people talk about enjoying the soft texture of their hair, the way it moves, how it smells, etc. If our species put that kind of passion into their relationships there'd be less alimony to pay!
Your point? Yes, your point was clear. I don't demonstrate the actions that you seem to disaprove in other people but I'm not going to break anybody's balls about it. It's their hair their opinion and their right to say it in a forum that is specifically on the topic of people's long hair.
Yes, "damaging" and "excess" are too much. I only see an occasional post like what you are talking about and not one bit of damage caused by it other that to apparently irritate you. Persepective is a funny thing as no one will have exactly your perspective about things. In a longhair forum talking about your long hair is perfectly fine. Gushing over your hair is perfectly fine if you feel the need. If you don't like it then don't pay attention to it. Now gushing over your hair in a forum about government politics or street rods will not be viewed as appropriate because it has absolutly nothing to do with the topic. Go ahead a laugh to yourself, people are often funny, just don't go around telling people that you are right and they are wrong.
I'm not sure that you have in anyway demonstrated that anyone in particular is showing compulsive behavior other than ourselves for coming here so often. Now drinking beer too much, exercising everyday , constantly chasing women and continually robbing banks despite the risks are things that many people would consider to be compulsive behaviors (not that I do as things need to be considered case by case).
I wasn't just referring to your personal case as you are one of the few who frequent this distant corner of the internet.
I was saying that if you don't like hearing people go on about their hair then just make sure that you don't do it yourself.
Some people do put that sort of passion into relationships, but many people are not taught how to do that. The problem with divorce and alimony comes more from the greater population being indoctrinated from birth to accept an outdated religious ceremony without question.
In an age of more equal opportunity, education, financial freedom and freedom about what you want to belive...or not believe, personal decisions are being made about passion though many times a bit after the fact (better late than never though).
Again, learn from what you observe and if you don't like it then don't do it, but if you do like it then give it a try...it's your life.
Hmmm, let me give it another try; I don't disaprove of any of the actions that I mentioned. I was just observing them and I think some of them are extremely funny. Nothing wrong with that, is there? You seem to take my comments as a personal attack, judging by your reaction. I'm not looking to bust anyone's balls.
When did I ever mention a post as being irritating? Like I said, it was just an observation and it's far from irritating. I find it rather funny! I thought I was clear on that.
That's great! Things would be boring on this planet if that were the case. Being challenged keeps you alert and makes sure life is interesting.
Gushing over your hair is perfectly fine if you feel the need.
That's what I kept saying in my posts.
Again, I never said I didn't like it. I find it curious and amusing. When you post something on a public board, you should expect people to have different kinds of reactions to you ideas/beliefs/theories/etc. That's what forums are for.
That would be a dumb thing to do, yes.
I don't mean to offend you but you're just plain wrong there. In my first post I said "different strokes for different folks" and I also specifically used the magic expression "IN MY OPINION" to make myself perfectly clear. It seems to me that you were a little hasty to draw your conclusions.
Come on, we're not in court here. You'd make a great prosecutor though.
Depends on what you consider to be too much. College students have different opinions on this matter than pregnant women.
Making love every day keeps the prostate healthy. Hey, if you don't believe me look it up!
This is a tricky one. You could get killed if they're married. But let's give it the benefit of the doubt shall we?
What's life without a little risk, hmmm? You could end up a legend; peopl will write books about you, actors will be standing in line to play YOU in a major motion picture ...
And I was just kidding around.
I'm sure you know by now where I stand on this issue.
My goodness ... I was being sarcastic.
Sounds reasonable enough, dad.
I certainly DON'T take it as a personal attack against me, I don't write the kind of stuff that you are calling attention to. I do defend the board as a free talk zone for anything about long hair.
You SEEMED to disapprove by what you said about them (essentially calling attention to them, referring to them as amusing, and stating that you would never do that), that says quite a bit:
"However, in my opinion some people tend to get carried away."
"It's almost as if it's some kind of fetish."
"But you won't catch me writing poems about it any time soon."
"I also believe it't something that needs to be kept in check because most forms of excess can be damaging in one way or another."
"People around me would go nuts if I were constantly talking about my hair as if my life depended on it."
"There's a thin line between compulsive behaviour and being passionate about something."
"The thing that cracks me up (I'm a humorous kind of guy) is how some people get really carried away with their hair."
"I find it rather amusing how people talk about enjoying the soft texture of their hair, the way it moves, how it smells, etc."
You didn't use the word irritate but what you said made it clear that you don't particularly like it when people "get lyrical and emotional about their hair; talkin about the softness and the texture and how much they enjoy touching their hair." Why else would you feel the need to post a thread about it, call it amusing, compulsive, etc.?
