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Hi as i have said my hair is getting dry around the back and
ears and many of you said i should get a trim!! which i have been avoiding.
so my mum sais that the woman that did her hair and my highlights is coming round on thursday next week...
so my mum said the woman can give me a trim but last time my hair was about 3 inches she just did what she wanted to do and made a mess of it !!! so i said i had to stard from scratch because i went crap.
so i want a trim but she is the king of person that thinks she knows best !!!!
so i can imagining that she will see my dry ends and say " oh you need about 2 inches of" and tell me what i need to have.
so what shall i do. i could just be very firm with her but then i can imagen getting angry with her.
help wanted ...
She's already proven that she does not respect your wishes. Why would you go back to her? If you feel that you must get a trim, go to someone new, and have a complete understanding with them exactly what what you want before you get in the chair.
Robert
wear a hat when she's there and gently avoid talking about hair with her.
or go take a long walk outside.
or go camping.
good luck
-vincent
But the thing is i want a trim and i am just really worried!!!
just get a trim from someone you trust
Get someone else to trim your hair.
£20 Local Salon, find a stylist who listens to you and you feel you can trust. Explain your goals and makesure he/she has the same ideas you have.
The money is worth the piece of mind.
Or a cheaper option, might be to try and correct the dryness yourself, cutting will only take off the dry ends... If you have a problem with dry hair, this will only reoccur to the fresh ends in a few months time.
If you blow dry your hair, switch to a COLD setting, if you use ceramic straighteners STOP. You'll also probably do better to try a hydrating shampoo. Weren't you trying Aussie Moist?
http://www.herbalessences.co.uk/care/fusions_products.jsp
Trimming will only defer a dry hair problem it won't correct it.
Simple Answer Ben
If your not 100% confident with someone triming your hair, then they shouldn't be trimming your hair. If your not happy with this woman cutting your hair then there is no way in hell you should let her near you.
If your worried you wont be able to keep this woman away from hair without offending her, blag her and your mom off with some crap about this new product you've found which eases the dryness in your hair, so you no longer need a trim... But don't let this person cut your hair, your obviously not confortable with her and there are thousands of other stylists out there who you can have an understanding with.
But given what you've said, you should not less woman cut your hair.
Sorted
If you really want the trim, I suggest you go somewhere else instead, before thursday, so when the day comes she can't cut it because it's already been cut. I don't think you should tell your mother or father about it, just get it trimmed at a very good salon. Be PRECISE about how much you want trim, be very firm with the stylist, don't go in and ask just for a vague "trim", tell her exactly how much you want taken off, emphasize this, tell her in inches, not by squeezing your thumb and index finger together! I think you should take a ruler with you and show her how much you want cut, and I don't think you should say "I want it to blend it" or she might go sissors happy, which you DO NOT want!!!!!
While she's cutting your hair, remind her exactly how much (like 1/2 inch or however much you feel) taken off. Don't let your mother's hairdresser cut your hair, she clearly had no regard for your hair last time, she probably may be jelous of you growing your hair and think it's wrong. Your hair looks absolutely fantastic and I'd hate to see it destroyed.
Hi thanks for your advice, do you live in england surferdude, and if so what salons are the best bacause i rember somone saying dont go to the barber??
I picked up most of that information from what I've read here for the past 5 months, and added a bit of common sense to it.
I live in Wales actually, so I'm not familiar with any salons. You're right about the barbers, they are used to cutting hair short, and they have no clue about styling hair or making long hair look good! Go to a good salon, one which looks friendly, and the people look friendly. Maybe you should give a few a ring or talk to them face to face about your hair and that you are choosing them because you believe they will cut exactly how much you want!
Good luck man!!!
I just remembered, this could be a temporary solution, but try Andrew Collinge 'Perfect endings' hair serum, it promises to re hydrate and strengthen weak hair ends, restoring its softness and shine. It costs £1.50 for 4 small sachets and ASDA sell them. If you use a little bit of this every few days just on the ends that you have problems with, it should work and either strengthen your ends, or make the damage invisible so no one will know you've got dry hair. They'll probably say it looks really healthy!:)
Sorry, am I over emphasising my point?
Stylists are notorious for cutting too much, I just don't understand it, they get paid the same if they cut 1/2 inch vs 2 inches. It basically sounds like you cannot trust her to respect your wishes, instead she will do what she decides is right.
I can certainly understand you not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings. The way I would look at this is that you are risking hurting her feelings for what, maybe a few minutes, which should not be the case if you simply tell her you do not want a trim (don't say you don't want a trim from her). Do you remember how long you were hurt by her last haircut, sounds like it costs you months of growth, vs a risk of her being down for a few minutes.
To thine own self be true.
I'm very short on words. If you don't want the cut don't get it. Why are you worrying about your ends? They just get recked again anyways. Just leave them. You should really only have to cut your hair if you are going to maintain the length you have.
The writing is on the wall in this case so to speak........dry ends and all.
IF you get a trim from this women it will be a dissaster!!!!!!
Your hair looks (from the pics) FABULOUS the way it is.........again, dry ends and all. NOBODYS hair is perfect.
Please, don't "fall for it."
BTW: Have you tried applying "leave-in" Conditioner a little more heavily on those dry ends? This just might solve the problem?
But that Woman you speak of.............Alas, I feel she will upset you to no end if you let her mess around with your hair and make a mess of it.
Be ferm, but not rude. Make her know what you want.
You could take proof photos of your hair, showing how much you want off with a ruler or whateber, and if she takes too much off, complain to her boss.
Or you could seak out a hair place that either understands your needs or specialises in long hair.
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Nichol
