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Hi guys! My name is Monique. I'm 30 years old, married to a wonderful, handsome man who has beautiful long hair, and we have an adorable 15 month old baby daughter. I also have two stepdaughters.
I love this website! You men are soooo beautiful and handsome with your gorgeous long hair! I really love long hair on men! And it's interesting reading what you guys write about your long hair.
Guys I have a question for you. My husband has really beautiful, straught, long, dark blonde hair about a third of the way down his back and he is growing it even longer 'sigh', I love his long hair and always encourage him to grow it as long as he can.
My husband though only wears his hair two ways; either loose and hanging down, or pulled back in a ponytail.
Now don't get me wrong, I love his hair those ways, but sometimes I would like him to wear it other ways too.
I have told him I would braid his hair for him, or put it in an updo for him, you know, just do different things with his hair, but he won't let me do that with his hair. I think he feels it is "femmy" for a man to have his hair braided or put into an updo. I have told him that I feel that is ridiculous, my husband is a very masculine guy, he has a masculine face, a strong athletic build, a neatly trimmed beard, a baritone voice, you know , he is a very handsome and masculine man! And other masculine men sometimes wear their long hair in braids or an updo. I mean Willie Nelson even has braids sometimes. Japanese warriors used to wear their long hair in updos. Native American Indian men wear braids. Some White guys like my husband do too.
So my question is this, How can I convince my husband to let me do different things with his long hair, to try different hairstyles like braids or an updo?
I'm not saying he has to wear his hair in those styles in public(although I would love it if he did that when I was with him!), but at least when we are together at home, I would like him to let me braid his hair or especially put his hair up.
He does let me detangle and brush his hair, I do help him take care of it, but he only lets me do that.
I really love my husband and he does many nice things for me as I do for him, but he hardly ever lets me do different styles with his hair. How can I convinve him to let me put his hair in braids or put his hair up for him?
Thanks for reading this.
Much love,
Monique
How can I convinve him to let me put his hair in braids or put his hair up for him?
It is your husband's hair and ultimately his choice as to how he styles it. So love him, his long hair, and don't fret that he isn't inventive with his coiffure. There are far more serious matters to worry about.
Just my 0.02 cents.
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Thank you for your reply Silverback.
I know there are more serious things to worry about. I'm not complaining about it. I love my husband's long hair. I appreciate it that he wears it long.
I was just attempting to get a guy's point of view on what I could possibly say to my husband to get him to try different styles. Don't get me wrong, I love his hair just the way it is.
I would just love to put his hair in braids or in an updo. He has never let me braid his hair, and only on very rare occasions does he let me put his hair up. I was just wondering what you guys thought about this.
I would just love to put his hair in braids or in an updo. He has never let me braid his hair, and only on very rare occasions does he let me put his hair up. I was just wondering what you guys thought about this.
That's just it...if your husband hasn't expressed interest in braiding or up-do's by now, he probably isn't interested in doing so. He's a guy (who happens to have long hair) and most likely views such fancy styles as being "fussy" or "prissy." Granted, I've never met him and don't know his temperment, but I'd just let well enough alone and enjoy what you already have. Many wives would KILL for a husband with long hair :-)
Oh, I don't know. It took my friends a good six months of working on me to get me to grow my hair out in the first place - I'll bet he can be convinced. I think a lot of the ideas that have been thrown out are good ones - but continuous encouragement will be the deciding factor, methinks. That and show him picturs of how good guys look with braids and updos. Maybe that will help him along in the process. : )
Best wishes,
-Stefan
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My thanks to all of you guys for your replies.
I think I do have to work on him in subtle ways without pushing him too hard about it. Good suggestions by you guys.
If it is something you would like to encourage your husband to do, I would recommend some reward therapy -
Tell him you want to treat him to a relaxing evening - put him in the bath, maybe a glass of wine... or beer... a massage, head rub, nice music. something like that.
Then when he is relaxed, stroke his hair (we all love that feeling) and play with it. Maybe you could put it in a nice braid.
Remember to subtly say that you think it suits him, and let him know if you think he could wear it out.
Another small idea is to invite him to something semi-formal. Wearing a suit often encourages longhairs to put their hair back or up. You could offer to braid it for him.
Ultimately, as I think Bill or Victor mentioned, it is his hair and his choice - theres nothing you can do to persuade him. But encouragement might help. At least he may try it for you.
Hope it works out.
wolfeyes
Ask him if you could make a braid, with the promise
that if he looked at himself in the miror and did not like it,
you would unbraid it immediately!
But as far as 'updos' are concerned I say...
it's never going to happen!
Good Luck!
Agreed, 'updos' are a bit much in my own taste and opinion.
I see lots of "let me play with" there. Maybe he's not into hair play. Does he ask to do all those things to YOUR hair?
It sounds like you want your husband to express a more feminine side, maybe he is too masculine for you.
If he's a very masculine guy (sounds like by your description) then unfortunately, it's very unlikely he would let you give him an updo. A braid in the future is a possibility though, just express to him that you would really like to see him in a braid, perhaps when playing pool, make a bet that if you win, he'll let you give him an updo or a braid only. He might enjoy it.
