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Hi,
Since I have curly hair and am attempting to grow it long, I am often bothered by friends and family (usually those with straight hair) who try to make me feel that having curly hair makes me inferior as a longhair wannabe. It's even more annoying when other guys with straight hair put me down for not having decent "success" because my hair doesn't fall as far down. No, I don't get very much support from any guys or girls with wanting to grow my hair out. Thank goodness for communities like this...any suggestions on how to respond when I am bothered about my hair?
Thanks
don't respond, that will not change anything
just be unaffected by their mockery. they will tire themselves of such inappropriate energy use and stop it. They might even realize how stupid it is to make fun of someone for their hair.
good lock
-vincent
I can remember the really early awkward stage in September. It was the first day of school, and was about 3 or 4 months in growing my hair. I had really frizzy, curly hair. My first period class, the girl that sat beside me started laughing at me...she said she couldn't wait to tell her other friend about the bird nest that I was growing. I was so embarrased. I didn't know how to respond, and I even think I made an excuse to get out of the class. Anyways, it took me a couple of days to get over it. I couldn't stand looking in the mirror and seeing what was considered the "nest" mess. So, that's when I came here and read what other people have gone through too, and realised it's just the price you pay for being different. And now...after about a year, the back of hair touches my shoulders and my conclusion is curly hair looks fine...one girl follows me around and even my teachers come and ask me about my hair. Just riding it out, pays in the long run...ignore the insults.
A lot of women don't understand the awkward stage, because they went through it when they were two. I think that it's amazing how the very same girls who disparage awkward stage hair, just can't get enough of long hair. They don't seem to realize that one leads to the other.
yeah i think that's it
my sister asked me to cut my hair about every time i saw her while i was growing it out.
now she keeps whining about how she's jealous :-)
one more reason to ignore insults and to stick with what you really believe in!
-vincent
I haven't gotten bothered by my hair much (excepting when I had dreads) but when I do I just arch my eyebrows and give this incredulous look which says "and I'm supposed to be offended by this?". It usually stops it. :D
But hang in there, my friend is growing his hair out as well (he's a bit over two years into it) and he has straight hair (therefore looks one heckuva lot longer than mine, though it's just a couple of inches longer). Whenever we go in public together, I'm the one that gets compliments from the ladies.
I think that there's a good chance these people could be jealous. I know a LOT of girls that love more curly/wavy hair on guys, they love the way it looks and they love playing with it. So perhaps these people take it out on you because they wish they had curly hair?
I mean let's be honest- if they were totally comfortable with themselves, why would they feel the need to make fun of you?
Anyway, enjoy your curly hair! It is unique and individual, and when you find the right length/style for you, you will be glad it looks as it does.
Dont bother about what people say. Anyway, they`always criticise.
Curly hair is more attractive to many people.
Simply ignore the negative comments and don't seem bothered about it. They should give up after a while, and even if they don't, keep on ignoring them.
ALWAYS remember that it's YOUR hair, not theirs, and if they feel the need to try and make you feel bad, then there's obviously something wrong with them.
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Nichol
If you don't want to follow the previous advice and simply ignore their comments, then tell your, umm, "friends" that growing out straight long hair is relatively easy, curly hair takes more time, patience and supportive friends.
