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hi, (im male) when i was in playschool up to the beginning of infant i had always had long hair (shoulder length) Then i got it cut, i had it short from junior school to secondary school. In year 7 i wasn't really into the long hair thing, when i moved into year 8 i saw some boys with long hair and i liked it, i was a skater like most of my mates, most skaters have long hair but none of my close mates did. I wanted long hair like other boys so i decided to grow it. I was currently going through puberty at the time and my hair got very thick and wavey at the back. I grew it for about 5-6 months and got ALOT of discrimination from "townies" (u know the meat heads in the school) "get a hair cut" "u ever heard of a hairdresser?" "long haired freak" , so as you can imagine i was kinda annoyed, i was always self-consious about my hair when it was like that, i spent 30mins doing it in the morning, it was at a stage when i had it over my ears, just below the ear-lobes and those sides stuck out so i had like 2 pom poms on each ear, people said i looked stupid, and i knew i did, but i really wanted to get past this stage and just get shoulder length hair! after about 6months i decided to cut it, i couldn't put up with all the harrassment, this was at the beginning of year 9 when i got it cut, and i've regretted it ever since, I am now half way through year 9 and have kept it short. I tried to ignore people, but it's very hard. And it didn't help that my hair was wavey and thick, i just wanted it to be shoulder length, shiney and straight. Please give me some advice on what to do because i REALLY want to try and grow it long again. Thanks.
one of the main things about most "longhairs" is that they are their OWN person
you dont listen to what people think of you, besides, with a-holes like that, there opinion is worth ANYTHING
should be ISN'T!
Well I started growing my hair in Year 10 (now in college with shoulder length), and I can't even begin to tell you how much harrassment I got in High School about it. 'Are you a boy or a girl (not a question, insulting term)', 'get a haircut' etc, from practically everyone including the teachers. The only advice I can give is don't give in this time, you have to go for around a year or more looking like a total idiot then once you hit shoulder length, all is right in the world. I don't get many negative comments anymore (occasional townie abuse, but I had that even before I grew my hair). If you can't stand the comments though, wait until you get out of High School, people are a lot more open minded in college and the real world.
I don't get alot of abuse from people at school,maybe because my hair is straight so it doesnt look that bad in the awkward stage,but I do get the usual comments from some asses,like "cut your hair",you just have to ignore them and if you really want long hair then their comments shouldn't discourage your goal of achieving long hair.
If you want to grow your hair long, you'll have to deal with much negative harassment. I'm a firm believer that wise comments should be met with wise comments. If you're told that you look like a girl, simply ask the guy if he feels attracted. You could also tell him that he looks like one of the many short-haired girls around. As for teachers, well, what I would do would be to go off about the historical context of male long hair. Speak of how long hair was the norm for centuries. Tell how it was groups like Cromwell's Roundheads who first used really short hair as a symbol of rebellion. Speak of how slavemasters would cut slaves hair very short in an attempt to diplay power over them and strip them of their individuality.
Good Luck!
P.S. Where the heck do you live that 'metalheads' are anti-long hair?
Yeah, those bloody townies are so bloody annoying! ARRGGHH...
When my hair was shorter, and it looked stupid no matter what I did with it, I would get constant remarks from townies. The fact that I was in school at the time didn't help at ALL. I was constantly being judged I felt, cos every weekday, I'd have to go to school and endure 800+ students. Most of which are arrogant townies (i've said that word so many times in this post lol).
Well, perhaps I should to the advice...
Just ignore them. You may feel like you want to rip their spine out when they deliver a smart ass comment, but just restrain from doing that, and go about your business.
If you want your hair long, just grow it. Whats the worst that could happen? You'd have to put up with verbal abuse, which don't mean jack really...
I'd also like to add that the fact that most of my friends were townies/borderline-townie (myself being a metalhead lol), so I didn't recieve much abuse as I would have if I didn't hang around them...
Luckily now, I am in my gap year, and by the time I am in uni, my hair will be way longer + presentable :)
But yeah, ignore them :)
PS, I do realise that townies tend to travel in packs... when a group of them comment, best ignore them, eh? lol
Anyways, good luck ;)
I'm in year 10 and yeah, the townies do get annoying, but after a while it just doen't bother me. My hairs been covering my face most of 2003, and most people can't be bothered to take the piss any more. The best thing to do is to ignore their negative comments.
Hi
I got a lot of harrassment at school about my hair, and eventually I caved in too. I then had a wonderful opportunity grow back because the undercut came into fashion... I followed that through we pretty much no abuse from my peers, which was a welcome relief, thought I then had to content with teachers and it was only over the summer hols in year 11 that I really managed to get any results - I then had to cut back cos I was starting a new school where the dress code didn't allow it. (I guess I'm saying I know what its like.)
The best advice I can give you is that as you get to your mid teens, your peers tend to wise up a bit and open up a little more to different fashions, skate, punk, rock, any trend is acceptable, provided its a recogniseable trend. (Know what I mean?)
You mentioned skaters, I'm a little out of the loop, but as I recall thats pretty much a free ride as far hairstyles go, it always used to be about the right clobber...
You probably just got into a little too early... more of your mates will follow suit over the next year and you wont feel so isolated. There's safety in numbers and things get easier.
That's not a dress code. Since when was hair an item of clothing?
It was a long time ago that I went to school, but if any teacher had told me to get a haircut I would have ignored them. They never did, but I did see the deputy head harassing one of the less academic kids over his hair style. Apparently, they didn't bother those of us who did well academically. Not that the other guy got a haircut either, I'm pleased to say.
'Fraid so.. its categorised the same. More completely I believe the section in the prospectus was titled "Dress Code and General Appearance"
Hair styles come into that section, and surprising its legal to have a different "dress code" for men and women. (Us guys are not free to wear skirts or bra's... I know that will dissapoint some people!)
Basically I was new to the school, it all seemed a little prim and proper and as I needed a place do my A-levels I figured I'd better keep a low profile atleast for the start!
As it happens it turned out no-one really cared about that rule and by Easter the following year I had grown my hair longer than it is now, and it still stands as my record length. It was about 8 1/2 inches long and I could chew my bangs!
I'm about a month away from that dubious milestone now!