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Hey all,
I'm a longhaired guy in his mid 20's who seems to attract ONLY older women; women in their thirties and fourties. I'm sure all you longhaired guys my age and older find the same thing. I love older women, i think it's awesome i attract them, a lot of them are sexy as hell, but i just wish it could be the same with chicks my age also. Finding women in their 20's who like longhaired guys is almost like trying to find a needle in a haystack it seems. Can anyone relate? Any thoughts?
Well, to be honest, I've always had the same problem... there was only a brief period of about 2-3 years when women my own age found me attractive. Thankfully during that period I found my lovely girlfriend (who's actually 3 years younger).
But mostly my dad's friends - in their 40s and 50s will chat me up... I think maybe it's because (and I'm going to sound sexist when I say this) by this stage of their lives, women have finally discovered what it is they want in a man - *generally* women have no clue what it is they want - the younger ones especially. The ones who have a rugged man who makes love to them all night want a nice sweet guy who will cry and write poetry... and vice versa.
Please do not take me as sexist in saying this - it's only a theory, and I have more offensive things to say about men in relationships than I do about women.
So anyway, to the point, older women realise that they want a nice genuine, semi-good-looking guy with energy and potential... and possibly a tight bum.
So if you fit that description then there's your answer LOL
wolfeyes
*generally* women have no clue what it is they want - the younger ones especially. The ones who have a rugged man who makes love to them all night want a nice sweet guy who will cry and write poetry... and vice versa.
Your right man, I notice chicks my age seem to like sensitivity a lot more in a guy than a more rugged guy. It kind of confuses me but I am only 16, lol. ~Peace~ Blonde
Young women generally get whatever men they want (lets face it, a man would almost never say no sex, whereas women get to pick and choose). They learn later on what they really need to look for. Cos when they're young, they don't GET to look. They're looked AT. :)
My fiancee is 6 years older than me. She's 30.
And it was the same for my dad too.
When I was in high school and college most girls wouldn't give me the time of day because they were more interested in the "bad boys". I'd meet those same women at reunions 10, 15, 20 years later, and they would tell me they actually liked me back then because I was such a nice guy and wished they had spent more time with me.
I disagree with you. There are plenty of younger women out there who appreciate and are attracted to long hair. Maybe you're in the wrong crowd. I'd say that there is a scarcity of women who are attracted to anything that is too long (like wasit-lentgh), but as a 19 year old guy who isn't all that attractive, I get more complements about my hair than anything else. I don't see this as any type of barrier.
I've been hit on by several attractive 20-something women since my hair's been longer. I find it terribly flattering, even if I don't date women. Want me to send them your way? :-) But seriously, maybe it's part of living -- as I mentioned in a post somewhere below -- in a town that's very longhair friendly.
I am in my twenties and I have yet to find more than a couple people that like what I am doing with my hair. So I looked around and found some opinion polls on the internet, and while they are far from scientifically conducted, the consistency of the results tells me that they paint a pretty true picture. It appears that in whatever age demographic that is replying to these pools (probably teenagers and early twenty somethings) only 1/6 prefers long hair on guys. So the decision to grow it out had better be something you want to do for you, not for thr women. /shrug
Think of it as a way to weed out all the women you don't want....
Hmmm... Let's see, one woman in six prefer men with long hair. One man in fifty has long hair... You are free to do your own math, but that sounds pretty great to me!
Just as well I got me a girlfriend first LOL!
wolfeyes
I'm 20. I know a lot of girls younger and a little bit older than me, and a lot of them can't get enough of the long hair thing on guys. I soppose it's because of one of the scenes I run with.
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Nichol
You call that old? Well, I have to say that I seem to attact mostly young women in their 20s and 30s.
I agree, that isn't old...the reason i refer to them as "older women", is because i'm younger...i don't mean anything negative by it.
lol. last time i checked, 30s and 40s is OLDER than 20s.
