new thread
Well what can I say except that I feel like I have been mortally wounded like losing a limb. I hope that there are people out there that will understand my loss. All I get with the people I know is that "its only hair , it will grow back!!" I refer here to my worst nightmare coming true the other day. I have' nt been able to leave the house yet for I feel naked now. Five days ago I had long flowing tresses to just below my waist. Its never bothered me before the comments that I get from certain individuals in life. You just take them in your stride when you are a long hair and brush them off (literally) with the contempt they deserve. I never thought it would happen to me I've always worn my hair loose and long. I always figured if a guy is to have long hair he may as well show it off. And this I think was my downfall because when I got home the other day I found out that nearly two foot of my hair had been cut off at the back on the left hand side. I had been coming home late on a bus about midnight as is quite normal. My hair must have been cascading over the back of my seat when I sat down, I never felt a thing!!! It was only when I got home I realised and nearly died!!! I have now had to have the rest neatened up, five years loss and it is only down to my shoulders blades now..
I write this here so all of you guys just take care out there. There are some' horrible people' about. I would like to express that more strongly!!! But that would be sinking to their level. I guess you all understand that its not just hair we are talking about here but our personalities. I feel, well I don't know what I feel anymore!!???
Stuart
What city was this in?
What a psycho! I would think women would need to be mindful of this, too! Who in their right mind would just take it upon themselves to lop off a big chunk of someone else's hair?
Gee, whiz! I feel your loss.
Hey dude, Im sorry that happened to ya. I would feel the same too if someone cut my hair. That just pisses the fuck out of me when i hear shit like that going on. Since 2 feet of your hair is gone just keep growing it back. If your worried of something happening like that again, hide part of your hair. If your out in public walking, let your hair out. Can't trust anyone these days. Remember, this message board has many people who will support ya.
Latez man :-)
I cry for you, man.
Bill
you've been assaulted in a no less insidious manner than a street mugging. 2 feet of hair represents about 4 years of growth. may the idiot who did this to you pass a kidney stone the size of a golf ball
The size of a tennis ball would be more appropos, I think. I deliberatly cut only an inch off of my hair and felt I had been scalped. Two feet would have been devestating!
That's really awful, Stuart. Try not to pay too much attention to the people who say, "It's only hair"... if they've never experienced it, they don't know how it feels. I know it felt bad just losing a year's growth - after a deliberate, but misguided, haircut - losing two feet of hair in a sneak attack has to be much, much worse. While it's true there are worse things that could happen to you, that hair was part of you for years, and you can't just shrug that off as easily as someone might think who's never had (or wanted) long hair. And thanks for sending out the warning - maybe you'll save someone else from going through the same thing.
Oh Stuart, I'm so sorry.
You have every right to feel the way you do and it isn't just hair and it'll grow back, you have been violated! It will probably be a while before you feel yourself again as you will probably go through a variety of emotions.
The only comfort I can offer you is that you can find something that makes you really happy and focus on that during the times you feel your worst. I'm not an expert, but these are the things that have saved me during my roughest times besides my religion.
Warm regards,
Chaeya
Man, do I understand your pain! It is difficult enough to make the decision to cut your long hair, especially if it is only for societal reasons, but to have someone do it literally ³behind your back², now that is a crime! Physical and emotional abuse of the highest order! Certainly not as serious as rape, but it is still darned serious! In fact, I feel it could be categorized as a form of emotional rape. I want to encourage and assure you that as the responses already show, there are many of us who understand what you are going through.
I¹ve grown my hair out many times in the last 30 years, though until the present never more than four or five inches below my shoulders. Each time I cut my hair I went through cultural and emotional shock. I became angry and even depressed! I am thankful that now my hair has been growing for over three years. It is almost halfway down my back and I am more determined than ever to keep it growing longer! This is the first winter in several years that I haven¹t experienced depression (without any meds either). There are more reasons than my long hair as to why, i.e. a more stable job situation, no flood waters in my house (that happened in January 1995), lots of sex (hey I had to throw that in!), more light in our house (my wife and I added a sunroom), but the fact still remains that I am much happier with my hair long.
Unfortunately it takes a long time to heal and a lot of that is related to the growth of your hair. Just remember, you¹re still a longhair inside, and in a short time (I¹m trying to be encouraging here) the world will see that too. Hopefully the fact that others understand will be some encouragement to you. Each day will get you closer to the goal of having your long hair back, so hang in there! And be more careful in the future!
Thanks for sharing your tragedy so that the rest of us might be aware of some unexpected dangers. And let us know how that hair is growing so we can keep encouraging you!
It also constitutes both robbery and mayhem, which are felonies in most states. But good luck in getting shorthaired people like cops and lawyers to take it seriously, as Stuart has already found out. It's human nature for people to only take seriously things that could happen to themselves.
In one way it's far worse than rape. A rape victim can at least walk the streets afterward unnoticed. Sadly, Stuart will suffer the shame of this event every time he is seen, for several years.
In our primitive human psyche, which is what so much controls our feelings, rape is precisely what it is. In prehistoric times, when a village was overrun, the aggressors would rape all the women and shear all the men. A shorn man is, deep in the human mind, a dominated and beaten man, a man marked by another as surely as a dog marks a fire hydrant.
I'd say more than a few guys on here appreciate just what you're feeling, Kent. We have experienced the exhilaration of being free unbeaten men.
