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I just spent two weeks on the University of Florida campus where I am working on a Phd. I was sitting in the library at a computer one morning, and a woman whom I do not know came up to me and said: you have beautiful hair. To which, I offered: thank you. And then she said: and it's a great color, too! To which I said: well, it's the color that I grow.
I smiled throughout. It was an unexpected, charming event in the library. I am 44 and have been told that I don't look it, in part I suspect to my hair. I have no gray yet, and my hair is blond-brown and mid back length. I do have a little recession at the temples, but I don't think it is significantly distracting from my hair.
So, she departs, and about 10 yards away, now almost shouting (in the library) she says: And keep growing it as long as you can!
I waved. I did wonder if she was referring to the recession at the temples, or to the likelihood that a man would not be allowed to work anywhere with hair my length, or . . . who knows.
I finally just decided it was a delightful experience. Period. And, I noticed quite a few men, from young to my age and older with quite long hair. It was great.
Robert
Awesome! In what field of study are you pursuing your Ph.D?
Latin and Roman Studies. I am currently working on some material regarding the "sacred groves" of ancient Rome and how they functioned in certain pieces of literature.
Cool, I take Latin too, at McGill in Montreal. I've done stuff like Suetonius (Tiberius' biography), and Pliny, and some others. But to be honest, my studies in political science are overtaking it, and classics is just my minor now. So no classics PhD for me ;)
As well, our classics department is not as big as it should be for our university, one of the biggest schools in Canada-not to mention getting integrated into the history department for administrative purposes :(
Benefactum et gratulationes tibi pro studiis Latinis!
Your story is typcial at universities until the plebians rise up and demand equal treatment. Good luck with your studies.
Robert
Hello Robert,
My guess is that her words were an exhortation to grow for terminal. Your fun encounter is a great reminder that it can be much more satisfying for both people when a compliment is issued rather than silent admiration.
Elizabeth
Your fun encounter is a great reminder that it can be much more satisfying for both people when a compliment is issued rather than silent admiration.
Yes, it is! And I am one of those silent admirers most of the time. I should take the example.
Robert
