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Well, I think I can finally say I'm out of the akward stage. I can tie my hair back into a half-tail, and I'm quite happy with how it looks that way. But oddly enough, now that I've almost reached my destination, I'm finding myself unsure as to whether I still want my hair long. I don't really understand why. Well, I do, but I can't just isolate one reason. So far I've narrowed it down to this short list:
-Even with the half tail, the shorter hairs all stick up, and make it look really frizzy. Not good.
-I've been watching a lot of Queer Eye for the Straight Guy. I'd like to give a try to some of the products they've shown. It seems a lot better than my previous product view of "gel or nothing".
-It could possibly be that I enjoyed the journey more than the end result. Now that almost all my milestones have passed, I don't have much to look forward to.
-It could also be that my mom has pretty much given up on trying to get me to cut it. Maybe my desperate need for attention is no longer satiated by the occasional disapproving look, and I need to find another way to act out against authority in order to gain self-esteem through negative feedback. (But probably not.)
I really think the biggest reason I'm having second thoughts is that I truly believe I look better with short hair. I know that there's more to consider than that. But I think that the enchantment of growing is lost for me. At first I enjoyed the way my hair felt on my neck, and in front of my eyes, but now I'm finding it more annoying, especially when I'm trying to sleep.
If I do get it cut, it'd be a longer short-style. Something I can work with at least. As for now, I'm employing the 2-week rule, but stretching it out to the 6-month rule. At that point, I'll be a little past 18 months, and I'm sure I'll be able to make a better judgement at that time. If I still can't get it all into a tail, I'll just wait a little longer. But I do know right now that I'm definitely not cutting it for a while. To have come this far, I know I would regret giving up, and the inevitable doubt of whether I'd made the right decision.
So that's it. Right now, things are looking pretty bleak for my hair. But I'm gonna give it a chance. I hope things turn around. Looking back at some of these older pictures I've got, I realize just how goofy my hair looked. (I know, I'll be saying that 6 months from now too.) And what have we learned here? Absolutely nothing. It was a pretty pointless post. I know. But I feel a little better now. Sort of regaining a some of the motivation I had before. But as my post has now dwindled off into unnecessary rambling, I shall end it with the most dignity I can muster, and depart. Good day.
Queer Eye for the Straight Guy?!?!? Are you @#$%& mad?!?!
;)
Longhairs don't let longhairs watch makeover shows.
I know that makeover shows catch a lot of heat here, and I normally don't enjoy them myself, but I've found Queer Eye to be one of my favorite shows on television today. I think it's got a lot to do w/ Carson Kressley. So funny, and pretty damned hot, I might add. Although, if we're going with looks, I'd have to give it to Kyan. But I digress.
It's not so much that I'm seeing these guys get their hair cut, and thinking it's the right thing to do, it's just reminding me that I know I look better with short hair. We soon shall see. Maybe if I do decide to cut it, I can get the Fab 5 to come and give me my own personal makeover. A dream come true.
I think you look better with long hair. Personally, I thought that both of the long-haired men that were given cuts, even though one was just given layers, looked better before.
But the thing I don't like about Queer Eye is this...
The show gives the impression that it is not okay to live a life of comfort if it dosen't go hand in hand a life of being perfectly clean. Although these men sign up for the show and aren't being forced to change, it gives the general audiance the wrong impression. If a man is comfortable living with his clothes on the floor or his beard unkept, he should live that way. This show gives the impression that he is of a lesser caliber than a man who does maintain a spotless lifestyle.
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AMEN!
I have always believed that being a Longhair is something that
comes from somewhere deep within you...
Has to feel natural...not forced.
If your hair is in any way in opposition to how you feel INside
your soul...
then maybe...just maybe...longhair is not for you.
Be honest with yourself. Give yourself a couple of weeeks to mull it over...
to make your decision...
and then have the courage to do what you feel is right for you...and...
Good Luck!
YES! Give it the "two Weeks" as Luckskind has suggested. Very important. Good Luck
Rather than the 2 weeks, I'm giving it 6-months, as I'd previously stated. That way I'll be at 18 months, and I'm pretty sure I'll be able to get it all into a tail, rather than just a half. I wouldn't wanna get this far, and cut it. I'd rather see the end result, so I can be sure I'm making the right decision.
Yes...you will definitely be able to make a tail in 6 months...or maybe a bit less time than time!
A tail will be a MAJOR shift in how you feel about yourself and...
in how you face the world...
While many people feel 'okay' with a tail...
long hair worn LOOSE can bring on 'stronger' reavtions or emotions.
I could tell you stories...
I'm at a very similar place man.