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Man this sucks so bad...... My parents are telling me I have to get a haircut before I got to my grandparents. He wants me to go back to a buzzcut. I told him my hair is important to me and at least wait a few more months and maybe it'll look neater. He says I AM getting a hair cut no matter what. Don't worry, im not getting a hair cut no matter what. I just dont wanna make a scene leaving the barbers and walking off. Please give me some advice guys.....
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The best thing you can do is ask your parents if they would like a happy teenager to live with, or a bitter teenager that is going to become hard to get along with as a result of them forcing this on you. Say this very nicely and maturely with out loosing your cool. Tell them that your hair is very important to you and you believe that this should be respected. This is only my advise, I am not a professional in the field. Good Luck, bro!
Don't do it.
Hi Aaron,
Actually, this is an outrage. Nature INTENDS that both Male and Female have long Hair.............otherwise both species would be different in this area. (There MUST be a purpose for it......Nature is just too perfect!) The advise of Treyn is so good, and I am thankful that he wrote it to you. I am not sure of "Legal Rights" when it comes to a 15 year old........but I intend to check this one out with a Lawyer friend of mine. Afterall, you are NOT doing a Criminal act of any sort nor causing pain and trouble to others. You are merely being yourself. Under the law and Constitution I believe your Father is asking a bit too much and is a bit out-of-control on this issue. Is he going to tell you what socks, shirts, pants NOT TO WEAR NEXT??????????? "Honor thy Father and Mother" has for Centuries been handed down. (But I don't believe this has anything to do with the way you chose to style your hair.) RESPECT is more like it. It seems that your Father is in lack of respect for YOU in this case. Please don't hate him for this.............for I fear he doesn't understand. BUT, if it were me I would absolutely refuse to get my hair cut to "his" liking. And I would take every and all "groundings, punishments etc. if he deems you rebelious. But, I WOULDN'T GIVE-IN!!!!!! Now really, your hair at present is still so very short compared to the greater part of the beginning of the World and the Creation of Human Beings. Hardly anything to "scare" a Grandparent with. I think there is a "freedom issue" going on here, and I am ever so sorry that you are stuck in the middle of it. Now, if going into the service, something like this would be the "Law" to have the Hair buzzed from your head. But going to a loved-ones? Hardly. Be nice Aaron which I am sure you will be.........but, BE FIRM!
Tell your dad to AT LEAST read a website on Mens Long Hair, such as Hair Religion's site. It just might enlighten him on why you are growing your hair long. It's worth a shot....
Erron, this much is fact you are 15 and you live at home, unfortunately this requires you to live by "their" rules.
There is a television commercial running now that every parent should see, it goes something like this,
In the mirror a 16 yr old boy with his hair streaked purple and blue spiked with his eyebrow pierced his ears pierced his tongue pierced and wearing clothes we all would label as " you can't be serious" anyway as this teen bops down the stairs and says to his neatly dressed mother and father sitting on the couch , "see ya" she gets up and says just a minute young man ... she faces him and after a pause asks what time will you be home ? he responds, 12 mother and she says have a good time but remember do the right things. The message at the end is .... its ok to let your kids be kids but never stop talking to them to let them know you care.
Every parent should see this commercial.......
Your hair looks good. dont know why they are making a big deal about it.
Just say no, man. They cant force you.
All right. Since it sounds like your parents are afraid of what
your grandparents will think, make contact with your grandparents.
Tell them about your hair and how much it means to you. Send them
a picture of how nice and clean it looks. Maybe they aren't
as hung up on long hair as your parents are.
Maybe you can ask your grandparents to tell your parents to get off your case.
Your hair isn't even long..... why the hell does it have to be a buzzcut? You going into the military or something? At least give you a normal hair cut. In some countries people with buzzcuts are considered "gangstas". Tell him people wear their hair to what makes them look better. Most people sure as hell dont look better with buzzcuts.
Tell him you don't want to look like Timmothy McVeigh, load a car with dymomite, and drive it into the nearest federal building. BTW; Do your grandparents require you to have a short haircut? Why don't you ask them? If they don't, relay that message to you bullying Dad.
Aaron;
You may want to consider that there is more going on here than just hair length.....it sounds to me as though you and your Dad are not communicating too well. Why don’t YOU try to take the mature approach. Pick a quiet time to be alone with your Dad, and ask him why this issue is so important to him? (calmly) And then LISTEN to what he has to say with an open mind. (He may consider your appearance to be a threat to your well-being and is actually trying to protect you......)when he is finished, try to explain why this "project" is important to you, without getting upset or setting an ultimatum.
