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okay, nobody can say it and then i have to do so, but i was told in the last few days from 2 people, i should cut my hair. the second person was a woman. i showed my pic on another board. okay, i agree, that my hair looked not best at the moment of taking the picture, but i do not wanted to wait any longer for taking a picture. but i think that was my failure. and another failure was to post my picture. i had have knowen, that somebody attacks me. it's a shame, but it is so.
you ask yourself what i want to say ? i don't know it myself. am i worth less, because i have long hair ? am i worth less, because i am thick ? am i worth less, because my nose is a little bigger than other ones ? there are so many questions, i cannot answer and a lot more i cannot discribe in english i think.
i don't wanted to nerv you with my problems and the bad english. good night and sorry.
Although I'm 43 years old and SHOULD be used to hearing of incidents like this and SHOULD have developed a sense of humor about them... I haven't. It never ceases to astound me how some rude and classless clods will give unsolicited advise to a guy concerning the length of his hair... and think it their right to do so... I mean, really! Would anyone with any breeding go into another's house and, without invitation, say "You should get rid of all your Art Deco furniture and go completely Danish Modern?!" These people should be put in a colony somewhere, amomngst other "like people" to offer tacky comments to each other to their heart's desire ...
I get told by so many people "cut your hair", "you look like an idiot" "why do you keep growing it" and then i think to myself..... "wait a minute.....these people didnt care about me when my hair was short either, why should i listion to them now?"
For some odd reason people are 100% agianst hair growth, its a shame, and in this society, there are alot of @$$ holes that get off on mocking a person on the way they look, and its un-fair, the key is.....Your doing this, for you.....If you wanna grow your hair, you keep doing it, dont ever be stoped becouse other people mock you, belive me i would put money that about every person who posted here probly had this happen to them once as well.
of course i want to do that.
Dude, you are not worthless...
no one in this world ist worthless. and you have done no failure.
Your "worth" is what you DO and not how you look.
And you should be proud of your hair, and if it does not fit into other`s people view of THEIR world, what matters...
BUT you can get self esteem and that makes you a better person in YOUR world.
i have once posted a few progress pics on THIS board and have been
severely attacked by someone anonymous (the members of this board are very, very helpful)not because for my hair, but for my overweight!
If someone has fun with insulting you (usually people with low self esteem)he will grab you at your weakest point.
In my case that has surely not been my hair!
So, wear your`s with pride; its a part of your personality and its what makes you different..special..
good luck!
michael
yes. thank you für your comments and good look to you, too. :-)
Well, its a good thing you're not growing it for them!
No problem nerving us with your problem concerning Long Hair. Those that make these "out-of-place, none-of-their-own-business remarks" are nothing more than the pitiful attributes of Society. Being a sensitive person, the remarks bother you to no end. If possible, just try and ignor these ignorants with no sense of mannors and enjoy whatever way makes you happiest with your hair. Afterall, if you DID cut it all off, there would STILL BE those out there to ridicule you. I would pay them no attention. Good Luck and do what makes YOU happiest. (To please everyone else in the World is impossible.)
i think you are right.
thank you. :-)
And of course you ignored them and their personal opinions, right? Not allowing it to upset you or follow you past your brief contact with them on the board.
Their opinions are of no consequence to you since you have already made your own decision(s) for yourself.
I have an idea of how you feel, I thought the same, but we are all just the way nature made us and something that looks bad is just a matter of perception. There will be many people out there who would think you looked awsome, but does it even matter what people think?
I noticed these things myself because growing my hair made me aware, and I lost confidence in my appearance when I was constantly laughed upon. There isnt really a solution to this unless you change your appearance in some way, but what is the point? Enjoy what you have, its a lot!
Here ya go, Honey...I am woman. Here me roar! I really prefer guys with long hair...I have a guy friend with almost shoulder length hair, an' lots of people (mostly other guys with short hair) Are always telling him to cut it...Quite personally, I think that the long hair looks really good on him...it just fits his personality. So I say go with whatever -you- want to do. But keep in mind that a lot of those other guys are just jealous because they don't have the patience to grow their own hair out.
maybe that is the point.