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Well I spent the weekend in Banff for a high school trip its about a 6-8 hour drive from where I live its in the mountains basically a skiing city. Anyways a couple of my friends that were girls wanted to do stuff with my hair and seeing as the two I allowed I trusted pretty well I said ok. So basically I discovered that guys are way to cautious with there hair. I am no longer paranoid at all about damaging my hair after seeing what the ladies go through with there hair. First off one of them was brushing my hair and I am very very carefull but they actually put some tough pulls into it to get the knots out. Then some of the hair styles like I guess kind of bun like ponytails that are fairly high up on the head they really pull the hair quite tight to get into these. I mean I dont know how some of them tolerate this as the majority of them are quite uncomfortable. So basically i thought to myself I dont put my hair through any of this abuse brushing very carefully, ive only ever blow dried two times in the 2 years ive been growing and I only wear my hair in low loose pony tails. Where as these girls put there hair through so many types of abuse each day and it still looks healthy and isnt damaged.
I've seen the same thing and I know what you mean. We fuss over whether silicones, ammonium, sodium etc are damaging and walk on proverbial eggshells with our hair. At the same time our sisters beat their hair up everyday. Being careful is a good thing but if it gets to be to inconvenient I figure just try to avoid those things that cause the most damage.
And how long was their hair? Try going through the same treatment at the hands of some girls with knee-length hair. I think you'll find they are MUCH more gentle. Hair can tolerate abuse like that for a while, but if you want really long hair, it has to survive whatever abuse you give it for years, literally. Any damage from tugging hard at tangles adds up, and the longer your hair grows, the more visible it becomes.
Ah you make a good point. I wasn't saying that I was going to begin being rough with my hair though what I meant was I felt good knowing that I took better care of my hair then most of them. As for hair length one has hair to her shoulders and the other about half way down her back.
Very true! Though I yank a brush through my own hair I take extreme care to be gentle on anyone else's hair. I don't know how it feels on their head so I am not about to be rough. Being tenderheaded is an individual thing, like pain tolerance in general, so I would not go about playing with a guy's hair with the same zeal I would use to experiment on a doll.
My best friend doesn't have any spare hair to lose so whenever I am happily combing his hair I am cautious about working out any snarls with the least amount of tugging. It is my turn to cringe when I watch Bill tear through his tangles in the morning. He knows what is too rough on him but it looks horrific to an observer, same as he feels when watching me I bet. Difference is I don't care about my hair but am loopy for his. Now if only I could get him to appreciate his hair as much as I do.
Elizabeth
So would it be safe to say that a fair amount of girls, even those with really healthy hair, use blowdriers? Of those I've spoken to, I'd say that a little more than half don't use a blowdryer, but I don't know if this is indicative of girls in general. Any women here care to comment?
Well the majority that I know do use blow dryers and did while we were in Banff. I myself just showered the night before and allowed my hair to dry naturally before goin to bed.
Most girls who have "long" hair seem to keep it a certain length (2-4 years of growth) and once it's there that length allows for a certain amount of abuse because you keeps getting replaced and the hairs aren't allowed to get so old that the abuse will show.
When they pull it back tight it doesn't always affect the hair but over time it does affect the scalp. Many of the styles that they do their hair in also look great but tend to distract you from noticing the damage that some of these styles and care inflict over time.
I get scads of women commenting on how they want my hair because they can't get their hair to look healthy anymore. But when I look at their hair the damage is very apparent and when I question them about what they do to their hair it's like a list of things not to do. Sometimes the trade off is worth it for them.
Some of it is just a matter of learning to recognize what damaged hair looks like especially when people are trying to make it not looked damaged. We've had a few disagreements on the board in the past about what looks like the ultimate hair because often the picture that is being presented is a style (or celeb) that someone likes and wants to imitate but doesn't yet know that they are actually looking at damaged hair (and they don't want to hear it when you point it out).
You need not be paranoid about damage to your hair, it's actually very tough stuff, but if your goal is to grow very long hair then minding a few good tips can make a big difference in reaching that goal (and many women don't follow those tips). The advice I tend to give here is for very long hair growth because there is a great difference between hair to your waist as opposed to hair to your shoulders.
Hair religion, could you tell me, with hairas long as yours, does it tug on your scalp and make your eyes water. sorry for the vague question, i dont feel too well as I have posted earlier!
Thanks
No it doesn't. But I wear it loose most of the time.
If I braid it or tie it back and it isn't balanced perfectly it will pull on some hairs and cause my scalp to ache until I take it out. If I have the braid supported by a hat or something then the weight is taken off of those parts that are pulling and it is ok.
It's really about learning how to distribute weight (like anything).
I would think that if someone's eyes are watering because of having your hair tied back then it is way too tight and if you are having headaches then wearing it loose more of the time or finding a different solution might be in order.
Thanks for the info. Another point that just came up is how one of the girls today was showing me that pulling her hair doesnt really hurt whereas for me it hurts like hell. Is this due to damage or is it actually just getting used to the pain from constantly wearing styles?
Could be, maybe her numbness is speaking of early damage.
My mother used to wear her hair tied up in a tight bun on top of her head in medical school so it wasn't in the way but after years of this she stopped because she developed a balding spot where it pulled.
Your nerves are there for a reason.