Your goal here should be to keep a wall from building between the two of you. Father’s and Son’s can share many wonderful experiences together....don’t let a haircut, or lack on one, prevent that !!
Good Luck and let us know how it goes......
Well this morning my dad and I blew up at eachother and I left my house. I walked about 25 miles to a good freinds house to stay for awhile untill my parents cooled down. It took me 7 hours but I got there. My dad found me there and told me to get in the car. I got in the car because I was tired as hell from walking so much. We had a good long talk and I guess he realized how important my hair is to me. So now I don't have to cut my hair :D Thanks so much guys for all the good advice (except for the buzzcut idea), without it I might be buzzed right now.
Hi Aaron,
Sorry for the way this all had to be worked-out, but I am glad you get to keep your individuality and be who you are and can continue to grow your hair. You know, parents are not always perfect even though they love you and have your best interests in mind. NOBODY IS PERFECT for that matter. (Guess your Dad understands how important this is to you and will "lay-off" from now on.) He probably feels very sorry about all of this...........especially if you have not been a rebelious son and trouble maker in the past. Whew! Sounds like in the end you DID get "buzzed" in a way. Like the bottom of your feet! Oh well, better that than your head! Take Care. :-)
I'm glad things worked out for you. It's a shame you had to go a "great length" to get your point across. I'm disappointed that your parents still have out dated thinking regarding your hair, especially since you are 15 years old. You are three years from flying the coup and being on your own. I hope for the best for you.
Outdated? They wanted to force him to get a buzzcut, not even a regular nice short hair cut.
Wow, nice story. Dude that was hardcore. 7 hours and 25 miles. Though somehow I don't think anything less than that would have gotten your message through. In the end it sounds like you and your dad bonded a little, and he understands you a little more now. I bet when this whole thing started you didn't think it would lead to something like this did you? And now when your hair gets real long you'll have a really cool story to tell about it. I wish I had a cool story...
Guess your motto is: "If you can't talk. . . WALK!"
gOOD lUCK!
I am really curious.
It's not about hair so much as the freedom of the individual over their own body.
Mark is correct.
Afterall, his hair will grow back and he has his whole life once he leaves his parents to grow it however he wants.
Alot of it is that my abusive mother always forced me to get hair cuts when I lived with her. Ive been growing my hair out ever since I left there, so it has a symbollic kind of quality to it.
And you look good with longer hair, just don't let it get too long because then it really becomes a hassle everyday keeping it looking good. Also, I suggest waiting a couple of weeks and then getting it trimmed just a little for two reasons. One is that it would appease your father a little and two, your hair will look even better (no split ends, fuller etc.).
You are looker better every month - keep it growing - you would look fantastic with really long hair -
Good luck !
(Behave in every other way - and keep helping out around the house and the hair thing will disappear eventually)
Saggin Jeaned Dude
A reason some people insist on a hair style is due to a personality trait. In the 1970's there used to be a show called "The Odd Couple" about two divorced men living together. One was neat and organized, the other sloppy and spontaneous. Just like a person's personality makes them organized or spontaneous, their personality trait compels the individual to have long hair. Even if they get a haircut, the need to have long hair is still there. By definition, one cannot change their personality even if they want to--the need to have long hair persists.
Glad to hear about the outcome.
You have endurance to walk so much. Hope you took protein powder before. With it, you`d get muscular thighs and legs.
Aaron:
Glad you won the day and a great many should be inspired what did in walking away.
Keep it growing - its looking good.
Well this morning my dad and I blew up at eachother and I left my house. I walked about 25 miles to a good freinds house to stay for awhile untill my parents cooled down. It took me 7 hours but I got there. My dad found me there and told me to get in the car. I got in the car because I was tired as hell from walking so much. We had a good long talk and I guess he realized how important my hair is to me. So now I don't have to cut my hair :D Thanks so much guys for all the good advice (except for the buzzcut idea), without it I might be buzzed right now.
I applaud you. It's really impressive the way you stood up for yourself, not many would have the backbone to do so. As I'm sure you're finding, the hardest part about having longhair is dealing with negative prejudices that go along with it. Especially when they affect those nearest to us, not many can handle that. With such perseverance and courage you'll undoubtedly go far in this world.