I think it's the people you mix with. Occasionally when I go drinking down town with my friends, I see no longhairs at all. Most guys who 'go on the pull' are either skinheads, or or hair gelled and spiked so much you can see your reflection in it 20 feet away!
For example, a few weeks ago, I was in a club called Revolution talking to some girls when I spotted a longhair walk behind us wearing a cap and surf clothes. I think he looked cool, but he looked like he was having a hard time trying to fit in, he was just being ignored all the time!.
When my hair is longer, I hope I don't get the same treatment.
Usually, on the very rare occasion that I glimpse a longhair in a club, he tends to get the most success by not dancing or going looking for girls, they just come to him! Some people get all the luck!
You say Usually, on the very rare occasion that I glimpse a longhair in a club, he tends to get the most success by not dancing or going looking for girls, they just come to him! Some people get all the luck!
As I reported at the time, I went on an office Christmas party with a group, roughly half male half female. One of the other lads was definitely on the pull. He has short spiky hair, and generally good looking. He had no success at all.
On the other hand, I am more than twice his age, not much to look at, but have long hair, although not much on top, and a woman (of about 30) from one of the other tables came up to me as she was leaving, threw her arms around me and said 'Goodnight, ponytail.'
I think if you are distinctive and look different from the rest of the crowd, you will be noticed. If there is something about you that is attractive to one of the people that notices you, you will pull without much or any effort. In exactly the same way, I can go into a room with any number of people, and I bet I can spot the girl with the longest hair and tightest jeans in half a second because that's what appeals to me.
It's being different and distinctive that counts, as well as the senario your in. Girls are more likely to approach you if you look 'cute' and especially if you've got long hair. But for other women, the more alcohol they drink, I think the more testosterone they consume (i'm not sure about this) and basically they don't care about cuteness, its usually they want a full on masculine guy.
Here's the thing, man.. And I've given this advice many times on these boards.
WHO CARES!! Do not even let this thought cross your mind. Dont even think about it. Just be happy with yourself, be cool and comfertable and the girls will not only accept, but come to LOVE your hair. Trust me.. If you love it, they will too. But you have to be 100% confident about it, if you're at all self concious about it, it'll show.. But it's a very good thing to have something like long hair, it helps a guy stand out. Just try to wash it now and then, i hear girls like that too... go figure.
Great advice here, and not just for hair...if you have confidence and are comfortable with yourself, you will be attractive to others in the ways that count!
I'm 32, I seem to attract lots in their late 30's, 40's, and I've had a few comments from 50+ women. Rarely anything from women my age or younger.
Yep, i also attract those in their 50's as well, forgot to mention that. I believe these women are like this because they grew up during the 60's, 70's, and 80's, where at the time long haired guys were prevalent and abundant. I think the problem with mine and your generations is that they're not used to long hair on guys, it's not something they grew up seeing much of. A lot of it is also because it's not "trendy" at the moment. So many women in their teens, 20's, and very early 30's only seem to like what's trendy. How much more pathetic can you be??? I can't stand people like this. If there was suddenly a long hair resurgence within the next year, you'd see how fast they'd suddenly come to like long hair. I say if it looks good, keep it!..who cares what the trend is at the moment.
I'm relatively new to the board but yes, I've had that experience. Women in their late 20s to their 50s would comment on my hair; very few girls my age (20) say anything all that positive about it. Oh well...
Girls in general don't seem to be interested in me, but last time anyone did show an interest was when I last had long hair...
I'm a woman that loves long hair on everyone!
I was really hoping that with movies like Lord of the Rings with so many long hairs men (and women) featured that having long hair would be much more acceptable now.
I am 18...not the biggest fan of short hair.
-Nicole
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Not just older women!
I'm 23 and since my first crush (Michael Praed from Robin of Sherwood) aged four I have always gone for long hair men.
When I was 17 I busrt into tears in the middle of college when one of my friends walked in having had the most beautiful ringlets chopped off by an evil hairdresser - a move he now regrets deeply.
I'd like to say (in a non-scary, non-stalkerish way) that I think you are all gorgeous and your hair is beautiful!
