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I've been growing my hair for 4 months on a 16 month plan . Already there are a lot of people who don't like the idea of my growing it. It's only 3in. and Ive heard "get a hair cut" "cut your hair" "you'll look dumb"," why are you growing it?" It's pretty annoying.Whats the easiest way to deal with people like that? It makes me mad. I don't want to be mad for trying to be myself. They don't understand that it's harder to grow it than to buzz it all off. What do you guys say when this happens to you?
much appriciated
-Sean
The criticism will probably get worse as you go into a full blown awkward phase.
But if you ever get to the point where your hair is actually very long,
people may actually back off because by that time you will
be far beyond the point at which you just be 'needing a haircut"!
This 'Journey' is not an easy one for most people.
Best wishes & good luck! (and if you happen to 'give up' go easy
on yourself!)
I usually just ignore any comments, I haven't really gotten much if any since people saw I was serious about really growing it out. My mom teases me about it now though and says its better, because she can grab me by the hair now x_x lol. But even she's become more tollerant and more accepting. For every person that disagrees with the idea, they'll always be that much if not more people who will accept it. Besides, its what you think personally about your hair, and your goals. Telling people to get a hair cut is like telling them to go jump off a bridge with a bunch of friends just because they said so.
thanks everyone, that helped a lot.
-sean
You just have to stick to your original plan. It is hard at first, but the way I look at it, if I get annoyed at other peoples comments and change it, then they win, so just let them say whatever, as long as you keep growing it youll have it to throw in their faces.
gel, it's the key to the male akward stage
People are going to be stupid and tell you to cut it or something like that. Don't let it get to you. Keep growing. Have courage and tell people that you want it long.
I dont get it so much now, even though my hair is still "mid-lenght" (8.5 inches). But I used to, get those kinda comments...
When people told me to "get a hair cut" or "cut my hair", I normally just said, "No, I'm growing it..." Typically that generally produced one of the other comments you mentioned:
"you'll look dumb", - "Hmmm, I dont think so, why don't we wait and see?"
OR "Why are you growing it?" - "Glad you asked... " then I'd launch into some reason (normally untruthful) about why I wanted to grow my hair.
Generally you can choose to do two things, ignore it, and eventually the comments will deminish, or challenge them and offer some decent comebacks and stop them dead.
Here were some of the better reasons I gave others for wanting to grow my hair:
- If I dont grow it now, and I wind up bald by the time I'm 30, I'll regret never giving it a go.
- I'm sick of been a short hair conformist!
- I've become a Seik.
- My head is cold.
- It gets me laid... 1/10 women like men with long hair 1/50 men have long hair.. do the math!
- My Girlfriend likes it.
Hope that helps...
I like this one LOL, very true, it can and will get you laid. Thanks to women like me
Yeah, I cut my hair, now im right back, growning it back again, should have never cut it, im pissed. That is what i've been thinking lately, my hair was about into the 6th month. I did not take advice from a web site that said, wait a week and if you have any douts in your decision...then don't cut it...or something like that... I took in what every one said ...then I cut my hair...im letting it grow back now but damn I with I never cut it...dont cut your hair....and tell people what you think you know...I should have...o you look like shawn cassidy...I should have stared talking crap back.... well hope it helps you....From ace