Hello Monique,
I'm a french man, 40 years old, and I grow my hair now from 5 years.
I have at the middle of my back, and many persons say it's look fine, but my wife don't like it, and want I cut it very short.
She never brush my hair, or make any think with, and for me it's a problem.
How you mean I can interessed my wife to touch my hair, have you a idee ?
Thank's
Try showing an interest in her hair, maybe she'll then take an interest in yours. Ask her advice about things to do with your hair (besides cutting it off) eg: styling, shampoos or conditioners. Generally if you take an interest in an aspect of someone-else's appearance, you can generally swing the conversation to include you aswell. This way if you can both talk about each others hair, then you'll be able to get her interested in yours.
Many thank's for your answer, and I will try this why not?
Picture Purged
Hi Monique:
Well I guess I'm in the minority here. I frankly like pushing boundries and enjoy the versitilty of my mid back length hair. I've worn many of the styles you are talking about. I really don't think how I wear my hair effects my since of masculinity.
Here is a photo of one example:
Agreed, I'm cool with girls wanting to "play" with my hair. Its not that long (chin/shoulder) length, but still I have girls wanting to mess around with my hair. Provided they don't cut or damage it, I'm up for it. I guess I just like the attention. (*think: slut*)
But each to their own, some people like it others don't
You've already heard this in a couple of ways now, but I have to say as sweet sounding as your post is, for my part I would say back off--way off. This is your husband's hair, that is, part of his body. Respect it. He will (does) do with his hair what he wants to. Anything less than that turns him into your creation of him. Is that what you want?
Men spend a great deal of their lives, in my opinion, conforming to the demands of others. They began doing that for their mothers, then for teachers, then for bosses. For many, spouses join the ranks. It's really an unhealthy way to live, as a man, and an unhealthy way to relate to a man.
Let him be. If he wants his hair braided, or otherwise, he now knows that you will help him do that. He probably knew that anyway. Anything more, and I think you are crossing into bad territory.
Robert
A very sensible and well written reply. I agree with everything you say, but I would also like to say that I am sure we would all like to be lucky enough to have such a supportive partner as Monique in growing our hair.
There's been some good responses already, but I think it comes down to the fact that you should know your husband better than anyone here. Do you think he has a firm boundary of styles that he will not cross, even to "try it out"? If so, that should be respected. Maybe the more playfull approach will work, like betting the game of pool or something (I have a competative nature, I've been known to hold out on doing in hopes of a friendly competition to arise). In my previous growth to mid-lower back, I found braids very practical for restraining my hair during certian activities, much better than just a ponytail, so you might try that approach.
There are some really interesting styles the old scotts used to wear... I'm thinking about some of the pictures and things I've seen, and I believe they (and other celts) used braids for thier men as well as other hair decorations seldom used today. Maybe you can find some inspiration there, or maybe its just that I'm mostly scott and have a soft spot for flowers in my hair.
Here is a link I ran across with lots of celtic hair resources, including styles and accessories.
http://www.apryl-knight.com/hair.html
Wow! I wear my hair in lots of different styles, and I would just love it if my wife took an interest in styling it for me. But alas she doesn't. But, guess what? That's me. Your husband, on the other hand, gets to make his own choices. Come to think of it, most of the WOMEN I know, don't do much with their hair either.
Hi Monique,
Personally I wear my hair in a lot of different ways but I don't go much for overtly 'feminine' styles and it sounds like your husband doesn't want to either, so you'll probably have to accept that.
Nevertheless, if he wants to try some different hairstyles, there are many options:
He may want to try a half tail (ie like most of the characters in Lord of the Rings wear). I sometimes wear a half tail with the 'tail' part braided.
Another option is a low tail with sections of it braided (at intervals) - a very unique look, unfortunately my hair is too short for this, it looks best when you've got very long hair.
Sorry, I don't have photos of these.
If you are showing styles to your husband, it may be best to find pics of men, as opposed to women, modelling them. I'm sure that if you did a search of "bikie pics" or something, you would see some very interesting braided styles worn by men.
Monique is a popular mane for females in America. You don't need to be French to be named Monique!
Monique,
I have the exact opposite problem with my wife....she doesn't like touching/playing with my hair. I've always loved playing with her hair, even when I had very short hair. And she always told me she loved me playing with hers (braiding, trying new styles, updos, etc.)
Now that mine is long, she does not touch it. She prefers short hair on men, but she supported me growing it since it's what I wanted. I'm grateful that she supported me growing it. I just wish she'd enjoy playing with it, like you described.
Oh well....at least your husband has longer hair and my wife let me grow mine ;-)
Monique,
Your husband is very lucky that you adore long hair.
I also love long hair and its great your are encouraging him to grow it longer. Maybe he will grow it past his waist. Wouldnt that be dreamy.
If I were your spouse I would be so happy if you would braid my hair or put my hair up for me. I would find it all very enjoyable.
Maybe you can let him know how much you love braiding. There are some nice pictures of long hair on this site and at the long hair site.
Let us know how things work out.
Shelby
