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hey everyone, thanks for the advice below.
it happened again tonight and they attacked me again with hitting me and pulling my hair and i fought back more this time and now they are going to to cops and claiming that I started it and all they made-up stories about how i got the injurys are very believeable
i dont know what to do nobody believes me,i dont understand this. i might be the one ending up in jail now because of this. this is completly ridiculous
The police will look at the physical reality of the situation. If they are bigger than you are, they will not believe that you were beating up on them. If they are bigger than you are, it is not necessary for them to mutilate you to protect themselves. They are not legally justified to mutilate you for any reason.
They will also look at them to see if THEY are injured, and how. Cops see lots of fights, and they pretty much can tell what is going on.
Support here is good, but nothing beats people "in the flesh" in your home town. Get it from others you know, and for now, get a place to stay. Beg from friends if you have to, man. Get out.
Also, here is one more line one can use if someone is threatening to mess with your hair: If you mess with my hair, you will get nothing from me whatsoever until it grows back out! And then, stick to it if they do! Until it grows back, write 'em out of your life.
Best of luck man.
Hey man, i think Bill pretty much nailed it on the head. get out. Now.
And if you ever do need to talk about it, people here will always be glad to. best of luck.
Sid's right. You need to leave. Do you have no other relatives atall? A distant cousin several hundred miles away would be good right now. How about money? Do you have enough for a bus ticket? Don't worry about friends/education/work etc. You need to get away from these people before anything even worse happens. OTOH, could you try going to a friend's house? You need to weigh up your exit options. I can understand why you wouldn't want to leave, but unfortunately you need to.
Agreed - you need to get down the police station make a statement get your side of the story accross and show them the evidence of your injuries.
YOU WILL NOT WIND UP IN JAIL. Particularly not if you go to the police make you statement, let them know the full picture about what's going on at home.
The other thing you have to do is leave, like it or not, staying around these two bast***ds is the worse thing you can do.
Always remember you can drop in here if you need someone to talk to.
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For your own sake dude, get away from those a$$h**les!! Where is your mom in this situation anyway? Dude, c'mon we're all trying to help you out here. Sneak out of the middle of the night if you have to, JUST GET THE HELL OUTTA THERE!! Sorry about that, Caps Lock.
Here's another form of motivation for you, I hope it sets your soul aflame and allows you to focus and be determined to go to the cops and explain to them everything without taking anymore crap. You have to do it for yourself. Hope awaits you.
P.S. Try posting your story to as many people as possible. Try telling the local newspaper, or Email to CNN or FOX.
-Tonez
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Maybe you could hide out at your church, that's the last place I would look. Again, good luck.
Or maybe in the town jail! [wink] Your abusers initially had you falsely worried about going to jail, but what's sad, you'd be better off there than where you are now. [sigh]
Hope "where you are now" is by now a safe place. Let us know when you get there.
Bill's advice is the best. Get out and get help locally now. And when you go to the polic, take them to this website where you told us about the attack yesterday. Your entry has time date. It won't prove everything, but it will help to document your story. Your entry shows your handle and your email address which they ought to be able to verify on your computer as well.
Abusers don't go away, and they don't stop. You have to act for yourself and get yourself to a safe place.
Robert
PLEASE.............heed this most valuable advice from both Bill and Robert NOW! Get out of that place today.
Justin
Cactus, 3 words for you - GET OUT NOW!
I'm really sorry to hear the abuse is carrying on, and your best option right now is to get away from these sadistic people. Forget about school or work, just take a few things you need and head to the police. Give your side to the story first, they are more likely to believe you if you do this in my opinion, as you are showing you have nothing to feel guilty about.
On the other hand, you may want to do this first, before going to police....
Make arrangments with a distant relative who you trust to be picked up from a safe location and to stay with them.
Don't let this go on any more.
Take pictures as evidence now! Document anything you feel relevent and leave now. It's gonna be tough, just get out of there.
My sincere wishes.
It appears you choose to participate in domestic violence by ignoring almost every posts advising you to (and how to) get out of the dangerous situation NOW. Many people who exercise the freedom to make the wrong choice end up dead, in jail or in the hospital. I don't understand why people in such situations often fail to try anything in their power to escape.
How your failure to escape danger relates to long hair? If you get killed, your long hair would no longer be visible when buried under ground or burned to ashes in cremation. If you kill or injure them and end up in jail, the jail may require haircuts. If you end up in the hospital, when surgery is done they often shave off long hair. All not very good for long hair.
I wish you luck and hope you can make the best choices to improve your odds of survival and keep your hair long.
If you end up in the hospital, when surgery is done they often shave off long hair. All not very good for long hair.
Does this only apply to men, or is it the same policy with women and men, I haven't been in hospital for a very long time.
I think it would be disgusting if they cut a mans head of hair becuase they didn't like it. I would go apeshit on the guy who did it and try to sue him. Man, you've just scared me, I wouldn't like to be reassured my hair won't be cut then they lie and when I wake up my hair would be gone!
When they shave hair, it is usually when they operate on or near the head. For example, a cut on the head that requires stitches would need to be shaved on and near the injury so they can properly operate on it, and probably reduce the chance of infection.
I believe if he wanted to get out of the situation, he would ask us about whatever it is that is keeping him from leaving. Then maybe we could suggest where he could get help. And others reading these posts may benefit from the suggestions. For example, some social service groups can arrange for security to be there for him to remove his possessions. Other may help with finding housing maybe with other relatives who could provide a home.
