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I've been lurking here for awhile and have been growing my hair untouched for about 6 months. I am starting to get funny looks from people. They haven't said anything yet but I am sure it is because of my hair.
What is a good response? I don't mean so much for the looks but for the comments that are sure to come.
P.S. Only real longhairs or those that are really trying to grow their hair long need respond.
L(.)(.)K & be PROUD...if you are serious about being a Longhair.
Jiargi,
When you ask for help it is interesting you qualify who you wish to hear from. Please enlighten me. What is a "real" longhair in your estimation?
I shall not wait for a definition of my supposed fitness to offer a response. Wished for or not, my belief is that you might not want to assume people are looking at your hair. Derogatory remarks pertaining to hair are not a given as you grow. Don't expect the comments and you may find that pleasant attitde toward people soon is reflected in how you are treated.
Elizabeth
P.S. Only real longhairs or those that are really trying to grow their hair long need respond.
Jiargi,
Yeah man, define ‘longhair’ - I would like to know (according to your criteria) if you qualify.
Did I detect some hostility directed my way, Miss?
I thought I was quite plain in my qualification of what constituted a longhair. Someone who either has long hair or intends on reaching that state - NOT someone posing as such. Frauds like this should leave their advice with themselves as I'm not interested.
Simply bemusement, sir. Expecting to meet with hostility? Seems like you have not taken my previous advice to heart yet.
You were not in the least plain, "Only real longhairs or those that are really trying to grow their hair long need respond" tells nothing about what a real longhair is. I assume you have a particular definition of long to become a noteworthy response. I find it is a wonderful thing to be assisted by any and all people that can help. Besides, hair length is never a guarantee of hair knowledge.
Fraud is an interesting thing you mention here. When it comes to frauds there are others that come to mind more readily than the beloved and pleasant Lucks Kind you seem preoccupied with. I am content to learn of him in writing and thank him for his contributions. Nobody here needs to prove anything to be shown basic respect.
Miss Elizabeth Regina
Ignore negative comments, respond in kind to positive comments.
Simply treat people the way you would like to be treated, real
longhair or not.
For Compliments: Say, "Thank you."
For Insults : Either say nothing, or simply, "Ok." There's nothing more enjoyable than shutting someone down by making it obvious you couldn't care less about their opinion (which, if you are a "true" long hair, you really couldn't care less about).
Do I qualify?
For Compliments: Say, "Thank you."
For Insults : Either say nothing, or simply, "Ok." There's nothing more enjoyable than shutting someone down by making it obvious you couldn't care less about their opinion (which, if you are a "true" long hair, you really couldn't care less about).
Do I qualify?
although I probably am not a longhair yet at 8 inches... I certainly get looks because my hair is so big...
It's all about how you carry yourself. If you are doing it to try it out, and you are not making it the centre of you purposly then you won't get negative comments. I get lots of dumb question and some people telling me cut it. But realize they are saying without realizing the effort you put in. They are saying it like: "you need to shave"... take it like that nothing more, nothing less
Usual responses that work when someone says cut your hair are:
"why?"
"why don't you grow yours?"
"why do you even care?"
"i like it like this"
don't shy away from replying, but don't become over-defensive... I never argue about it... The only time I was annoyed is when someone took a scissors and said let's cut your hair... I put him in his place! :)
HairReligion has a load of good quips on his web site
But the sort of reply you need dependents on the person.
Easy targets for quips back are people who shave their head. Lets face it, what demonstrates less "style" than shaving your head? It just says "I can't be arsed!" *buzz*
In a rare occasion where someone who is bald has thinning hair make a comment - Apply the jealousy principal... (but they normally don't enter hair slanging matches cos they are too much of an easy target.)
Women - this is one I struggle with - if a girl slags my hair I'm mortified... any good replies let me know - Maybe I'm just old fashioned but I just can't be rude to a girl!
I guess a good reply, would be something to effect of "Would you like me to slag off your hair now?" - I think that's one of Hair Religions, kudos for that one!
How about a story for them?
In Lewis Carroll's "Alice's Adventures in Wonderland" the Mad Hatter first speaks to Alice by saying, "Your hair wants cutting." Alice replied, "You should learn not to make personal remarks," to which she added, "It's very rude."
With this relation of a short tale you are not saying she is rude directly, but any discourteous girl should be able to interpret the intent of your parable.
Elizabeth
Elizabeth - you are certainly better read than me.
I like the principal, indirect yet still cutting.
Thanks