Though one feels shame at being assaulted, Stuart should remember he's the victim and the blame properly belongs with others. As you say, Kent, we and all his friends know he's a longhair inside.
The moral is to protect your hair as you would your wallet - put it under your coat or move it to the front. Or be vigilant. We've all heard of kids snipping at girls' ponytails, and in earlier days dipping them in inkwells, so this sort of thing is nothing new. Just as dogs tag fire hydrants, insecure kids seeking to suppress their insecurity by dominating something will tag busses, and they might just try to tag you.
Yes, Stuart, thanks for warning us - your doing so may have spared another the sadness of your great loss. And rest assured that in us are other men who feel your pain and know the loss you suffer to be a feeling very genuine.
I don't believe this story.
I don't believe this either. First, REAL long hairs don't say they wear their hair "long and loose." They say they wear their hair "down." Second, I don't think a real long hair would say they had their hair "cascading" over the seat. They'd say they had their hair "over" the seat. This, my friends, if a fantasy post.
I must disagree with this "language analysis". More guys on this board and in correspondence with me (and I've had my share) use the term "loose" than the term "down". Putting one's hair "up" or "down" is more a female term, simply because women tend to tie their hair higher up on the head, and when they let it go, it falls down. Most men, on the other hand, tie their hair at the base of the neck and when they let it go, it doesn't fall down, it just comes loose. But dude, if you want to say you let your hair down, that's fine by me. Quite a few longhairs use that term, too.
As for the word "cascading", its use reflects social situation and not hair length. Granted, you're not likely to hear it often in a biker bar, but it plays fine on the Internet. Hell, on a drab Internet terminal it adds color.
One more thing - a comment about having people believe one's posts. This applies both to your post and the one you were commenting on, as well as posts in general on this board: Though the e-mail blank is optional, if you're man enough to sign your posts with your name and e-mail address, people will believe them a lot more.
May God Almighty bless you for the courage you had in telling us that
horrible story. It is frustrating, sad, and inhuman that some stupid
animal out there would dare do that thing to you. Let me tell you one
thing Stuart: if that incident would have happened to me I would have
cried the entire night. And I am not kidding. Another thing:if I had been able to catch up the animal who did it, this could have happened:
one of the two would be in jail because I would have attack that
animal with all my strength. Long hair to me is like a spiritual calling. That is why I adopted the name babySamson because I feel that
long hair gives me strength, confidence, and HAPPINESS. I just hope to
tell you my story whenever I have the opportunity. In the meantime, may God give you power, control, and protect you from every evil, specially from biased and narrow-minded people.
May God Almighty bless you for the courage you had in telling us that
horrible story. It is frustrating, sad, and inhuman that some stupid
animal out there would dare do that thing to you. Let me tell you one
thing Stuart: if that incident would have happened to me I would have
cried the entire night. And I am not kidding. Another thing:if I had been able to catch up the animal who did it, this could have happened:
one of the two would be in jail because I would have attack that
animal with all my strength. Long hair to me is like a spiritual calling. That is why I adopted the name babySamson because I feel that
long hair gives me strength, confidence, and HAPPINESS. I just hope to
tell you my story whenever I have the opportunity. In the meantime, may God give you power, control, and protect you from every evil, specially from biased and narrow-minded people.
By the way I forgot to tell you: your hair will groww and grow again.
just be patient. But just remember a note of advice: whnever you are in public act like a woman. Let me explain. When a woman feels secure,
she acts freely and easygoing. You seethem in the movies , shopping malls, beaches, etc. However, you barely see them in dangerous situations. Why? because a woman knows that there are many places she
just can not be alone for risk of physical or verbal assault. Let us
use some common sense to avoid them. bye
May God Almighty bless you for the courage you had in telling us that
horrible story. It is frustrating, sad, and inhuman that some stupid
animal out there would dare do that thing to you. Let me tell you one
thing Stuart: if that incident would have happened to me I would have
cried the entire night. And I am not kidding. Another thing:if I had been able to catch up the animal who did it, this could have happened:
one of the two would be in jail because I would have attack that
animal with all my strength. Long hair to me is like a spiritual calling. That is why I adopted the name babySamson because I feel that
long hair gives me strength, confidence, and HAPPINESS. I just hope to
tell you my story whenever I have the opportunity. In the meantime, may God give you power, control, and protect you from every evil, specially from biased and narrow-minded people.
By the way I forgot to tell you: your hair will groww and grow again.
just be patient. But just remember a note of advice: whnever you are in public act like a woman. Let me explain. When a woman feels secure,
she acts freely and easygoing. You seethem in the movies , shopping malls, beaches, etc. However, you barely see them in dangerous situations. Why? because a woman knows that there are many places she
just can not be alone for risk of physical or verbal assault. Let us
use some common sense to avoid them. bye
But just remember a note of advice: whnever you are in public act like a woman. Let me explain. When a woman feels secure,
Samson,
With all due respect, I think Stuart just needs to be careful period. This has nothing to do with what a woman does or what a man does. I'm a woman and though intuitive, I have gotten myself into trouble simply because I was zoned out, had my mind on other things and flat out not paying attention. These situations are going to happen every now and then. Stuart was on a bus and I have been on buses with my hair hanging over the seat (without my knowledge) and have had young children yank the hell out of it and now I make sure now my back is pressing my hair into the seat. I'm sure Stuart has learned his lesson in this.
Chaeya