When you say, "I also believe it't something that needs to be kept in check because most forms of excess can be damaging in one way or another.", it doesn't sound like you really think that (at least not in this case) even though you are aware that you can't get people to stop it...but isn't that part of the intention behind your first post, to get people to think about stopping it by ridiculing it?
You don't need to tell me about what forums are for (maybe you haven't read any of my past posts) that is why I am responding to your post, it sure sounds like you DON'T like it when you say:
"However, in my opinion some people tend to get carried away."
"It's almost as if it's some kind of fetish."
"But you won't catch me writing poems about it any time soon."
"I also believe it't something that needs to be kept in check because most forms of excess can be damaging in one way or another."
"People around me would go nuts if I were constantly talking about my hair as if my life depended on it."
"There's a thin line between compulsive behaviour and being passionate about something."
"The thing that cracks me up (I'm a humorous kind of guy) is how some people get really carried away with their hair."
"I find it rather amusing how people talk about enjoying the soft texture of their hair, the way it moves, how it smells, etc."
Yes, your opinion but you have made quite a point about your opinion by posting a thread about your opinion on how some guys here talk about their hair from time to time.
I know that I'm not getting too wordy for you but that is the only way to put it because it's easy to throw around characterizations that have nothing behind them.
Well, we weren't talking about risks now were we? We were talking about compulsive behaviors and personal opinions about what constitutes compulsive behaviors as opposed to real definitions.
I wasn't. Didn't see any joke in that statement about 80%. Were you making an fictitious point to try and bolster your argument? The poem quip I did see as a sarcastic joke that further ridiculed what you were talking about in your first post.
Sure, that is why I have said something about it. Doesn't matter either way, nothing changes but since it was posted and I have exercised my option to write about it.
I wasn't. This is the way things are, it's a big complicated world (at times). I don't know how old you are but as the years go by many things become apparent (even things that no one ever told you about before).
Now that I do see as sarcasm. Could do without it too.
I'm not looking to try and tear you down for your post, I'm just responding to some of the things you said. I don't want you to get defensive, etc. and I won't either. Your opinion is fine to have, noone has to like everything out there. I merely wanted to respond to some of the things that sounded inconsistent in your posts. I know what you were saying, I also have a pretty good idea about how you think about this topic, and I also saw what you wrote about it.
It's hard to express your opinion about other people in a way that safeguards you from any response by using certain words and phrasing because the posting of the opinion is is what speaks the loudest. It's also difficult to defend what you said by trying to explain it with a whole different meaning once it's been brought up.
One of the big benefits of these boards is how it gets people to think about and refine what they have to say. I think of it as a great exercise to sharpen one's skills.
Your hunch about me was right on the money; I've been exposed, you win. I'm an IRRITATED 53 year old bald guy who DISAPPROVES of long hair by INCONSISTENTLY RIDICULING it. In fact, I DISAPPROVE of all bodily hair because hair was meant for animals and not for humans. Hairy "human beings" are the spawn of Satan a.k.a. Lucifer, the lord of the underworld. My posts contain subliminal messages to make you unbelievers see the light. If you lower the frequency of your monitor below 60Hz you will be able to read my messages more clearly (this doesn't work on LCD screens, which is why I DISAPPROVE of those tools of the devil).
Bummer dude! ; )
Ode to Long Hair
Once upon a time, a shorthair was I
A cut once a month kept my follicles pint-size
Then one month I missed the scissor rendezvous
I tried to reschedule, one month led to two
Then a season went by, followed by half a year
The hair on my head was hiding my ears
A thought flitted through my hairy abode
Why not let the hair go till it no longer grows
As thoughts turned to dreams of hair thick as a cord
I discovered the Men's Long Hair Hyperboard
I reveled in wisdom, pictures and lore
And learned about Aussie, mullets and more
The hair grew longer, as did the time for hair care
The glances turned to looks, and finally stares
As the hair growth continued, folks reacted to me
From 'Can I help you, miss?' to 'Get a haircut, hippy'
Who cares what they think, I'm liking this stuff
Keep growing I say, shoulder length's not enough
... blah, I'm all out of rhymes! :-)
(maybe nobody will notice this)
It must be continued!!! LOL
I love long hair, and will obsess, I confess.
(too much doctor seuss...)
Someone noticed! :-) I was chuckling to myself as I wrote it.
I better not quit my day job though. heh heh
Well, you could give Hallmark a try!
Call me a fellow obsessor, but I thought that was really funny and creative. ::claps::