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The time has finally come for my three year olds first formal haircut. For the past two years I have been able to give a quick trim here and there, but I've put this day off long enough. The grandparents have been hounding long enough and I'm about sick of the "cute little girl" comments. I just thought some of you long-hairs out there might have some suggestions as to haircuts that would leave his hair somewhat long, but not disguise him as a little girl. Also, a couple of stylist I have recently talked to seem eager to cut his much shorter than I would like. If anyone has a stylist in the Houston area they would care to recommend, I would appreciate that.
Well, I can't really suggest any styles that might be good (cause I personally would just let it grow until he decided what to do with it--but that's just me ;) ), but I must say something about the hounding grandparents. Your son is *yours* to raise and make decisions for, not theirs. If you like his hair the way it is, that's all that matters (until perhaps he gets old enough to make a decision). As much as they might like to have his hair be different, they do not have that jurisdiction. So basically, my advice would be to ignore them on this matter and do what *you* think is best.
Let his hair grow as long as he/you like. It doesn't and shouldn't matter what mom/dad or anyone says. Long hair has nothing to do with masculine/feminine. It has to do with individuality. If your son likes it and you like it let him experience it. There are many males with waiste length hair worn in pony tails or a single braid down the back. Why not young children? In any event its your decision. As a young child I was marched to the "barbershop" every two weeks. If it touched my ears it was considered a disgrace. It has taken me many years to get up the nerve to let it grow to the middle of my back. I had to go through the Army thing etc. As a child I secretly wanted my hair long and would pretend to like the bald brush cut look because I was told that is what I was suppose to like. However, thats about me and not you and your son. I am just telling you how parents and society effected me at that time in my life. Today I am my own person and love my long hair. I hope this helps you.
I think I have to agree with Chris on this one as well. Before you make a decision, just know that you will be making the one decision they want you to make. Once you do that, they will use this kind of behavior to compel you to act in their favor. I love my parents dearly, but from early on (since being a teenager) they know that I am going to do what I am going to do. Now, they stay out of my personal life. Every so often my mom will make comments about decisions I make, but I quickly tell her that it is my decision, but I appreciate her input. If I had a little boy (his hair would be long too), I would tell them to keep their comments to themselves if they want to continue to see us. I know that sounds harsh, but I wouldn't want them saying anything which could hurt my child and there's also the fact that they should show respect to me, as I am now an adult. Good luck to you.
Chaeya