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Last week, three guys came in front of my house and called loudly "homo". They were meaning me. So I went after them and shouted back in a Death Metal voice "Hey".
I told them that if they had somethin to say, I wish that they`d say it to my face and they should come one by one and not as three guys. They couldn`t say anything. I managed not to say any swear words.
What would have been your reaction to this? What else could I have done or can do?
I`d like to point out that these guys are Muslims (like me) and thus are supposed according to the Qu`ran not to insult others.
ALL of us who have manners and good social skills are SUPPOSED not to insult others, but you can't always ensure you don't bump into those lacking such skills.
I suppose you could have said something veiled like "YOU oughtta know!"
With that kind of person, any retort they can actually understand is likely to provoke violence.
Otherwise, I'd say the best plan is to ignore then, be confident about who you are, and don't let other peoples' insecurities and inadequacies bother you too much.
There is nothing you can do to change others, beside being unaffected by whatever they do.
There is nothing they can do to change you, except if you let them. Imagine the worst possible case, someone pissed at your long hair will enter your house, cut your hair and go away dancing madly. What then? It will grow again. There is nothing they can do :-)
religious affiliation means nothing as you noticed....
-vincent
Hm there are various possibilities to react. For example you could simiply do as you have overheard it. But in my opinion that wouldn´t be too good, because then they would still call you a homo. Anothere possibility is getting in contact with them either in a aggressive way, so that they notice that you don´t like to be called gay. Or you could try to talk to them peacefully like "Where do you get the idea from that I`m gay, what has my hair to do with that?, etc..
I think you solved that problem very well, because you probably made them somehow afraid or embarassed.
*thumbs up*
I think he should get a date or a girl, and next time they see you, walk with her, just make sure they see you, that way, it looks like your girl loves your hair, and you're growing it for her, not for another man lol.
I'd think of those insults as a wake up call if I was in your shoes, why haven't I got a girl, what am I doing wrong. I'd probably thank those people for making me change my ways and be more successful, but I wouldn't thank them to their face.
Not really, but I did mean the bit about taking it as a wake up call.
It sounds like you are siding with the people who go around calling nearly everyone a f**ot? It could be a motivator in sports, where being called a name would give you extra energy to hit a grand slam home run in baseball, but on the street it's very dangerious for all those involved. It seems nearly everyone gets called names, which is a sign that maybe things are just too competitive.
People like that don't deserve the satisfaction of a reply, positive or negative. You could've easily just ignored them.
Wow that was f***ed up I might add. Calling you a Homo, probably cause of your hair. If it was me, since I do have rage problems, after being depressed for an entire year, I would have probably did something I would regret. I do have alot of Mental and Emotional issues, and I am not stable. I am however getting control over my rage one by one, but I still snap even when I didn't mean to, when I am angry or upset. I guess you did the right thing, and didn't back down. They didn't know you were going to say that. As you seen they didn't come to your request and that proves, they can't back up what they say about people, because they are nothing but cowards. You did the right thing and that is a good thing. Don't worry about it. If they start up again, just don't say anything. They did nothing the first time, so I think they will just do the same thing again if you do.
said in sassy voice
"why, are you 3 nice Boys looking for a date?"
sorry LOL i have a weird sense of humor
I'd either have said "what y' gonna do about it?" or, more than likely just ignored them. (This same thing happened to me not so long ago only it was walking through town, no outside my house) They're not worth it. As long as you are confident and *you* alone are confident in yourself then just sod what other people think.
Glad you handled it so well. I'd probably end up being beat up if I said anything.
Ignoring them is usually the best option. Maybe capturing it on video/sound recording can be a way to do something and make it fun. Having the evidence could help if legal matters develop.
Like vincent in the other post said, "religious affiliation means nothing as you noticed...."
Also, people with short hair get called names, and the same with people who are tall, short, fat, skinny, black, white, conservative, liberal, pro-choice, pro-life, rich, poor, middle income, etc.
I'm sorry if my post was misinterpreted as encouraging name calling. I ment to explain that it seems these days everyone is called the fa**ot word. Even normal or "boring" people get called names. It's probably related to the gay marriage thing being pushed in nearly every commercial and political media source. It's not because of having long hair. Short haired people get called a fa**ot to, especially in the USA.
