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As many of you may know, I've been in a deep depression for the past two months or so. Especially the last month. I rarely leave the house or even manage to get myself out of bed most of the time.
I know it has to really be tough on my dog too. He's an English Bulldog and is very social. Unfortunately, he hasn't had much lately, and goodness knows I haven't been good company.
Well, today I'm going to go out. I'm taking him to Petsmart, one of his favorite places. We'll hang out there for a bit. I'll buy him some treats and stuff.
To remain on topic, let me add that I will be picking up some hair care products while I'm out. My hair is an absolute mess right now. It looks horrible. It's bad enough I lost 7 inches of it last month, and to top it off, I have done nothing to it. So I'll be out getting some products for it.
I'll need to make my hair look decent tonight. I plan to go out to a place a friend of mine recommended. Maybe I'll get lucky and find a nice lady to dance and talk with.
I never realized just how tough losing a relationship could be. Moving ahead and moving on has been a losing battle so far.
Oh, and to Victor - I'm up for a meeting, be it lunch, coffee, whatever - whenever and wherever you please. Maybe you can help get me a real social life here in Austin!
Yeah!
Go for it :)
I think there's no better plan than hanging out with your best friend for a while. Plus, making him happy by taking him to his favourite place will most likely rub off on you and make you feel good.
I find my wee pup's reaction, when I tell him what a good boy he is, is usually enough to bring a grin to my face, if not make me laugh.
Have a good day!
wolfeyes
Thanks for the note. Your posts and replies to me have always been warm hearted and friendly. I sinncerely thank you for all of your replies. They do help.
Thanks, Wolf!
Glad to hear you are taking some steps (any steps--no matter how small--will make you feel better) to climb out of the pit
you've tumbled into.
Don't be hard on yourself. Remind yourself frequently, that time
is necessary to do some serious healing.
Losing a partner (for whatever reasons) is almost like having your soul sliced in half.
Sometimes starting a new relationship can 'patch things up' nicely...
but at other times, the wound has to close on its own.
Well, at least you have 'man's best friend' by your side to help ease the transition from the way things were...
to the new way things WILL be.
So keep on taking those steps--whether big or small--and
know that you have the support of all here.
Good Luck on Life's Journey!
Thnaks for the post and the words of encouragement. I am doing the very best I can under the circumstances.
Your statement about the soul being sliced in half is really good. It's the way I feel. Very strong words, and they have a lot of meaning.
I do know that things will be different, and maybe even better. For now, they're different and worse.
Right now it's just hard because there really is no one there for me. I do have one friend I can talk to, but she's long distance and I feel bad by taking up her time to talk about me.
For that matter, I sometimes feel like it's crazy for me to even post this stuff here. But sometimes I just have to vent a bit.
Thanks for the reply!
And that's all one can do. Anyone in the world.
Words Of "Luckskind." And he is ALWAYS helpful and to be counted on for support.
While in the middle of such a horror, it seems like it will never end. Sheer Hell. I have been there myself. Just know that this isn't forever.................but oh, while in the middle of it. Terrible.
Yes, especially hard with no one to talk to. I do hope you have seen or are to seek-out a Dr. to talk to which can many times be very helpful.
You're presently in an awful trapped state. Vent as you need to...............it is the most healthy. I cannot speak for all the other guys on this site, but most are so easy to talk to, and they are always wanting encourgement for a Longhair..........even if it doesn't have to do with hair all the time.
My best to you as you struggle to free yourself. Never fear........there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. Such is life.
This advice of Luckskind is the best ever.....and as always he is able to put into words thoughts ever so well. Unless you have been there yourself in a situation such as yours, no one knows the horror of it all. I DO hope you are seeing a Dr.
But for now..........."Baby Steps" one at a time.
I am so sorry that you are in such suffering.............it is the WORST kind of suffering for a Human to endure. I myself was once told this by a Dr. and the "ailment" cannot even be seen.
Just let it be known, time WILL heal. But oh.....the agony of what you are going through now.
Justin~
I just want to start off by saying I love you man, and you have some great friends and supporters here at the board. You sound to me like you are getting deeper into your depression, and I have been there too as you know. Going out will really help you, and animals are great for Anti-Depression. Well my past few weeks haven't been that good either. My dog, Kono can't ever come in or around my house anymore (Thanks Mom) He is at my old friend Ben's house in my old neighborhood and I don't know if I will ever see Kono again :( I haven't seen any girls in my new neighborhood and I only have 1 friend over here which sux and My best friend O'landtha I haven't seen eversince I moved here. I hope I see both Kono and O'landtha soon (My two best friends) I do manage to stay happy though even when my old friends are on my mind.
You are a great guy, and don't think I am fruity for saying I love you, because I'm not lol. I just want you to know I will always be your friend, and I will help you as much as I can through your hard times. Stay longhair and keep Rocking
Your Cherokee Friend,
"Insane" Dwayne
Thanks for the note. It's not fruity at all. In fact, reading your posts specifically over the past few weeks shows me that in a way we are connected. Like you, I'm of Cherokee descent (my grandmother was full-blooded Cherokee).
As for my depression, the days have been unusual to say the least. One day I'm very angry. The next I'm content. The next I'm sad and spend the day crying. The next may be a mix of all three. There's no steadiness or consistency in my life right now at all. That makes it even worse.
As for you, I hope things improve. I hope you are able to see those you want to see as often as you like, and very soon. I know how you feel. Having relocated, I have no social network right now. I didn't realize just how my entire life was wrapped around my relationship.
One thing will not change...and that's me being a longhair. I can assure you of that. Having recently lost seven inches was traumatic enough. I refuse to go any shorter and can't wait until it all comes back.
Thanks for the note. It is appreciated.
Hey, seems like you're bouncing back up. Having hope and being able to care for yourself/others are very good signs so keep them up! And remember: have fun!
Love,
Kiat
I am sorry to hear about your loss of 7" of hair and your
depressed state of mind. I think and hope that you will soon
recover from both.
I'd like to hear that you are getting back into the music mode (nothing better for a longhaired rokker).
You might find these links useful.
http://www.ci.austin.tx.us/parks/dogparks.htm
http://austin.about.com/cs/pets/a/leashfreeparks.htm
I take my dog to a dogpark and it's the best thing for both of us to get out of the house and have a good time. Your dog will love you for it and it's a good way to socialize with some new people and get some exercise too.
Yeah, I need to hook up with some musicians and see where it goes from there. It's been many years since I was actively in a band or anything.
In fact, historically I've been able to overcome any feeling of the blues (though what I have now makes the blues look like good times) by writing songs. I can't even seem to do that.
I'm in the middle of writing a book, and it's completely on hold as well. I have absolutely ZERO creativity right now.
Thanks for the info on the parks. I took my dog to a park yesterday. I wasn't aware of all these parks, so thanks for the link. I added it to my favorites. The first link is great, with map links and everything right there.
Thanks for the post!
