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I'm going to leave the board because all these stories about people having to cut their hair because of pressure, be it from "friends", parents, whatever, are beginning to wind me up.
I'd rather leave than start leaving angry replies.
Long hair forever.
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JoNty
Hang in there, it won't last forever. We enjoy all members, don't let it get to you! Smile :)
...how withdrawing your participation and support can be a response to posts chronicling events that show a need for your sympathetic anger.
best to show some empathy- your response could make someone feel a little better.
Yeah I don't get it either?
The Other week you had Hair Cut troubles yourself? How can you justify leaving just because you are now hearing about other people's problems rather than your own?
Hey - It's your call man - we can't keep you here.
I've been reading the stories for months.
It's basically my mentallity. I can't help it but get a little bit irritated when someone gives in and cuts their hair when they clearly don't want to.
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JoNty
When someone gives in and cuts their hair, that could be encouragement to you due to you not cutting and keeping it growing.
I don't mean racking up points for each person who gives in, but you're more successful than they are in the hair respect at least!
Forgot to mention, I don't have anything against helping people with their technical hair problems.
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JoNty
Picture Purged
The trials and tribulations of the people on this board, positive or not, are all apart of being a longhair. I think its cool that people share their frustrations here when they are forced to shear their locks.
you should consider using it for your posting pic!
thanks! webmaster, is it possible to upload a new posting pic myself?
Yes, I
would also like to change my pic, who chose my pic to be displayed as this! :s
To start the users directory off, we gathered photos we already had. Much of this came from the information Sherri collected from everyone. We've also added people when they've posted introductions of themselves and it appeared they wanted that to be their current photo. For some who have continually linked their home pages, we took what appeared to be their favorite picture from there.
Bill
Man, your hair's looking AWESOME!
...previously to someone who said he was going to leave because of taking offense to religious-based posts, leaving the board is not the answer. Allowing your emotions to get the best of you on this board will only frustrate you on ALL message boards and, indeed, in life.
If you find your emotions running out of control, then simply DON'T READ a post that you think might set you off and don't respond. (i.e. you see a post that's titled, "I'm cutting" or the like, then don't even open the strings!) Otherwise, as others have already posted, respond with support or even an angry post if you wish since you are entitled to your opinion.
Inherent in a message board is the open invitation for differing opinions. Inherent in life is that there are going to be differing opinions. Learn to control your emotions instead of having your emotions control you. It will help you with all situations where differing opinions are inherent, including life and this message board.
I'd say I'm pretty well in control of my emotions. I think I just have less patience for certain things.
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JoNty
Without debating about the definition of the word "emotion", let me rephrase. In my opinion, you are letting your "state of mind" (impatience, being an emotional state of mind) control your actions rather than you controlling your state of mind (i.e. "impatience"). Again, allowing your impatience to control you to the point of walking away from this board, in my opinion, is not the best approach, both for this board, any other message board and in life. In fact, it sends a negative message to all of us here on the board. Can you imagine how this board, or any other message board, would be if we ALL were impatient to the point of walking away?
You stated, "I'd rather leave than start leaving angry replies", yet that's just what you've done. In effect, you ARE leaving an angry reply to all those that posted they were going to cut.
As I previously stated to you and the other fellow that left, where there is post that causes "impatience" or any other emotion/state of mind that makes you feel that unhappy, either 1) ignore reading and posting on that thread or 2) reply with your opinion. Again, in my opinion, leaving the board is not the best answer to oneself feeling impatient. But, I also don't believe in doing something you're not happy with. Choose as you must...
I agree with you that you should not give into to pressure if possible, but I dont see why it would irritate you so if others do. Some people may just not be stubborn enough to get what they want, whereas you and i may be. But really if you love something enough you would never give it up, so these people musnt have been as attached to their hair as they thought...or they cared too much of what others thought over what they wanted, so its their loss not yours so dont let it bother you.
Why the fuss? If you don't like the nature of a certain post, why then read it if you know it's going to upset you?
Cheers
